I went out last night without my partner for the first time in our 2 year relationship. I haven’t got any friends due to a past abusive relationship.
my partner goes out regularly and has many friends. He’s even gone out today after work and is expected home late.
it felt big for me to get invited out with my work colleagues because I don’t socialise unless it’s with my partner and people he knows.
He needed a lot of reassurance when I went out. I said I expected I’d have two drinks and be home by 8. I had four drinks and was home by 9.
i kept in touch while I was out and he seemed ok but did start asking if id be back to put my daughter to bed at 7.
he was very upset with me when i got home. I asked him to consider that I never go out and was only an hour later plus I’d told him what I was doing.
he said I’d also really upset my daughter by not being there.
I first tried to plead about the fact I don’t go out and I thought he could let me off but he kept on. I admit I did call him a 🍆 and shouted at him. I’m not proud of myself for that. He kept on having a go so I poured a wine and he said ‘of course you’re going to have another drink,’ he was drinking btw.
He wouldn’t back down and I said it reminds me a lot of the control I experienced in the past and in a moment on anger and being drunk, I took my engagement ring off.
He hasn’t spoken to me since and went off to London today. He texted me saying he didn’t appreciate me shouting or being called a 🍆 and that he’s right to be mad at me.
Am I being dense because. I can’t see what I did wrong besides lose my 💩 and call him a 🍆- which I have already apologised for.