Do you think smoking weed every night is cause for concern?

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I didn't but since working in a job where we work closely with SS, I'm seeing it raised as a potential issue of children are present in the house.

For a bit of background, we have two kids 7 and 12. I don't smoke it anymore but my husband never really grew out of it!

He makes sure he hides it from the kids but the youngest has noticed that he smells of 'smokers' as our 7 yr old calls cigs, when he comes in.

I think the 12 yr old knows but doesn't care.

He works full time and rarely smokes in the day .

AIBU to think it's not so different from having a few beers in the evening (tbf he has those too)?

Yes it is a problem, as is drinking every night. Terrible habit to get into.

I suggest that the big worry is that he could be found to be under the influence when driving - and cannabis remains in the body for a long time

Every single night? So he's an addict. That in itself is worrying. Does he have mh issues and is trying to self medicate? He should talk to his GP about it. I wouldn't like it a bit. Can't stand the smell. Never tried it but I had a rough period when I drank too much beer so I do sympathise with him about how hard it can be to pull yourself together. But he needs to do that for his children.

For a start, buying cannabis encourages the county lines drug gangs. He puts money into the pockets of utter scumbags - men who use kids as mules, beat them up, and turn them into vicious little thugs.

Second, the drug itself is incredibly bad for you. Not only is it more carcinogenic than cigarettes, it can shatter your mental health. I have known people who were turned into depressed, anti-social, paranoid wrecks by cannabis. Maybe you can get away with smoking the odd joint on a trip to Amsterdam, but every day!! No, no. Any drug is going to mess up your mind if you use it every day.

Finally, it’s illegal. Call me old-fashioned, but shouldn’t we obey the law? Using drugs isn’t a victimless crime. Like any crime, whether it’s shoplifting or fraud or whatever, it has an impact. What we do (good as well as bad) has a ripple effect on the society in which we live.

It's really rare in most circles these days for families to be smoking and drinking every night.

Does he drive?
Therefore is he driving while under the influence?

Your kids teachers will know. They will probably smell like it just enough even though you don't smell it. You're noseblind.

And the reason your neighbours probably hate you us it stinks of weed.

It wouldn't go on your dsb sorry I wasn't clear there is another form where you have to say if anyone who lives in your family has had social services involvement or has a record.

Me too I just want to be able to sit in my garden and not get headache!

Because you can't buy weed legally so you fund dealers. Whatever your feelings about legalised cannabis it’s not so you can’t pop to the shops to get it.

This exactly !

I think if OP’s DH is using it to self medicate he should definitely look into getting it on prescription, I know a few people that have it prescribed in the UK already, you need to be referred by your GP.

Jotters and reading books going back to homes where adults smoke always come in stinking even when people are smoking outdoors?

What is he medicating? he is addicted and doesn't want to stop. Having children hasn't stopped him, and no one is making him stop.

As far as I understand,

GP prescriptions for cannabis are not easily obtained, and are only given once other pain reliefs are proven to be not effective.

picture this. Your child is a teenager and a friend is smoking weed. It smells like home to them, it smells like Dad so they happily join in. Same friend has some pills/ cocaine, illegal just like the weed but the weed is ‘harmless’ so what can it hurt?

this is why I quit. I smoked weed every day until I was pregnant and realised I never ever ever want my child to smell weed and think of home. It’s not harmless, it drains your potential and damages your brain and gives you anxiety if not worse mental health issues.

”All teens will try it at some point”

Well yes, I’d imagine the ones whose parents smoke it and have therefore normalised / minimised it absolutely will try it at some point.

The chances are significantly less if the parents don’t.

Would you say this to a parent that has a glass of wine at the end of a long day?

Picture this.

Your child comes home from a hard day at school. He sees his parents smiling and happy, relaxing with drinks in their hands. He sees this as home, and goes on to develop alcohol dependency as it is seen as a societal norm (which it very much is)

As to pills and cocaine- that’s a whole another ball game, and it’s not particularly relevant to any parents I know.

A lot of teens will, but not all.

Why do people who are pro weed always bang on about alcohol being worse? It’s so predictable

What if you want to go abroad on holiday? What does he do about his weed habit then

This is definitely not true, they can be given for a whole host of reasons (you can find the extensive list of eligible illnesses on the major providers website e.g. Releaf). They can only be given if your GP has tried different approaches and these haven’t worked so it is very restricted (as it should be).

Your child comes home from a hard day at school. He sees his parents smiling and happy, relaxing with drinks in their hands. He sees this as home, and goes on to develop alcohol dependency as it is seen as a societal norm (which it very much is)

I have said as much on here and been roasted for it. Debating this thing or that thing is almost irrelevant - depending on anything to manage your mood and not developing or using internal coping skills is a problem. And teaching that to your children is awful.

Not pro weed or particularly any form of drug, because let’s face it , alcohol, weed, and all the others; they’re all drugs, and have an impact on society. Dr Nutt I believe drew up an impact study on how each and all of these effects society- spoiler, alcohol has a MASSIVE impact.

But let’s clutch pearls instead.

Im anti hypocrisy, and hollow arguments, that’s all.

I have friends who smoke Weed occasionally and while I don't touch it myself I'm not militant about it either. But I wouldn't be comfortable with every evening, at all.

And there's no way your house doesn't smell of it, no matter what doors are closed.

Yes.

Your husband is addicted/dependent to at least one substance and you are enabling him.

Your husband is teaching your children that in order to cope with life, you seek substances to get through.

You are both letting your children down by allowing it to continue.