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Where is the money going to come from to meet the UK people expectations?

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Pandersmum · 28/06/2025 14:46

So assuming that:

  • everyone who receives disability benefits needs them and may actually believe they should be entitled to more
  • pensioner benefits are non negotiable and again many believe they should be greater than current
  • working people (most) believe they are already taxed highly and believe they cannot be taxed any more without further impact to their feeling of unfairness and resentment of the system
  • it is unreasonable to expect young people with ADHD or other similar ND disorders / mental health challenges to work, even if they have qualifications and therefore they must be financially supported by the state
  • Mental health challenges are very real in any age of person and therefore they must be financially supported by the state and if in work, by their employers
  • rent (whatever level) should be supported by the state because it is a basic right to have a home
  • NHS treatment (& the best treatment) should be free be all, no matter how expensive it is or whatever their age because people pay their taxes
  • businesses are businesses and are there to make profits for their owners - therefore they can choose which country they operate in / pay their taxes in - if they don’t like the UK tax system, they can move somewhere else
  • ’in work benefits’ are necessary to support ‘low paid workers, often in essential jobs’ to gain similar amounts of financial remuneration to those on benefits
  • high net worth individuals can move if they don’t like the UK tax system

So just where is the money going to come from to fund the UK population of financial expectation of what the state should provide?

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Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 17:36

Scentedjasmin · 28/06/2025 17:22

I think that the mistake is to assume that those claiming disability payments need them.

I know two families claiming a disability allowance.
The first has two teenage children supposedly with Long Covid. They are too tired to get up to go to school most mornings, but not too tired to stay up late doing hobbies or enjoying busy active holidays away. The mother has a job that entails working from home with flexible hours. As the money that she receives can be spent as she wishes, they go away most school holidays or some weekends now. Furthermore she has no incentive for her children to improve and hasn't been following any of the medical advice re Long Covid and pacing. Aside from that, what do her children actually need the money for? The family hasn't been financially impacted by their illness.

My other friend has 3 children with ADHD. They also qualify for some sort of payment or she receives some sort of carers allowance. Again, they are in school full time. My friend works. No financial hardship as a result. Her husband has been unable to work for the last 6 years due to anxiety. Instead he spends all day sleeping and all night smoking weed and gaming. He gets some sort of allowance. I feel as though he is actually getting worse as is completely stuck in a rut. The family now all rely on the extra money and are planning a holiday to Disneyland in Florida this year.

Meanwhile I have a friend with 2 severely autistic sons who cannot access a school within an hour of their house and whom is only able to work limited hours. Both require additional private speech and language support etc. One is also physically disabled. Yet she receives the same amount in terms of payments for her children and has been hit very hard financially and with the removal of day centres due to funding cuts.

The whole system is rotten. Why on earth should people be given money to spend as they wish on whatever they want for their children when they have suffered no financial set back or incurred additional costs?

It really makes me cross at the sense of entitlement and waste.

You know exactly how much all of the families receive in disability payments? I can't think of one friend that knows how much DLA my son gets.

