I’m probably being a prude but…

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…what is the deal with teenage girls running around basically naked these days?

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Then, I was on the beach today (we live near the sea) with my two primary school aged sons and there were a group of maybe 13-14 year old girls, they were very young, more than half of whom were in thong bikinis. They spent most of the time on the beach doing a photoshoot, predominantly photos of them from behind looking out to sea, presumably for social media?!

I know teenagers have always been teenagers, but I’m pretty sure underage girls weren’t wearing thong bikinis on the beach when I was that age 😳

I could see other families on the beach felt uncomfortable with it too.

Do their parents know? Is this just how teenagers dress these days?

The girls (16ish?) were all in thong bikinis and were examining the menus pasted to the food van’s counter as they chose their snacks…
The worst of it was the boys accompanying them were all wearing longish shorts and t-shirts. It just didn’t seem fair!

Yes, on two local beaches on a sunny afternoon or evening you get groups of boys in long shorts and t-shirts playing football or hanging around on the sand talking to each other, while girls in thong bikinis dance around and bend over to wiggle their bums in the boys faces. I feel like Richard Attenborough watching the mating rituals of the apes. [Puts on Attenborough voice]: 'The male apes sit together, sharing a joint and tinnies, while the female apes parade around them, displaying their arses and seeking the attention of the dominant male.' It's all far more blatant than it ever used to be. Being a teenage girl has never been fun but it must be really awful these days.

It's not policing, it's parenting. She is your child of 13. You are her mum, not her friend.

I've got used to thong bikinis now on the beach, although not noticed it on young teenagers yet. Never seen girls in school uniform with their whole bum on display like OP is seeing, or any of their bum where I live thankfully. Only short skirts which has been a thing for a while.

They also have vulvas. As their body confidence increases further along with their refusal to let men dictate what they wear (oh, the irony), must we prepare ourselves for seeing these openly displayed in public?

Op do you live in antisocial poor area? I’ve never noticed girls with their arses out where I live.

This.
I’m so fed up of the hyper sexualisation of women now set against pervasive porn.
It’s gone way beyond young girls just embracing fashion and pushing boundaries like we all did when young.
Where does this end - oh it’s just people having sex in public- perfectly natural- don’t be such a prude etc. etc……,

I've seen this too: a young girl walking along in a school skirt so short you could see her crotch from the front and arse cheeks from the back. She wasn't wearing a thong but a lot of arse cheek was showing below her black knickers.

I'm surprised she didn't cause an accident, walking along a busy main road in the rush hour showing drawers and arse cheeks! (I was waiting at traffic lights, not actually driving.)

Oh silly me! I forgot that I gave birth to her.

Do you tell your teens what to wear every day? Seriously? Instead of choosing her clothes for her I'm educating her as to the potential consequences of her choices are. It's working so far, she wears short things sometimes, but wears shorts underneath if it's a dress.

I'm happy with my parenting, but thanks for the tip.

This is a really disturbing post.

Thongs are bloody awful. They look grim and seem like they would chafe like hell.

The school thing is, in my humble opinion, different to the beach thing, schools have dress codes and fairly sure displaying your undies/ bum cheeks won’t be part of it, on the beach however, we’ll they are on the beach, it’s hot, if you were on holiday abroad would you feel the same, it’s so sad that things like that seem to be sexualised all the time.

Apparently, it doesn't end. There is no longer any crossing of the line because there's no longer a line. Except when it comes to people commenting on or questioning the matter of near-naked girls on every high street.

Careful, your classism is showing.

Yeah, I've noticed this too. Its embarrassing, like you say its literally whole bums out, and especially ones that aren't in the best of shape 😅
I feel the same about men who feel the need to whip their tops off whenever this country hits the absolutely INSANE and UNBEARABLE temperature of 30C.

So what do you suggest? We don't discuss at all an issue that many of us see as concerning, on pain of being placed into one of your boxes? For some of us, this goes beyond 'a fashion we don't care for'.
We haven't fallen for the scam that female empowerment means applauding 13 year old girls baring their arses.
We are not so cowardly about difficult conversations or desperate to appear cool we hide behind soundbites like 'her body her choice'. A concept designed for adult women with the maturity to understand the context of the choices, not for children.
We accept that our responsibility to protect children from pedophiles sonetimes clashes with our liberalism, and that we have to operate in the world we are in, not the one we would like. That to protect sometimes you need to curtail some freedoms. Just as you do when you set a curfew or refuse to allow vaping. Why there's legal age restrictions on certain activities.
That a 13 year olds 'pert and youthful' to quote one poster, body is not something we as older women should be 'celebrating' because its the optimum in viewing pleasure. That we are not 'moralising' about the children's choices, but recognising they are not true choices but manipulation.
Some of us want to discuss these things.

I think the "its our bodies, we should be empowered to do what we want with them" faux feminists have a lot to answer for.
We now live in a society where filler, anal sex and walking around with your arse hanging out is considered healthy and empowering for young women.

I agree it isn't sex but it is sexualised.

It isn't accepted by school staff. You have no idea how many times the words 'unroll your skirt' are uttered during the course of a day (and 'pull your trousers up' to the boys). They unroll it, briefly, and roll it up again - it's a constant battle and very wearing

Re the body shaming - i do think that if underage/ teen boys were behaving in the same way - emphasising the bulge wearing clothes that flashed private areas of their bodies - people would say something

It’s a fact antisocial behaviour occurs more in poorer areas.

People are saying something about the short skirts.

As evidenced by this thread.

These kinds of comments are really stupid. No one is saying that people asked to be raped, and this is always used as a weak argument to shut down a healthy debate. It's perfectly acceptable and commendable as a parent to educate your daughter to have some self respect on how she presents herself. Arse cheeks on display in a school uniform is not ok. Like ir or not that's the world we live in, and pervy men aside, no one wants to be looking at a child's arse cheeks on display.

So you are claiming girls wearing thong bikinis are antisocial? Should they get an Asbo then?

Having self respect is not body shaming. It's the same as brisbung your hair before you leave the house.

As usual, boys/men's bodies are safe. Mens fashion has barely evolved in the past century