I’m probably being a prude but…

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…what is the deal with teenage girls running around basically naked these days?

Last week, I was driving down the road near a secondary school at letting out time and I must have seen about 5 girls’ actual bum cheeks as they were leaving school. Like, we all rolled our skirts up fairly short at school, but this was actually full knickers and bums on display… one girl was wearing a thong so it was just her whole bum on show.

Then, I was on the beach today (we live near the sea) with my two primary school aged sons and there were a group of maybe 13-14 year old girls, they were very young, more than half of whom were in thong bikinis. They spent most of the time on the beach doing a photoshoot, predominantly photos of them from behind looking out to sea, presumably for social media?!

I know teenagers have always been teenagers, but I’m pretty sure underage girls weren’t wearing thong bikinis on the beach when I was that age 😳

I could see other families on the beach felt uncomfortable with it too.

Do their parents know? Is this just how teenagers dress these days?

I struggle with it too. I flip flop between they should wear what they want, no body shaming, don't look if you don't like it. To my daughter will be that age in 4 years and I DO NOT want her out in public like that!😆

That's what you'd call a generation gap, right?

I’m totally on board with this for adult women. I find it hard to get on board for underage children.

I really don't like. I don't want to see anyone's arse. Seeing nearly a whole teenager's or just half a tradie's is too much.

Oh my god, they have bum cheeks!?!?!

Who'd have thought??

your sons have them too, they won't care unless YOU make a big deal of it.

if I still had a pert young bottom id probably let it see the sunshine in this weather too! Sadly it's an aging arse that no one needs (in public anyway) to see these days!?

you're only young once & id rather the girls had the confidence to do it than sat sweltering hiding themselves away! I know there's plenty of 'in between' but frankly I can't get bothered by a bit of flesh!

They're 'underage' for sex. Wearing a thong isn't sex. It's just a bum fgs

This must be the 7th or 8th designated thread on the topic of short school skirts in the last couple of weeks.

Weird 😷

You saw them actually leaving school premises in skirts that displayed their underwear, no tights? Extremely surprised that was accepted by school staff.

I hate it too OP. Young girls are far far too sexualised these days and unfortunately all of these pictures are online, snapped on phones and out there for everyone to see.

I don't care if that makes me a prude. I wore short skirts and shorts when I was a teenager, short tops etc but this is another level.

It was definitely a things in my day to wear very short skirts

And tbh it's also not something I can say I've particularly noticed round me. I've been to a several different beaches in different parts of the country and can't say I've noticed many teens posing in thong bikinis...

Agree with you OP. They should have a bit of self respect. My DD knew the limits. Why aren’t people parenting properly? They are still children.

I don't think anyone needs to dress to make people around them comfortable. I am, however, trying to instill into DD13 that there are lots of downsides to having your bare arse on the internet.

I will not police her dress sense, but I will share the life experience I have to educate her. She will know what to expect if she wears revealing clothes, and also that her mother will defend her against all of it ferociously. Her body is her business.

I went to see Charli XCX recently and saw more bums than I have done in my entire life up until that point. It’s clearly the new thing. I don’t get it, but I’m old so I don’t have to. Let ‘em do what they want, I say. It’s their bodies.

Yep...I agree nobody needs to see lumpy bums on show. My teenage son once expressed his embarrassment, when going up the stairs at school, he said you don't know where to look as all the girls have their bums out in your face....the school he went to they all wore thick black tights all year around so it was even that bad. Anyway he's all grown up now, and seemed to survive the ordeal unscathed

those bikini thongs - Yuk hope they go out if fashion soon!

"Young girls are sexualised too much"
Says MNers whilst sexualising young girl's bodies...@

The bums out thing seems to come back around every few years. My young cousin came out of her school the last time it was a thing wearing what looked to me like underpants - she said they were shorts.

I think no one tells them that it's pretty inappropriate because they are scared of being finger waved at by the people who say it's empowering or whatever.

I think having teen girls in public in outfits they wouldn't be allowed to appear in a men's magazine with due to their age is a problem.

Yes, because surely it's not the fashion industry, we know they would never do that. 🤔

Having your arse out in public at any age is undesirable.

I couldn’t care less if it makes people think I’m a prude, but I quite simply would not allow/facilitate my teenage daughter owning clothes like that.

I don’t have a son, but if I did, him having his arse hanging out of his jeans would also be a no.

We all have different boundaries. My personal one is that my daughter can wear a short skirt but no bum cheeks on display, for example. She’s a child and fact is there are some disgusting men who get off on seeing things like that. Not with my child. When she’s older, it’s her choice, but also her risk so I hope she keeps good boundaries. Nothing to do with prudishness! It’s just safety.

It's the posing provocatively on SM that I can stand but then they that's all they see.

Says MN’ers who know full well what men can be like, even the really nice ones.

We don’t live in a utopian society, allowing your children to behave as though we do is a failure to keep them safe.

What they do as adults is their choice. What they do as children, is not.

I will not police her dress sense, but I will share the life experience I have to educate her. She will know what to expect if she wears revealing clothes, and also that her mother will defend her against all of it ferociously. Her body is her business.

While I don’t disagree in principle, it’s not the first time I’ve sent DD14 back upstairs to put something on that at least covers the essentials. We do talk about clothes and how some people will view her showing a lot of flesh, and while she is aware I don’t want her at 14 dealing with the possible consequences of having her arse on public display.

Speaking as a man in his 50s I absolutely hate that young girls dress like that. I have to pass our local school to go to work/into town and often it's at school chucking out time. I got rid of my car as it was never used, so I walk, it's actually quicker

I feel that people must think I've deliberately done this, that I am looking at the girls. I feel really uncomfortable. Because of the shear volume of kids (and there lack of manners) I have to look forward.

Also as I work for a funeral director, I am suited and booted, so the kids tend to stare at me which makes the whole situation worse.

and do I tell the 14 year old that her skirt is so high I can see Mondays washing? Naturally no I don't but surely someone needs to?

Unfortunately an awful lot of the girls around here are also showing off their knickers & bottoms on the way to & from school. I wonder if they realise that drivers are lower down than them & our view isn’t pleasant. It’s not even just the local school. I wonder what has made it so much worse this year.