Pandersmum · 28/06/2025 17:37

Slimagain · 28/06/2025 15:40

This will NOT and a popular post but I’m sorry it is reality and the area I have worked in for many decades. The two greatest drains on the benefit system are organised crime manipulating and creating identities to bleed the wholly inadequate Universal Credit system dry.. and the previous government slashing the resources to allow comprehensive timely investigations. £MMs lost this way. An example https://www.google.com/search?q=operation+goliath+dwp+uk&client=safari&sca_esv=8604acb2d6485a04&hl=en-gb&sxsrf=AE3TifOPp4W4qauFocLEGeUazHLnCxNAeg%3A1751120018333&ei=kvhfaPqQFNOikdUPj8WpiQ0&oq=operation+goliath+dwp&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIhVvcGVyYXRpb24gZ29saWF0aCBkd3AqAggAMgUQIRigAUj08gFQxgtY6ucBcAF4AJABApgB0QagAYQ_qgEOMS4yMC41LjIuMy4xLjG4AQHIAQD4AQGYAhmgAsI0qAIPwgIIEAAYgAQYsAPCAgcQABiwAxgewgIEECMYJ8ICBRAAGIAEwgIFEC4YgATCAgsQLhiABBjHARivAcICCxAAGIAEGJECGIoFwgIHECMYJxjqAsICChAjGIAEGCcYigXCAgsQLhiABBiRAhiKBcICChAAGIAEGEMYigXCAg0QLhiABBhDGNQCGIoFwgILEC4YgAQY0QMYxwHCAggQLhiABBjUAsICCBAAGIAEGMcDwgIKEC4YgAQYQxiKBcICCBAAGBYYChgewgIGEAAYFhgewgIFECEYnwXCAgQQIRgVwgIIEAAYgAQYogSYAwjxBcc8mCTsLTICiAYBkAYRkgcOMi4xMC41LjMuMy4xLjGgB9G2ArIHDjEuMTAuNS4zLjMuMS4xuAe6NMIHBjAuNC4yMcgHZQ&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp

This along with the epidemic of unemployed, poorly educated, (mostly) young men - being granted PIP for care AND high rate mobility - many of whom I have come across extensively in my work - driving around in motorbility vehicles dropping off drugs as part of a county lines gang. These kids set up for PIP by one or other parent - usually the mother as she or dad can then claim to be the adult child’s carer - this avoiding any possibility of being forced to attend a jobcentre or look for work. The manipulation of benefits and carers allowance makes me especially angry as I also see many hundreds of people genuinely caring for severely disabled family members . Which is an extremely hard slog with very little respite . Yet they get the same money as a carer that the parent of the drug dealer gets .. just because they say they care for them 35 hours a week.

My first steps when it comes to sorting out the benefits bill so that they go to people who really deserve them is…

  1. Biometric ID cards. (This would also make the UK less attractive to small boat arrivals as one of the reasons the UK is so popular is that you don’t need an ID card ). Then no benefit gets paid until you and your card pitch up for in-person verification.
  2. Carers allowance. Make it payable solely to those who have had a care needs assessment through the local authority.
  3. ADHD not for anyone who has not attended specialist support . This could be run via Jobcentres but would require significant investment. A compulsory assessment and intensive help to find employment to the best of their abilities. A weekly payment whilst attending for six months or employed. After that if symptoms are so severe , a fast track to PIP reviewable every year.

Btw. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2006 as one of the first adults to be assessed in Kings College. I recognised this could be an issue when my son was undergoing assessment. We both suffer the often debilitating downsides but have both found long term employment that also plays to our strengths.

This is exactly the type of solution the government should be looking at. Fundamentally trying to fix the issues.

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DrPrunesqualer · 28/06/2025 17:38

Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 17:36

You know exactly how much all of the families receive in disability payments? I can't think of one friend that knows how much DLA my son gets.

I know how much relatives get and a couple of friends. They told me.

Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 17:39

Daffodilsarefading · 28/06/2025 17:29

Another problem with very expensive housing is that certain people get it for free. I really, really cannot see the justification with allowing someone who doesn’t work ( I’m talking neither parent) getting their rent paid whilst those who work are screwed over and working their guts out to pay for it. Totally wrong.

If the housing is very expensive, the UC housing element will cover some of it but very unlikely all of it.

My UC housing element covers all of my rent but that's because I don't live in an expensive area.

Pandersmum · 28/06/2025 17:39

alexalisten · 28/06/2025 15:45

That is exactly what someone who is not real would say 🤣

OK. If you say so. (The irony is that I am such a technical luddite I don’t even use AI 😂)

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Iwillclasptheeagain · 28/06/2025 17:43

It's amazing that it is considered by some to be unreasonable even to ask how we're going to pay for it.

Thw answer is that we aren't.

The crash when it comes is going to be devastating.

Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 17:44

DrPrunesqualer · 28/06/2025 17:38

I know how much relatives get and a couple of friends. They told me.

I can understand close relatives and like you said, maybe a couple of friends. I suppose I'm just surprised that pp seems to know what all those families get in great detail to be able to accurately compare them all.

