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Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

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Hattie24 · 04/07/2025 23:35

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

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Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 10:15

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TheGrimSmile · 06/07/2025 10:23

Think that photo is the least of your problems

Gloriia · 06/07/2025 10:25

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When you know you are losing an attempt to debate, resort to mockery. 'Yackety yack' sounds bit misogynistic tbh.

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 10:27

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aquadog · 06/07/2025 10:39

What a revolting man. If you stay with him, your reputation will indeed be marked as the pathetic woman who stayed with a man despite him cheating on her with prostitutes. If you walk away and leave him to fight his own battles, your reputation is not ruined at all. Be a bit stronger, stop trying to protect your yucky husband. And maybe don't call the woman who posted it 'a cow' - makes you look sort of gross, too.

Soontobe60 · 06/07/2025 10:54

Velmy · 05/07/2025 11:52

Well the women making an absolute killing rinsing guys clearly don't think it's disgusting. Obviously there are women still being forced into it, and women doing it because they feel like they have no other choice, and that's awful and needs to be dealt with.

But there are plenty of empowered female sex workers who'd disagree with you. They're making the decision as to what's "bought or sold", they're setting the rules and the boundaries. Who are you or I to tell them they're fueling misogyny? And already you've assumed that it's 'their' body. Are we saying if a bloke wants to pay a sex worker to tie him up and spank or peg him or be made to put a pink dress and marigolds on to scrub the floor, that's less 'disgusting' because it's not the woman's body 'for sale'?

I think assuming that we have the moral authority to deny a woman the agency to do what she wants with her body is pretty misogynistic, personally.

Oh dear… tell me, would you be ok with your daughter being paid by hundreds of men to abuse her body? Do you honestly think this is legitimate work? I for one don’t think men should be able to buy access to a woman / girl / man /boy in order to satisfy their sexual proclivities. It’s NEVER an equal transaction, it’s NEVER ‘empowering’ for women, it’s NEVER an acceptable career choice.

Whammyyammy · 06/07/2025 10:54

So your husband has sex with prostitutes, and you're more concerned about the photo of him on FB, attending said prostitutes flat?

DaisyChain505 · 06/07/2025 11:04

Hattie24 · 05/07/2025 10:59

We do still have love for each other, he’s a decent man deep down.

Decent men don’t pay for sex.

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 11:06

Soontobe60 · 06/07/2025 10:54

Oh dear… tell me, would you be ok with your daughter being paid by hundreds of men to abuse her body? Do you honestly think this is legitimate work? I for one don’t think men should be able to buy access to a woman / girl / man /boy in order to satisfy their sexual proclivities. It’s NEVER an equal transaction, it’s NEVER ‘empowering’ for women, it’s NEVER an acceptable career choice.

It's actually incredibly fortunate for every unemployed person that it's not, in fact, a job whatever misogynists try to pretend. "Sex work" is not a neutral term, it was invented by pimps and those who make money out of people in the sex trade in an attempt to minimise the horrors of what goes on in the industry.

Let us for a moment put aside the reality that you can't unionise if you're a prostitute, that you cannot use PPE and that the entire point of prostitution is to allow men to harm you and that prostitution in no way fits the critera for work (for the most part it is men who use prostitutes which is why I stated it that way).

Let us also put aside the reality that it's not the oldest anything, let alone profession, as that comment was made by a misogynistic fiction writer in 1889, a man well known for being a racist who is normally shunned by the sort of people who quote his fictional comment regularly.

If prostitution WAS actually a job, all unemployed people who have mutual obligations to meet would have to apply for those positions to fulfill their claimant commitments.

There'd be no getting out of it, in order to claim dole money you would have to apply for prostitute jobs if you couldn't get anything else. Because anyone at all can be a prostitute - young, old, disabled, mentally ill - there are vicious, degraded men who would abuse every single type of person imaginable. If it was actually a real job there would be no way of getting out of applying for those positions to meet the wants of abusive men.

Nobody thinks it's work, not really. Misogynists will sometimes pretend otherwise, however. And you're right, there are no middle class parents hoping that Phoebe and Jasper grow up to be prostitutes.

And as the demand for prostitutes always grows with supply, so it would soon become the number one industry in the country, if it was actually proper work with all those unemployed people having to line up for interviews.

So, honestly, thank God it's not an actual job.

Huhuhuhu39272 · 06/07/2025 11:13

Wow
Filthy pig

I wouldn’t care atp, certainly wouldn’t be worried about legalities of this man being caught for the world to see

Bet the girls aren’t even there through choice either

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Hereforthechat79 · 06/07/2025 11:58

Inyournewdress · 05/07/2025 18:09

Doesn’t she? I’m starting to get a sense of how OP and hubby ended up together.

