So that's it... they're not women, so they should be praised for performing womanning and can be as fake as they like about it (even though you also said they often look "more feminine than actual women"). But women shouldn't be allowed to "normalise" this same womanning because it won't be fake enough when they do it, on account of their actually being women.
And, of course, they are "marginalised" more than women (do me a lemon, women have spent a decade being sacked, traduced, excluded from their spaces and gaslit if they didn't surrender to the erasure and demands of this "marginalisation"). So men get a free pass to do womanning and do it really well, but women who do the same womanning look masculine and ugly and are to blame for everything.
In other words, plain old sexism and male supremacist double standards where men can do what they like, and will always do it better than women. But women can't because they're women and there's the faintest chance they might marry one of the world's richest men.
Yep, you've got a handle on the ideology, but it's quite literally a load of old balls.