I’m probably being a prude but…

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…what is the deal with teenage girls running around basically naked these days?

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Then, I was on the beach today (we live near the sea) with my two primary school aged sons and there were a group of maybe 13-14 year old girls, they were very young, more than half of whom were in thong bikinis. They spent most of the time on the beach doing a photoshoot, predominantly photos of them from behind looking out to sea, presumably for social media?!

I know teenagers have always been teenagers, but I’m pretty sure underage girls weren’t wearing thong bikinis on the beach when I was that age 😳

I could see other families on the beach felt uncomfortable with it too.

Do their parents know? Is this just how teenagers dress these days?

😆and you sound plain dreadful.

I remember the whale tail - thong being visible with low rise jeans - but at least girls who wore those didn’t actually have their bums out.

Yes.

It's just bad (/lazy) parenting same as most things with the current generation. Parents that don't ever say no.

My kids don't go out with their arses out because I would never allow it. And because they have more self respect because I've actually explained to them why it's not a great idea and they'd be horrified to think about any rando boy or man looking at their arses.

'It's fashion' - this is one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. You seriously haven't noticed that social trends including fashion reflect agendas and ideologies?

The reason young women feel that they need to display what was private a decade ago is because the society that we now live in says men's sex thoughts (lol at your phrasing) should be prioritised above all else.

All women must be validated by male attention, and they will get more attention if they provide a sexualised visual environment for men's benefit.

It's not to have an all-over tan. In previous decades, no-one cared, and in fact the white bits were actually considered sexy in both sexes because they demonstrate the contrast.

Coming back to men's sex thoughts (still lolling) - these are best served when there is more arse on display, and more anal action implied by the string of the thong (bear in mind that anal was 25 years ago considered a specialist fetish - no longer, because porn).

It's really not. A thong leaves nothing to the imagination. Especially when they are very high cut in the front. Labia lips anyone? 🤢 We will then have people complain that people are looking at their young daughter fully out on display.

This weird pretence amongst some progressives that women's aren't seen as sexual beings to ordinary men. It's biology, it's nature.

Regular men, not predatory nor perverts, are attracted to (pretty, young) female flesh. Especially sexual parts of the body.

If females display flesh, there will be men who look. Probably some who will pleasure themselves to that later. That's just reality, and I don't think this will ever change. And biologically, once girls hit puberty and develop, they are naturally attractive to men.

We have been socialised not to look, and to differentiate between under and above age of 16/17/18 (depending on the AOC in that locale). But that's just socialisation, meaning men have to actively fight their natural instincts and desires.

Nobody is policing women, nor is anyone saying girls have to cover up with burkas. But conversely, they should know if they display flesh, especially intimate/sexual parts, there will be those who stare or worse. Everyone is entitled to do as they wish, but let's stop pretending there aren't inevitable consequences.

Last week I was at a gymnastics class with a 10/11 in her leotard doing all kinds of poses (not gymnastics, just playing) and it was very uncomfortable for everyone around, especially the Dads.

It's worse than that.
Search Bognor and Bournemouth and you'll find young girls assaulted and raped both on the beach and in the sea,
Stabbings, including one girl murdered and her friend stabbed.
It's like some men are lying in wait.

I think the issue is that girls that age just want what is in fashion, they aren't choosing to wear that in a vacuum but based on trends, social media and peer pressure. The real issue is with the manufacturers and retailers who advertise and sell this kind of clothing to kids.

💯 Even woman will look when it's staring you in the face, it doesn't mean you want to look

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show

A girl in school uniform with their whole bum on show seems quite extreme. I've seen tiny skirts but not the whole bum on show. 🤔

"I mean, it's just a vulva, get over it! If you don't like the fact that children have them on display, just look away. Our generation refuse to be vulva shamed etc etc".

Ha I moved back some months ago and was quite shocked! Find it unfair for boys tbh - as in, they have to follow the school uniform to the letter (right colour socks, thin part of tie mustn’t be showing, tie a certain length etc etc) but girls can violate the dress code every day and nothing is said.
The majority of the girls I see on buses outside school hours seem to choose to wear baggy jeans and unreveaking clothing (not in this very hot weather of course) so the bottom-revealing school skirts seem even odder…

🤣

When I was at school, many moons ago, we resisted wearing our ugly navy blue gym knickers anywhere in public. Nowadays girls go out socially in similar shorts . I don’t get it !

This is a weird comment. Leotards are appropriate clothing for gymnastics. And you’re talking about a child having fun at her gymnastics class and fathers feeling uncomfortable??

Me neither.

Yup

They really need a laughing emoji. FWIW I rolled my skirt too, but never had my cheeks on display. It's ok to retain a little bit of class, it doesn't mean you're bowing down to the patriarchy. Hint: they're very happy for you to have your tits and arse out 😏

But you are looking at the girls. And judging them on how they dress. How do the boys dress, why not look at them instead? Or, just keep walking and avoid looking at any of them.

Are others seeing school girls with their whole bottom on display? I've definitely never seen this where I live. Short skirts yes. Whole bottom no. 🤔

Sounds familiar? Doesn’t anyone recognise the style of posting? https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5315762-bumcheeks-fully-on-show-at-family-attraction

For expecting a higher standard? I think you should take a good look at yourself and your values. No wonder why society has degraded so pitifully.

What I find wild is how no one wears bras in public anymore! Probably prudish, but everywhere now I see nipple outlines or sheer tops with no bra or cami tops underneath where you can see everything - i.e - Gracie Abrams at Glastonbury watching Charli XCX! I don't get it?!