I’m probably being a prude but…

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…what is the deal with teenage girls running around basically naked these days?

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Then, I was on the beach today (we live near the sea) with my two primary school aged sons and there were a group of maybe 13-14 year old girls, they were very young, more than half of whom were in thong bikinis. They spent most of the time on the beach doing a photoshoot, predominantly photos of them from behind looking out to sea, presumably for social media?!

I know teenagers have always been teenagers, but I’m pretty sure underage girls weren’t wearing thong bikinis on the beach when I was that age 😳

I could see other families on the beach felt uncomfortable with it too.

Do their parents know? Is this just how teenagers dress these days?

Endless teenagers in ‘inappropriate’ thongs with their ‘full bum cheeks exposed’. https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5313667-thong-bikinis-in-public-swimming-pools?flipped=1&page=4

We have a lot of this where we are. Saw it first at Tesco, and honestly, was shocked to see girls of maybe 14, wearing fetishwear next to the ham and Dairy Lee Dunkers. I'd never had the feeling before of "not knowing where to look" and weirdly, thought it was just an expression before that incident. It was like, I wanted to stare, from the shock of seeing something so unexpected. But also was desperately thinking "DON'T LOOK!!! THAT BUM BELONGS TO AN UNDERAGE CHILD, THE POLICE WILL CART YOU AWAY!!!" But as a result of the panic, I couldn't remember where an acceptable place to look was. The ceiling of the shop perhaps?? No, that's wrong. Maybe I'll stare intently at this shop assistant? Oh no! Now I'm making them uncomfortable too! Yhe Dairy Lees? I don't buy them, and have no interest in them. But I did spend a good while pretending to mull them over. It was all terribly sad and awkward and I felt like Mark Mark Corrigan all the way home. But that's because I'm well passed it! Let them crack on, no pun intended.

We don't have school uniform here (not UK) and this issues does not exist at all. Girls go to school in trousers, for the most part.. some shorts and skirts in warm weather... I can honestly say I have never seen a visible thong or bum cheek at school (I am not a teacher but spend some time in school doing various activities with students.

@Lalgarh the Juicy Couture velour tracksuits with “Juicy” emblazoned across the bum in diamanté as well!

OnlyFans, crazy porn use, heavyweight pop culture icons being sexualised to the nth degree, all being peddled as empowering rather than a symptom of something going awry. Literally no girl on earth should grow up thinking prostitution is empowering.

In an ideal world yes. To a teenager, Rodriguez is far cooler than their parents and they want to be like her, not someone in middle age.

Bloody heck .. let them wear what they want. Look away if it's too much...

Fucking hell.

An existing power structure will co-opt and adapt any cultural trend to enable itself to survive.

Schools should have jumpsuits as uniform. With the pupils name and number on the back so they can be easily identified. It would solve so many problems.

It’s normal attire for young people pushing boundaries. Let them carry on

Etsy

https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1519308583/porn-star-in-training-crop-top-soft

Like prison?

I don’t think it’s because they are hot in this weather 😂

Yes. I don’t believe my mother thought Kate Moss was the coolest, best dressed woman ever when I was a teenager 20 years ago.

She did however, manage in my more formative years, to teach me some critical thinking skills so I wasn’t blindly copying a celebrity as a teenager.

That was the point I was making about role models.

Bodies should just be bodies. Why is showing more flesh seen as being confident? Why is a young girl in micro skirt seen as more body confident than one in jeans?

I honestly wonder whether predetory men have infiltrated both feminist groups and young girls SM to push this message.

one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Really? She left school with her skirt so short you could see her whole backside?

I've seen short skirts, I've had a second glance when I thought a girl was not wearing anything but in fact turned out to be tiny, flesh shorts (not out of school, just out and about), but I have no seen any actual whole backsides walking around.

The “it’s their bodies don’t police them” thing is a bit old tbh. Girls and women can wear pretty much what they want these days: but thinking that it’s not appropriate for actual arse cheeks to be on view is hardly coming over all Victorian, is it?

If OP was suggesting that the girls should wear an ankle length skirt or a burka then fair enough, but not wanting to see children’s bums (or anyone else’s) is what I’d call a normal opinion, not some kind of excessive prudery.

The thong bikini fashion is heavily influenced by porn. It’s not the OP sexualising children: it’s the people marketing and selling thong bikinis to young girls. They look absolutely hideous anyway — and I don’t want to see anyone’s bum, nor to be made to feel like going to the pool is a trip to a porn producer’s wet dream. I hope they go out of fashion asap.

I don’t know about what they are wearing, but I do think it’s sad that so many young girls and young women have an online profile that is just one gormless selfie pose after another, and so many social events just involved everyone busily posing and posting on their phones. I feel that as someone who just missed the internet as a teenager, we had a much richer and more sociable experience. Now it seems so uniform…bland, boring and isolating.

OK. They all wear tights, leggings or trousers round here so maybe different rules. I see the very short shorts but not school uniform without legs covered.

Hey yes this is all just about being relaxed isn't it @MidSumner! Everyone should stop clenching eh!

But... it's so weird, isn't it, that no boys are walking around with a string up their arse and their bumcheeks on display.

I can't think why that is.

Really, really odd.

It’s quite something to talk about having high standards while being so openly harsh and judgemental.

Referring to others as riff-raff simply because they don’t share your views doesn’t suggest strong values, it reflects a lack of class, emotional intelligence, and self awareness.

You’re entitled to raise your children however you see fit, but using that as a reason to look down on others really undermines the message you’re trying to send.

True values are shown in how we treat people, especially those who are different from us. Don’t get me wrong, I do sometimes worry about how much pressure there is to dress a certain way for girls so it's not the style of clothing but if standards truly mattered to you, as you say, then you are better off communicating courteously, otherwise, you kind of risk coming across as unpolished and rough yourself.

The purpose of a thong bikini is to get a tan that doesn't leave your arse luminous. With younger kids, it's fashion.

Interesting that you see them as sexual advertising. Interesting, and slightly revolting.

I'm 100% sure that men's sex thoughts about female bodies are not changed in any way by the amount of backside on show.

I have never noticed but I don’t go around staring at teenaged girls. Their clothes are not my business.

Oh please. You sound dreadfully sanctimonious. Riff-raft exist and I’m not apologising for protecting my family from them. You can stay in your lane and we’ll stay in ours.

Interesting that you see them as sexual advertising. Interesting, and slightly revolting.
I'm 100% sure that men's sex thoughts about female bodies are not changed in any way by the amount of backside on show.

Oh, come off it! The entire point of a thong bikini is “sexual advertising”! Why on earth do you think they’re in fashion otherwise? 😆