Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

[Hattie24]

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

I think you're correct when you say the damage has already been done.

If I saw a post like this of someone I knew, I would look, I would judge, I would feel very sorry for the wife but I would never ever let on to her/them that I had seen it.

He has also offered for me to review his bank account for any cash withdrawals which he tells me I won’t find - and he certainly isn’t financially savvy enough to have any hidden accounts.

I am starting to wonder if I should find the partner of the snooping cow who put the post up and photograph him somewhere ‘dodgy’ and post it on FB! See how she likes it.

yep, report the post to facebook and tell them to take it down.

I imagine he is savvy enough to have a second account. Personally I would knock on the door of this flat and find out.

apparently there is a group of 3/4 which changes every fortnight and they all claim to have limited English.

That very much points to sex trafficking 😢

My husband says the physio session was with a teammate who does this on the side as a favour for the team manager so there is no evidence in terms of a booking. However he says this team mate will vouch for him.

I'm sure he will! 😆

Oh OP. You are fascinating.

How does he claim he paid the physio? Or the team mate does it for free? Make sure the confirmation from the team mate includes proof that he is a qualified physio, and that he lives at that address.

Snooping cow? Yeah, OK op, whatever. Nice bit of misogyny there on top of everything else.

This is actually a really difficult topic. Someone took a photo of my ex in his work uniform out in public. It was then sold to a stock website and newspaper articles used it when writing articles about that company when it was involved in controversy. Insinuating it was him in the article pretty much due to the photo in work uniform etc and the articles weren’t very nice. He was just a low down employee with nothing to do with the controversy. The photo would be posted saying “x company employee worker” under as a caption but it didn’t matter because his face was everywhere.

The stock website refused to take it down and we even sought legal advice and there really wasn’t too much they could do even though it definitely caused harm. Eventually an ICO complaint took it down. But it was an absolute ball ache and all of those newspaper articles with that photo are still up. You can do pretty much what you want with a photo of anyone taken publicly and it’ll take you lots of money to fight it otherwise as we learnt the hard way.

It all sounds dodgy to me.
A physio session at the same location as sex workers.
No audit trail, but he's likely to have other accounts OP can't check.
The physio is a mate.
The physio will message.

Nothing adds up.

It's HIS fault.

What are the repercussions for the family? A bit of unkind teasing? Financial loss? Loss of house?

It's for him to deal with the legality of the situation. It's for you to act with your new knowledge of who he is. Feelings of humiliation are a bit beside the point here - the truth usually gets out in the end so it would have come out sooner or later and now it's out. Your main feeling should be regret that you are still married to a man who uses prostitutes. Sort that problem out without wasting your energy on the neighbours or what they think. His behaviour is not your fault so feel free to reject those feelings of humiliation.

Snooping Cow?? You mean the woman who can't live peacefully or feel safe in her own home due to sleazy men hanging around to pay (possibly trafficked women) for sex?

You say your husband is now staying out at night after the pub, so how would you feel if men were hanging around your doorstep on those nights you're home alone?

Your anger is very, very, misplaced.

I'm so confused about why this is humiliating for you OP?
Unless you're planning on staying with him and you don't want people to know that you've made the conscious decision to stay with a disgusting weasel of a man.
Is that it?

Oh dear - in other words, your husband and his mate are busy concocting their stories!

Yes, I understand, and that's awful. My point was about the default MN response to any mention of the term Sex Worker being to assume the absolute worst possible scenario.

Not every visit to a sex worker is some "disgusting" at the PP put it, seedy act in a Travellodge.

Why is it that you think he’s innocent? As we’ve pointed out, it’s easily proved - go to his mates flat!

Maybe not, but EVERY visit where someone is paying someone else to use their body IS disgusting. The fact that some men think that women’s bodies can be bought or sold is the ultimate example of misogyny.

What a twist it would be if the Physio thing is legit and the neighborhood busy body has incorrectly outed a load of poor blokes trying to get their hips and shoulders moving at a home clinic! 🤣

We don't know what is true and what isn't.

People should not post pictures on FB of anyone that they've decided are up to no good.

What next the local supersleuth decides someone is a paedophile so posts their picture?!

You are completely out of order now. Calling her a "snooping cow" because she doesn't like men coming and going using prostitutes.

That’s certainly one word for what she is. 🤣

OP, it sounds like you and this vile man deserve each other.

She is a snooping cow who posted images of men without any evidence to accuse them of wrong doing. Someone in the FB comments asked her if she was just jealous she isn’t getting any!

You sound nice.

Trafficking exactly!

you should be reporting to the police instead of faffing about with fake physio appointments