AIBU to be disappointed about this?

[mrsm43s]

Later this week, on my birthday, we're doing a long train journey to visit friends for a few days. Whenever we do these long journeys, we always book them over lunchtime, and do a "train picnic" of nice food e.g afternoon tea style and share some prosecco or anti pasta style and share some red. It means that our trip starts when we get in the train, and the journey flies by.

DH booked the train tickets, and he just accepted the default seating rather than selecting seats, and as a consequence we're stuck on a middle and aisle seat with no table. So lunch is pretty much going to be a sarnie and a bottle of water as there's no table space, the journey is going to be long, boring and uncomfortable, squashed in next to a stranger.

We've tried to change seats now, but as it's a couple of days away, there's no availability of seats at a table, and no availability in first class either.

I feel like instead of my birthday starting at 11.30am once we're on the train, it's not going to start until 3pm when we arrive, and the journey is something to be tolerated, rather than something to be enjoyed.

I don't want to be spoilt, and I get that I'm going to have a lovely time with my friends, but I'm really grumpy and disappointed. I think it's mostly because DH has form for this kind of stuff, always taking the quick, easy way, and never checking anything.

AIBU to be pissed off? And does anyone have any ideas of how to make the journey more fun, or special/treat lunch ideas possible to eat when sitting in a cramped middle seat?

Have a good birthday op x

I've made it clear we are fully contained (including our elbows) in our seats and our half of the table. The only way my elbows or leaning will bother you is if you're encroaching on my half of the table, in which case, I respectfully suggest you be a bit more considerate and move back to your own side.

Are we reading the same thread?

Since when is some picky bits from M&S an elaborate picnic?

Your time would be better spent reflecting on how odd it is to tell a stranger she's eating lunch wrong because she's not eating a sandwich but actually enjoying her food!

Good grief 😂 This is so OTT. You're not going on for a week on the Orient Express! Why not scale it back a bit? Just choose one or two things you really like and a Pimms in a can.
That actually sounds like an uncomfortable amount of food between just two people anyway, and once you've got things open there's the whole issue trying to balance it all, oily spills etc.

Never claimed that. I make normal, acceptable sounds, just like everyone else. I'm not CHOMPING, GULPING, SLURPING. I'm just eating quietly and politely with good table manners in my own space.

Olives, figs, salamis, fancy bread, “platters” of mixed meats and cheeses, crisps, vine tomatoes, bottles of wine, I can’t even remember the rest. That is a little elaborate for a train journey. I give up though, I’m starting to be taken out of context. I shall go away and reflect as instructed 🙄

All you said? Really?!! That's not quite true now, is it 😂

How many times have you posted on this thread?

I really don't see how leaning over a tiny Standard Class train table to reach an olive needs some objectionably elaborate lunge.

Why do you think it's up to you to dictate what I choose to have for lunch? Controlling much?

It's a few nibbles from M&S at the station! So meat, cheese, a bread roll. Some fruit or veg, and maybe some olives!

I think you're underestimating how much of the table you occupy.
I also think I'd ignore anyone tell me what to do, if they've set up a noisy, smelly, picnic next to me on a busy train.
Are you actually on a wind up?

It's all I've said in relation to eating OPs claim about eating noises, yes.

Chomping, gulping, slurping are normal eating noises, especially with the foods you list. 🫣

Brilliant! Because you have got nowhere suggesting the OP shouldn't do what she is perfectly entitled to do, you resort to calling her a liar.

Yeah, but he is, and has a history of stuff like this.

Typo on flight booking that cost us to rectify, expired EHICS that he was meant to have checked, fucking up registering the extended warranty on an appliance so it wasn't valid, bank charges because he made a big purchase from the wrong account. There's a long, long list of minor, but annoying mistakes, all completely preventable by taking a bit of care and checking.

Judging by OPs replies, I most definitely can.

People pointing out other perspectives are not controlling though OP? Do you always overreact to non-issues?

Yes, normal eating noises, so perfectly normal on a train where you are permitted and encouraged to eat

No they're not. I eat without chomping, swallow without gulping, drink without slurping. Normal people with good manners (of which I'm one) eat without making excessive noise.

What, like posting 50 times on a thread about eating lunch on a train?

Um, you think 'I've got nowhere.
That's another 'just your opinion".
OP probably doesn't realise how annoying she's actually being, including to her partner. 🫣

Bye Beth.
🤢

Do you always call people goady when they don't indulge you?
This is such a non-issue.
Apparently I've got issues but you've started a thread, upset over a train seat/table. 🫣

I think if that’s the case you should take over important things like that, especially if it bothers you a lot and it really matters to you that you book the correct seats for your birthday. He sounds like he has inattentive ADHD or something. I’d be making all the important bookings.