Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

[Hattie24]

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

Your disgust and scorn is being directed the wrong way.

It should be 100% on the man who is cheating on you, putting his own and possibly your health at risk and chucking family money away on emptying his balls into the bought bodies of possibly trafficked and abused women.

Wake up.

How will you know he's a real physio? Not just a mate covering for him? He's taking you for a mug!

And you are going to fall for that?

That’s the realisation this has made you come to?

Christ alive.

Really?

I've seen numerous private physios over the years, and every single one of them has worked out of a treatment room rented for the purpose or a clinic, not from their house.

I think I'd be asking for the physio's number, I'm sure you have an ache or pain somewhere that could benefit from a bit of physio.

Yes, what you may or may not be able to do legally will almost entirely depend on whether this is true or not, so I’d be focussing on your DH and his “physio session” rather than what’s on Facebook.

Honestly though why don’t you take the line that what he does in his free time is his business? Most sensible people take everything online with a large pinch of salt anyway, so I really can’t think that the repercussions to you will be that serious.

A huge coincidence that a physio friend lives in the flat as a brothel is being ran from. So there is no official booking.

I’d be googling the block of flats and looking for such physio company/person running.

Bet on it not existing… oh well he does it at home after hours cheaper… yeah ok and I’m the queen.

Also it’s his job to be mad about it. Not yours as the possible ex / separated. He doesn’t seem that fussed so I’d stop giving it head space on Facebook and just separate properly.

This. The rights and wrongs of sex workers and their alleged customers is one thing, posting pictures of people who may or not be customers is another.

This is surely malicious and harassment?

Report to FB and the police.

Whatever is going in your relationship is up to you but vigilante behaviour is illegal.

Even if he comes up with ‘proof’ do you actually believe him? will your friends, family and co workers?
If you’ve been separated for a year then neither of you are really that bothered about the relationship.

It'll go like this...
"Hi Hattie24 this is Steve/ Gary/Mike from rugby. Mr Hattie24 had a session last 'whenever' at 'whatever time'. Hope that clears up the confusion"
You " Thanks Steve/ Gary/ Mike it's brilliant that you can help the team with physio. Can I ask when you qualified?"
" Oh I did the course but dropped out before the exams. You know how it is too much beer .....blah blah"
You know its all bullshit

We do still have love for each other, he’s a decent man deep down.

No, he’s not.

There used to be a prostitute working out of a flat not far from where I live. The flats were at the bottom of a quiet cul-de-sac, and all the residents were utterly pissed off with the number of cars arriving and leaving, and punters sitting in parked cars while they waited for their appointment.

She was a council tenant, and the council were seriously considering evicting her, but she moved away anyway.

I'm sorry you are going through this.
Could you not contact the club and ask them for the physios details? (Name, address, contact no, email address etc). Cut out the middle man (your husband) so to speak? 🤔

Then ask to book an appointment for yourself as you have a sore back?

Google would help here also as physios are usually online and have customer reviews, as Physios have accredations, so they have to be legit and professional.
Don't let this "it's sorted through a pal from work' schtick fob you off from seeking the truth. 😟

Please remember, that he's brought shame to your family.
Him and his his behaviour.
No-one else did that.
That facebook lady was only a messenger. She exposed ALL those men.
Don't shoot the messenger.

I think you already know the truth deep down.
As for giving it another go or separating permanently, that's up to you.

I hope you're okay. Hugs to you 🫂

" You can love someone without needing to have them back "

OP he really isn’t. You have terribly low standards

I’m an admin for our local Facebook page and we don’t allow posts like this whether it be kids faces or adults as some people just get it way wrong, there is even a case of a man being murdered (mistaken identity) due to a post like this in the past. Contact the admins and ask them to remove the post (they are able to do this).

You're a mug.
The whole physio thing is a lie.
Your husband is paying trafficked women for sex.
And you're worried about your reputation rather than their welfare.

You’ve been separated and not had sex for over a year and he uses prostitutes. Yet the women in the post is somehow ‘utterly disgusting’ and he’s a ‘decent man deep down’?

How deep, OP? And how low are your standards? Do you even have any, at this point? Christ.

So, from the OP, this lady has claimed that a flat is being used by prostitutes. She has also put up pictures of men at the entrance to the block.

As far as I can tell from the OP, she has neither claimed nor insinuated that any particular man is either visiting the particular flat or using prostitutes. Indeed it is likely that many men enter the block because they live there or have various business there (a PP mentioned plumbing). So good luck with the defamation claim.

It is you who has inferred that your husband is there because he is visiting the prostitutes.

If he was a decent man then it wouldn’t have to be found “deep down”. It should be front and centre of who he is. He's spinning you a web of lies - if it was a real physio he’d be pulling the business card out of his wallet, or immediately showing you legit text messages or emails showing the booking process and the address of the office. The fact he doesn’t have anything like this suggests he’s not in fact been seeing a physio at that address. That he isn’t frantic to show you it’s all above board is screaming red flags.

I personally couldn't be with someone who pays for sex. The lady should take down the post and raise her concerns with the appropriate people.

One might say it serves him right, and presumably he will stop using this particular venue.

As for the efffect on others, well that's also his responsibility.

This.
He is treating women's bodies like a commodity and actively participating in something that is a direct result of the oppression of women in our patriarchal society.

He deserves to be shamed. I would be disgusted in him, you have nothing to be embarrassed for OP, other than excusing his behaviour.