Photo of husband posted on Facebook group with allegation - legalities?

[Hattie24]

Earlier I was alerted to a post by a woman on our town’s community Facebook page. It is a rant about a flat in her block being used by a group of prostitutes which is causing issues at unsociable hours and how the landlord isn’t doing anything about it. Under this there are photos of various men at the entrance of the block of flats and one of them is my husband. The insinuation is that these have all been visiting that flat.

I want to know the legalities of this woman posting such an allegation as she is outright refusing to remove the post. It is obviously extremely humiliating for me (friends and no doubt colleagues have seen it) and there’s so many comments underneath. We’ve been on a ‘break’ due to various issues but still living together and haven’t been intimate for nearly a year so I don’t need a lecture on how I shouldn’t have married such a man.

Is it me or is someone putting up a post like this without any thought for the consequences on various families etc utterly disgusting?

It is not 'out of order'. The FB woman should not be judge and jury posting crap like this.

Disclaimer if he has been seeing sex workers that is a separate serious issue one the op can decide what she wants to do about.

However. Social media is not the place for posting serious accusations with actual photos!

Indeed. The world has gone mad with social media and given people a false sense of self importance.

That’s not how defamation law works. Innuendo is as actionable as saying things outright hence why Sally Bercow ended up paying Lord Macalpine a very large sum indeed for posting only the words “why is Lord McAlpine trending 😜”

Well the women making an absolute killing rinsing guys clearly don't think it's disgusting. Obviously there are women still being forced into it, and women doing it because they feel like they have no other choice, and that's awful and needs to be dealt with.

But there are plenty of empowered female sex workers who'd disagree with you. They're making the decision as to what's "bought or sold", they're setting the rules and the boundaries. Who are you or I to tell them they're fueling misogyny? And already you've assumed that it's 'their' body. Are we saying if a bloke wants to pay a sex worker to tie him up and spank or peg him or be made to put a pink dress and marigolds on to scrub the floor, that's less 'disgusting' because it's not the woman's body 'for sale'?

I think assuming that we have the moral authority to deny a woman the agency to do what she wants with her body is pretty misogynistic, personally.

Well i presume not sleeping with prostitutes may be up there in life's lessons that are good to know

Surely the actual issue is that you are not together and it's none of your business, really. You have no need or right to take on any of this shame.

You are taking your sad situation out on the wrong person.

He really isn't a "decent man". He has non-consensual sex with trafficked women, some of whom may well be under-age. Which bit of that is "decent"?

Why do you think she shouldn’t name and shame johns?

I really think your husband is the problem, sorry Op.

Erm, because there is room for error?

Do you think if you believe someone has done something wrong the best course of action is posting their picture on sm? There are laws about it you know.

Allegedly. According to a FB sherlock.

Sounds like you're determined to excuse him whatever anyone says OP. Are you honestly going to believe your DH's rugby mate vouching for him? C'mon. I should get an STI check if I was you.

I’m mortified for you.

I’m keeping an open mind at the moment. The more I’ve read of that women’s previous posts on the FB group, the more she does appear to be a ‘NIMBY’/karen, so I’d say it is plausible she has got this wrong.

What is the proof that these men are visiting prostitutes rather than hanging round outside for some other reason? Posting such a picture with this implication is libel and is also damaging to the men involved. How do you know they weren't there handing out leaflets on the Nordic model, or meeting for a drink at the local, or going to a party in some other flat? You don't. Nor does the woman. She is making a public allegation that can ruin families, cost people their jobs. That's irresponsible.
Agree that paying a woman to 'allow' you to rape her is disgusting btw.

Well you're not getting any either OP. Are you jealous of the women who your husband has been fucking?

They done this in Holbeck, posted pictures of punters online to deter them. It was fantastic.

Of course he did it. And he deserves it.

Very sorry for you as you’re in denial

It's only libel if it is not true. Truth is an absolute defence to defamation in the UK. If the men are not using prostitutes they can sue for libel.

And if they are using prostitutes then they have no reason to hide anything at all since obviously they think that's ok.

And if their families believe these men are degrading and harming them by using prostitutes they should throw these men out.

Anyway, the OP can very easily find out if it's true or not - she just has to go along to the "physio" with her husband and it will all be sorted out.

I said my husband and I haven’t been intimate for a while. You are assuming I’ve not been with anyone else.

Think the truth is his (potential) use of sex workers is clearly not a boundary crossed for OP, it suits her to be angry at this woman other than her husband. It suits her to believe some half arsed story and message from his ‘mate’ because that means she gets what she wants out of this whole scenario. Fair enough but if getting back with him is on the cards I’d be having regular STI checks.

We don't know he is fucking anyone. He might be, he might not be.

You can't go around accusing someone of all sorts and posting their photo, it is clear defamation. The FB poster sounds crazy.

Have you reported the post op and rang 101 to seek advice regarding malicious communication?

Aye right.

Sorry, agree with this.

Well go and fuck your husband and get your marriage back on track.

Ikea do really big rugs, might be handy for sweeping things underneath.

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