It isn't something that comes up with my friends and I'd find it odd if they started asking how much money I receive for my disabled child.

x2boys · 28/06/2025 17:44

Scentedjasmin · 28/06/2025 17:22

I think that the mistake is to assume that those claiming disability payments need them.

I know two families claiming a disability allowance.
The first has two teenage children supposedly with Long Covid. They are too tired to get up to go to school most mornings, but not too tired to stay up late doing hobbies or enjoying busy active holidays away. The mother has a job that entails working from home with flexible hours. As the money that she receives can be spent as she wishes, they go away most school holidays or some weekends now. Furthermore she has no incentive for her children to improve and hasn't been following any of the medical advice re Long Covid and pacing. Aside from that, what do her children actually need the money for? The family hasn't been financially impacted by their illness.

My other friend has 3 children with ADHD. They also qualify for some sort of payment or she receives some sort of carers allowance. Again, they are in school full time. My friend works. No financial hardship as a result. Her husband has been unable to work for the last 6 years due to anxiety. Instead he spends all day sleeping and all night smoking weed and gaming. He gets some sort of allowance. I feel as though he is actually getting worse as is completely stuck in a rut. The family now all rely on the extra money and are planning a holiday to Disneyland in Florida this year.

Meanwhile I have a friend with 2 severely autistic sons who cannot access a school within an hour of their house and whom is only able to work limited hours. Both require additional private speech and language support etc. One is also physically disabled. Yet she receives the same amount in terms of payments for her children and has been hit very hard financially and with the removal of day centres due to funding cuts.

The whole system is rotten. Why on earth should people be given money to spend as they wish on whatever they want for their children when they have suffered no financial set back or incurred additional costs?

It really makes me cross at the sense of entitlement and waste.

Your contradicting yourself there in the first two exsmp!e you say they receive some sort of disability payment and in your second example you say your friend with two severely autistic sons receives the same level of payment ,as the other two
How do.you know when you don't know what level your first two example ,s get ?there's three levels of care and two levels of Mobility in DLA.

Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 17:45

x2boys · 28/06/2025 17:44

Your contradicting yourself there in the first two exsmp!e you say they receive some sort of disability payment and in your second example you say your friend with two severely autistic sons receives the same level of payment ,as the other two
How do.you know when you don't know what level your first two example ,s get ?there's three levels of care and two levels of Mobility in DLA.

This is exactly what I'm meaning.

SunD0wn · 28/06/2025 17:46

Slimagain · 28/06/2025 15:40

This will NOT and a popular post but I’m sorry it is reality and the area I have worked in for many decades. The two greatest drains on the benefit system are organised crime manipulating and creating identities to bleed the wholly inadequate Universal Credit system dry.. and the previous government slashing the resources to allow comprehensive timely investigations. £MMs lost this way. An example https://www.google.com/search?q=operation+goliath+dwp+uk&client=safari&sca_esv=8604acb2d6485a04&hl=en-gb&sxsrf=AE3TifOPp4W4qauFocLEGeUazHLnCxNAeg%3A1751120018333&ei=kvhfaPqQFNOikdUPj8WpiQ0&oq=operation+goliath+dwp&gs_lp=EhNtb2JpbGUtZ3dzLXdpei1zZXJwIhVvcGVyYXRpb24gZ29saWF0aCBkd3AqAggAMgUQIRigAUj08gFQxgtY6ucBcAF4AJABApgB0QagAYQ_qgEOMS4yMC41LjIuMy4xLjG4AQHIAQD4AQGYAhmgAsI0qAIPwgIIEAAYgAQYsAPCAgcQABiwAxgewgIEECMYJ8ICBRAAGIAEwgIFEC4YgATCAgsQLhiABBjHARivAcICCxAAGIAEGJECGIoFwgIHECMYJxjqAsICChAjGIAEGCcYigXCAgsQLhiABBiRAhiKBcICChAAGIAEGEMYigXCAg0QLhiABBhDGNQCGIoFwgILEC4YgAQY0QMYxwHCAggQLhiABBjUAsICCBAAGIAEGMcDwgIKEC4YgAQYQxiKBcICCBAAGBYYChgewgIGEAAYFhgewgIFECEYnwXCAgQQIRgVwgIIEAAYgAQYogSYAwjxBcc8mCTsLTICiAYBkAYRkgcOMi4xMC41LjMuMy4xLjGgB9G2ArIHDjEuMTAuNS4zLjMuMS4xuAe6NMIHBjAuNC4yMcgHZQ&sclient=mobile-gws-wiz-serp

