I’m probably being a prude but…

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…what is the deal with teenage girls running around basically naked these days?

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Then, I was on the beach today (we live near the sea) with my two primary school aged sons and there were a group of maybe 13-14 year old girls, they were very young, more than half of whom were in thong bikinis. They spent most of the time on the beach doing a photoshoot, predominantly photos of them from behind looking out to sea, presumably for social media?!

I know teenagers have always been teenagers, but I’m pretty sure underage girls weren’t wearing thong bikinis on the beach when I was that age 😳

I could see other families on the beach felt uncomfortable with it too.

Do their parents know? Is this just how teenagers dress these days?

I saw a lass like that at the supermarket a couple of days ago, with sweatpant fabric shorts that were half disappeared up her bum cheeks. I didn't know whether to admire her confidence or start singing "Hungry Arse" (to the tune of "Hungry Eyes" from "Dirty Dancing ". Perhaps both. I have to say, it looked most uncomfortable. I'm clearly old.

Safe from what?

Yes, I don't think that young girls should be flashing their arses and where people start saying "her body her choice" and saying that men "shouldn't look" and that they are pervs if they so much as notice and seek to class this as feminism - if boys did the same they would be classed as pervs and flashers - you wouldn't have people falling over themselves to say "his body, his choice" and " don't look if you don't want to see it"

Yep! It’s the same at my son’s school. You can literally see the knickers on half of them not just their bum cheeks. I saw a girl outside the school at last pick up and even the front was so short it barely covered anything. And no they don’t wear tights.

I too remember girls that wore skirts rolling them up but I don’t recall them ever being that short either and think the same as you op.

Maybe we’re just old, I wasn’t a skirt wearer in my day but I did own a fishnet top which I suppose isn’t much better or any less revealing!?

@UnctuousUnicorns 😂 I’m going to be humming that to myself all day now!

I am actually agreeing with you 😊

You are being a prude but that's ok. Being prudish is not a bad thing.

We've let ourselves get into this situation where judging anyone for anything is considered wrong. But actually, judging people by how they present themselves (dress, posture, body language etc.) is what humans do. It's what animals in generals do, actually, and we're not an exception.

Im just surprised there hasn't been a trend whereby men wear cropped shirts and jeans/trousers cut so low down the pelvis you get a hint of cock flesh.
Its strange there hasn't been a widespread mainstream trend for this over the last hundred years, maybe they didn't get the memo that flashing your bits is so empowering

Sorry ☹️ some of these comments are riling me up 🫣

Short shorts are one thing, as are the shorts that look like knickers worn with a bra that's apparently a 'top' but just makes you look as though you're out in your underwear, but the skirts that are basically little more than a belt and leave the front and back uncovered, worn with a thong, I think it looks ridiculous more than sexy. Why not just wear the thong and not bother with the valance-effect?

But I'm old and still make a face at the occasional scrunch-bum leggings that come through. Tik Tok has SO MUCH to answer for.

I hope this catches on, would love to hear the comments! Bet everyone will be calling the police!

“Young, pert bottom”

They’re children for fuck’s sake. That’s sick

This is where men are so clever, they persuaded women that the best way to stick it to the patriarchy is to wear a thong bikini and have their tits pretty much out, not only that if you want to be ultra feminist you need to take photos and put them on Instagram.

Well if it makes you feel better, a young woman was walking through our local high street topless yesterday!! Everyone was doing a double take!!

The photo's of my mum as a teen in the 60's prove that it's always been a thing! Her and her friends dresses were not long enough to cover their bums 😂

The OP was at the beach where I can guarantee there will have been countless teen boys who were topless and showing their nipples and flashing their bum cracks too.

Not a word said and nothing to do with males covering up their nipples to keep safe from paedos at the beach either.

I find it quite sad that so many people see nothing amiss with girls exposing themselves whilst boys carry on as usual in their ordinary clothing.

We've all done it, they cry! Yeah we probably all have. It's so ingrained in us to do it. But why?

Why have we "pushed boundaries" by hitching our skirts up, wearing skimpy beach outfits, and really just preparing ourselves nicely for men of all ages to get a better view?

Why, for women, is showing off more body parts seen as empowering?

😅 In my day (80s teenagers), someone would have tapped us on the shoulder and hissed "You're chewing cloth!" The idea of someone wanting to look like that deliberately would have been unfathomable! 🤷‍♀️ 😅

I am not referring to the beach where there are acceptable levels of nudity - i am referring to "in general" and I think you will see that quite a lot of the thread is also talking more broadly.

Male nipples are not secondary sexual characteristics as they are for females.

But while we are at the beach only in your mind - if I saw young teen boys wearing bananahammocks and thongs- Dame right I would think it wrong.

Thank god. It's bad enough the discussion as to whether Amanda was showing too much side boob on BGT, imagine if we also had to read the outrange of whether Simon was showing too much or not enough side cock on this cut out jeans. There would you draw the line the shaft is ok as long as there is a little gusset over the helmet on a man thong.

I actually find comments like this pretty stupid and weak. It’s fact that what you wear does not affect your chances of being raped. It’s pretty obtuse to think if you simply teach your child self respect and to dress modestly these things will automatically exempt them from being targeted. Which is idiotic. If you’re getting this worked up over other people’s opinions it may be time to step away from the thread.

It is difficult, isn’t it. On the one hand you want girls (and boys) feeling free to express themselves in their dress, on the other hand there is with some outfits a “my eyes, my eyes!!” feeling. In the college I work at I followed a young learner up the stairs recently (aged about 16) and the skirt was so short that it wasn’t even trying to cover the thong beneath. From my position below, I could see far more than I was comfortable with or frankly have ever seen on anyone who wasn’t my lover (averted my eyes pdq but). Do staff say look, this isn’t ok, and then face claims of sexism or of sexualising learners? Or worse, approach the conversation in such a way that the young person feels shamed and then embarrassed.

Thankfully those decisions are above my pay grade, and even more thankfully my own dc is in a baggy-jeans-and-hoodie phase, so I don’t need to have such a conversation at this point.

And then clothing brands could start designing mens underwear that has like a built in "ball bra": that way, men could pair their low-slung pelvis-baring jeans with a push up gusset that flashes their testicle cleavage, and they could run around living their best lives and being empowered.