I have trouble with the issue of terminating pregnancies.
For context I had 5 miscarriages & 1 baby born 'sleeping' at 29 weeks.
Also 2 of my (3) husbands were adopted-well DH's mother was adopted in the 1920's. The point is if abortion was available in 1963 & 1926 neither of them would have existed. Their childless mothers wouldn't have had babies to love & care for.
If my first husband had been aborted my lovely son wouldn't exist. He killed himself at the age of 32 leaving me with a baby. But at least I had my baby which was part of him.
If my DH's mother had been aborted my 3 lovely step children & 7 gorgeous grandchildren wouldn't be here. Both of my step sons served in the Royal Navy - one in special forces & got his Green (Marine) beret. My Step daughter is a nurse & worked in A&E for many years, is now a Matron. She has saved many lives & made a difference to many other people's lives including taking unpaid leave to be there when her grandmother was dying.
But then I understand why some people do it.
I can particularly understand it if the woman has been abused or raped - who would want to bring their abuser's or rapist's child into the world. I get that.
I just wish that they would think about having their unwanted baby adopted so that someone who can't have a baby can love & care for it.
My heart goes out to those with an unwanted pregnancy & facing this.
I don't know what I'd do to be honest.
I have no doubt that most women terminate a pregnancy after much heart searching & grief. However, I also hear about women who are terminating their 3rd or more pregnancies & using it as a method of birth control.
So brings me around to AIBU to ask if people terminate a pregnancy number 3 or 4 are being unreasonable?
Or not.
Just canvassing opinions.