This along with the epidemic of unemployed, poorly educated, (mostly) young men - being granted PIP for care AND high rate mobility - many of whom I have come across extensively in my work - driving around in motorbility vehicles dropping off drugs as part of a county lines gang. These kids set up for PIP by one or other parent - usually the mother as she or dad can then claim to be the adult child’s carer - this avoiding any possibility of being forced to attend a jobcentre or look for work. The manipulation of benefits and carers allowance makes me especially angry as I also see many hundreds of people genuinely caring for severely disabled family members . Which is an extremely hard slog with very little respite . Yet they get the same money as a carer that the parent of the drug dealer gets .. just because they say they care for them 35 hours a week.

My first steps when it comes to sorting out the benefits bill so that they go to people who really deserve them is…

  1. Biometric ID cards. (This would also make the UK less attractive to small boat arrivals as one of the reasons the UK is so popular is that you don’t need an ID card ). Then no benefit gets paid until you and your card pitch up for in-person verification.
  2. Carers allowance. Make it payable solely to those who have had a care needs assessment through the local authority.
  3. ADHD not for anyone who has not attended specialist support . This could be run via Jobcentres but would require significant investment. A compulsory assessment and intensive help to find employment to the best of their abilities. A weekly payment whilst attending for six months or employed. After that if symptoms are so severe , a fast track to PIP reviewable every year.

Btw. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2006 as one of the first adults to be assessed in Kings College. I recognised this could be an issue when my son was undergoing assessment. We both suffer the often debilitating downsides but have both found long term employment that also plays to our strengths.

What are you talking about as regards ADHD. You don’t get anything for ADHD and most people with it work.

The only people I want and who should be
diagnosing and treating young adults as regards ADHD is the NHS not bloody tinpot job centres. That’s utterly ridiculous. The NHS do an amazing course for ADHD suffers they diagnose where I live after meds are stabilised unfortunately the waiting lists to get a NHS diagnosis are insane.

KungFuFiatPanda · 28/06/2025 17:46

@Daffodilsarefading housing benefit hasn't kept pace with rent rises, so rarely covers anyone's whole rent:

housingdigital.co.uk/housing-benefit-just-doesnt-cover-the-rent/

ruffler45 · 28/06/2025 17:48

The government does not have any cash of its own, they get it from taxes, borrow it (but still have to pay it back with interest) or print it.

DuchessofReality · 28/06/2025 17:50

KimberleyClark · 28/06/2025 15:06

A grown up conversation needs to be had about the relationship between income tax and good public services. People seem to want good public services without paying for them now.

Edited

Indeed. Dan Neidle has published a graph on LinkedIn showing that for the %of GDP that is spent on public services, the UK has the lowest rate of tax on the average worker. Or to put it another way, no other country manages to spend more on public services without taxing ‘ordinary people’ at a higher rate than we do.

anniegun · 28/06/2025 17:50

The UK is a fairly unproductive country due to historically low investment , fixing that would increase govt revenues. We are also relatively lightly taxed compared to other countries so most people should be prepared to pay more. We also have quite levels of inequality which means that a bit of wealth redistribution would help a bit

Pandersmum · 28/06/2025 17:51

PhilippaGeorgiou · 28/06/2025 16:12

How many f**ing threads on exactly this subject do we need today?

I’m genuinely interested in how people would solve the problem that there simply isn’t enough Govt money to give everyone what they want.

