Grossed out by new partner walking in when I was showering

[HelenaJl]

I have a fairly new partner, my first after my 10 year marriage ended. I stayed at his for the first time last night and went to have a shower this morning (no lock on the door). A few minutes in my partner walked in and used the loo!! He was sat there trying to talk to me and I didn’t know where to look. When I said afterwards I didn’t expect that he said it shows how comfortable he is around me and that his past relationships have always been like that so it’s just normal these days.

I can tell you in my entire marriage my ex never walked in on me to use the loo and vice versa! I found him sitting there and ‘dropping off’ a right turn off to be honest!

Ew. My DH sometimes wees when I’m in the shower which is very annoying but a poo is just gross 🤢

Wtf that's really not normal. I wouldn't get past that

Wee acceptable, poo is not.

It would make me think twice about doing it again.

well I’ve been married 30+ years & either of us would nip in for a wee if necessary but def not a shit. I’m not squeamish about bodily functions & he’s wiped my arse when I’ve been in hosp but I wouldn’t pop in for a poo if he’s showering unless I was desperate & about to shit myself. Glad we have a separate loo to bathroom since moving so it wouldn’t be necessary!

I've been married 30 years ,that would be grounds for divorce
That is absolutely utterly vile

Ew. Even when my DH and I had food poisoning at the same time in a holiday apartment with one toilet, we still tried not to poo in front of each other. DH has seen me poo when I was in labour (which I don't care about, much more important things going on at that point) but that's it. We've been together for 16 years and married 6 of them.

Horses for courses, I know this isn't a big deal for some couples, but it is for others and it's noone should assume at the start of a relationship that it's fine to shit in front of the other person.

A wee I would say is normal but just a poo! Wouldn’t him flushing make the water pressure go down so it would have to sit there u til you have finished…

I am pretty relaxed about most things but we don’t poo in front of each other. Burp, fart yep, but not an actual shite 🤣🤣

i couldn’t date someone who doesn’t have a lock on his bathroom door

This is definitely a thing where you're either in a relationship where its normal, or it's considered disgusting. Either is fine, but its weird not to check your new partners thoughts on it before you do it.

So he had another option but chose to poo in front of you instead?

Now that's weird.

You don't have to be upright not to want to smell poo when you're showering to feel fresh @Clychaugog

No no no. Boundaries boundaries boundaries.

Be carefull here (sorry to have to say it..but) he may get off on this sort of thing.

I’d dump him for that.

I only have one bathroom and me and my partner always ask each other if we need to use the bathroom before one of us has a shower, then no one needs to burst in and take a shit when the other is showering.

Just because you have sex doesn’t mean you need to take a dump in front of each other. Totally different unless you’re into that type of thing I suppose.

Some people seem weirdly proud of doing this. It is not proof that you are a close couple, it’s proof that you’re disgusting!

So he basically forced you to witness him having a shit. That is utterly vile.

Same here been married since 19 and 57 now. We don't have a lock on the door but respect each others privacy enough not to do that. I couldn't see him again.

We both have bowel issues so when you have to go you go. I’ve pooped while his showering and the other way. His behind the glass door or I am. Windows open.

Water pressure is fine, frankly a fart in the shower smells worse than a poo in the bathroom in our house.

Though poo pee or not dh tends to be chatting away to me in the shower he tends to shower right after me and we basically swap places and chat along still.

But I did not even fart in front of now dh till I was probably giving birth to our first child. After that it became a free for all so years not mere days or weeks in. I mean there isn’t much to hide after watching a baby come out and putting my suppositories in.

We do this. Maybe it’s the farmer in us. Not an issue.

Oh yay, a first time poster. Why not share stories about shitting in front of other people with them?

I swear there's almost as much wrong with the people who entertain these threads as there is with those who start them!!

Well yes, it’s just a bodily function, and I wouldn’t be at all embarrassed if I accidentally walked in on someone having a shit…however, shit fucking stinks, so no, actually, I really would object to a bloke sitting having a stinking shit whilst I was in the shower!! I don’t want my shower time stinking of someone else’s fucking shit!! It’s not about embarrassment, or ‘seeing someone on the loo’, it’s about respectfully NOT shitting and stinking up my shower time!!

The sheer irony of your post 😂

A wee maybe (more if he was desperate and couldn't wait) but a dump... nah thats gross.

I have literally wiped my DS arse a thousand times (as was my job as him mam) but now he can do it himself I would be freaked out to see him sat on the throne never mind anyone else. Poop is not really a spectator activity (unless you have a scat kink).

Not sure you understand the meaning of irony

Wtf?! That is so disgusting. I would pass out from the fumes. Dealbreaker for me

My DH comes in and does a pee when I’m in the shower but I would be in a rage if he did a poo!!! Yuk!! However, it wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me if I really liked the guy otherwise xx