What a hateful comment, the OP doesn’t deserve that and neither does her partner until there is evidence that he was using that service. Who are you all to act as Judge, jury and executioner on a potentially innocent persons life. That’s why have trials in this country.

amazes amount of people on here condemning without knowing full story yet bit supportive of outing a convicted paedophile in their area.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/07/2025 11:59

Even the OP isn’t completely sure of her husband’s innocence, @Hereforthechat79.

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Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 12:08

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/07/2025 11:59

Even the OP isn’t completely sure of her husband’s innocence, @Hereforthechat79.

I'd go so far as to say she knows full well what he's been doing, having read all her responses. She couldn't care less about the fact that he's a prostitute user she just doesn't want anyone talking about.

Whammyyammy · 06/07/2025 12:14

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 12:08

I'd go so far as to say she knows full well what he's been doing, having read all her responses. She couldn't care less about the fact that he's a prostitute user she just doesn't want anyone talking about.

Hit the nail on the head. Her husband is paying to have sex with prostitutes and is not bothered, she just doesn't want the neighbours knowing.
Disgusting pig of a man.

NoelFaraday · 06/07/2025 12:15

The only thing you should be taking from this is an incentive to end the relationship permanently and move on.

Fargo79 · 06/07/2025 12:19

rwalker · 06/07/2025 09:46

Which again doesn’t prove anything who they went to and what for

hats off to the woman for trying to do something but you needed to do it right
rather than drag people into that you only presume and think they’ve been to a prostitute rather than know

I was purely pointing out your choice to misrepresent what that PP had said. But nice attempt at moving the narrative on quickly.

Gloriia · 06/07/2025 12:20

Hereforthechat79 · 06/07/2025 11:58

What a hateful comment, the OP doesn’t deserve that and neither does her partner until there is evidence that he was using that service. Who are you all to act as Judge, jury and executioner on a potentially innocent persons life. That’s why have trials in this country.

amazes amount of people on here condemning without knowing full story yet bit supportive of outing a convicted paedophile in their area.

Yes it is odd that some posters can't see 2 separate issues.

Using sex workers is wrong but equalliy so is accusing people on Facebook and posting their image.

Hereforthechat79 · 06/07/2025 12:20

EggnogNoggin · 05/07/2025 12:09

Well go and fuck your husband and get your marriage back on track.

Ikea do really big rugs, might be handy for sweeping things underneath.

Absolutely vile comment. You sound like a misogynist, the sort of people you are trying to condemn on here but it’s not coming across well

Hereforthechat79 · 06/07/2025 12:25

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/07/2025 11:59

Even the OP isn’t completely sure of her husband’s innocence, @Hereforthechat79.

Yes aware of that but it feels like a witch hunt on here towards the OP who I’m sure is devastated and although unlikely he is innocent no one here knows for sure and are just saying he did it. What if he’s not?

Hereforthechat79 · 06/07/2025 12:27

Whammyyammy · 06/07/2025 12:14

Hit the nail on the head. Her husband is paying to have sex with prostitutes and is not bothered, she just doesn't want the neighbours knowing.
Disgusting pig of a man.

Condemn before hearing the facts. What a mess our justice system would be in if Mumsnet were in charge of the courts. 🤣

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 12:27

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Hereforthechat79 · 06/07/2025 12:28

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 12:08

I'd go so far as to say she knows full well what he's been doing, having read all her responses. She couldn't care less about the fact that he's a prostitute user she just doesn't want anyone talking about.

Condemn before hearing the facts. What a mess our justice system would be in if Mumsnet were in charge of the courts. 🤣

Boddica2000 · 06/07/2025 12:32

Whammyyammy · 06/07/2025 12:14

Hit the nail on the head. Her husband is paying to have sex with prostitutes and is not bothered, she just doesn't want the neighbours knowing.
Disgusting pig of a man.

Yep. I am so pleased that there is nothing she can do about facebook woman outing these dangerous men. She just doesn't want people gossiping about her awful husband.

Unfortunately, internalised misogyny is strong on mumsnet, and there will always be women who turn themselves into a pretzels trying to pretend that abusive, harmful men might just be poor innocent souls.

The reality is that even if they're innocent (and reality says no, they're not) nothing whatsoever will happen to any of the men photographed. Literally nothing, except their families might put a stop to their abuses or ditch them - which is the correct outcome.

The other reality is that there will be no legal action at all. The men will just find another brothel.