People need to get their head out of the sand. The ‘lack of money’ problem isn’t going to go away by itself and is getting worse by the day.

I’m sorry you find the topic repetitive. Maybe it concerns some of us more than you.

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TheHateIsNotGood · 28/06/2025 17:53

Agree OP - just where is all the money to come from?

Everyone thinks that they are worth it, meaning receiving money from the public purse, but there just isn't enough to go round.

Easy targets are the people inable to be full contributors for a myriad of reasons but I'd rather focus my gaze on the coasting paid public sector workers - the Reddit Civil Service thread can be very illuminating in how being unproductive is rewarded. And the best pension in the UK to boot.

A toxic NHS - created by and helped along by the toxic people that have moved up the ranks. eg: fuck the new recruits as I'm a bad bitch and will keep them at my heel.

Who wants to work in schools? The best teachers are eased out by incapable teachers who played the promotion game and won. Please enter SLT.

The list goes on.....

Meadowfinch · 28/06/2025 17:55

MaturingCheeseball · 28/06/2025 16:16

Those baying “tax the rich!” - I hope you’re enjoying Glastonbury. Michael Eavis, that committed Corbynista, has put in place complicated trusts etc to avoid paying inheritance tax. So he doesn’t feel like contributing!

Or to be more accurate, he has placed his working family farm in trust so it can continue to be economically viable producing the food we all eat, as a working family farm in the future. Mixed farming in the UK typically returns between 0.5% and 1.5% per annum.

Glastonbury Festival made £5.9m in 2023, of which £5.2m was donated to charity. The remainder was rolled forward to fund the prep for the festival in 2024.

x2boys · 28/06/2025 17:56

Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 17:36

You know exactly how much all of the families receive in disability payments? I can't think of one friend that knows how much DLA my son gets.

Same it's not something you go shouting about is it ?

Pandersmum · 28/06/2025 17:58

Golfbluemotion · 28/06/2025 16:27

Something so many people seem to miss is the fact we live in a country where it is so expensive to live that people can't survive on their income and rely on government top ups to cope with the cost.
Rents round here are about £1800 a month. That's someone's whole salary of £30k a year after tax

Housing costs are definitely a huge issue and a huge welfare cost as UC supports those costs going to (some) greedy landlords charging high rents because they can.

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TabathaOsbourne · 28/06/2025 18:00

Ban the rich from banking in tax haven countries. Brexit has made a helluva lot of money for the government due to taxes and duties paid by companies. Where is that money going as it was a source of income prior to Brexit?
My previous boss who owns a worldwide company, banks in the caymans, he was a Tory donor and got Covid transport contracts.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 28/06/2025 18:01

x2boys · 28/06/2025 17:56

Same it's not something you go shouting about is it ?

People seem to know the minutae of people's medical records and finances. I've never asked anyone about their disability or benefits.

KungFuFiatPanda · 28/06/2025 18:02

Pandersmum · 28/06/2025 17:58

Housing costs are definitely a huge issue and a huge welfare cost as UC supports those costs going to (some) greedy landlords charging high rents because they can.

Housing costs are the issue. If they were under control a lot of these other problems would disappear. But governments are scared of house prices falling, so they don't really want to tackle them.

Tiredofwhataboutery · 28/06/2025 18:03

Iwillclasptheeagain · 28/06/2025 17:43

It's amazing that it is considered by some to be unreasonable even to ask how we're going to pay for it.

Thw answer is that we aren't.

The crash when it comes is going to be devastating.

I think so too. It feels like it’s backward so we have increasing x number of people who are entitled to y so we need to come up with z.

Sendcrisis2025 · 28/06/2025 18:05

As a country we want the welfare and state support of a left wing country but paid for with the taxs of America.

The vast majority are delusional about how expensive it is to meet the expectations they demand.

Kirbert2 · 28/06/2025 18:07

x2boys · 28/06/2025 17:56

Same it's not something you go shouting about is it ?

Exactly.

Like I said too, it's also weird for a friend to ask about. If a friend asked me, I'd laugh and say it isn't any of their business.

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