To despise picky eaters?

[Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair]

If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

Nope, adults words.

Especially when it's family.

I have a very wide pallet but if for example someone put a plate of liver in front of me, it's not getting eaten no matter how much I'd love to be able to do it.

Therefore if I thought there was any chance of someone cooking it for me, I'd let them know.

A genuinely good host would welcome that information.

it happens but is rare

as i have said before, you won't even notice most of us. Bad manners is a separate issue and if it wasn't about food it would be about something else.

personally I hate rude judgy people.

people shouldn't judge others, its basic politeness

You think it’s “rude and entitled” of people to not eat certain foods? Are you serious?

I can’t eat cheese. If I were forced at gunpoint to swallow some it would come straight back up again as I would be sick. In my sixty years, this has never caused an issue to anyone who has hosted me.

Is there something else going on here because it just doesn’t ring true that anyone would be this inconsiderate and lacking in empathy. Do you hate SIL?

This is like a thread from a few weeks ago about noise, where plenty of people can't empathise with having such a problem that you need to wear noise cancelling headphones.

I personally cant cope with being inthe sun. I'm sure plenty of you would poo poo that too.

My husband hates being in water. I can't really understand that one but there we go.

So have some sympathy for food sensations that people can't tolerate. We are all different.

I find eating at othr people's houses very stressful because I have a severe allergy to shellfish, and even though it is one that is very easy to accommodate, as people have said, this means I have forfeited the right to have any foods that I dislike.
Its not even as though I am particularly fussy, its more that I feel self conscious mentioning the allergy, and feel even more embarrassed to admit to not liking something.
Luckily, most people cook the sort of meal where you serve yourself, so if necessary I can just pick at some bread and salad rather than drawing attention to myself.

So making myself sick just so I eat whatever in front of me is politeness? I think of it more as being a mug

Life is not black and white. With family can be fine dependently on who the family are and how you put it. Letting people know about your preferences in advance can be fine, dependently on the situation, preferences and how it is said.

My post was quite clearly referring to attending a meal at someone's house and not making an effort, which is not a very adult thing to do. I simply pointed out that people making an effort enjoy social advantages, which is a fact.

On a complete unrelated note, I know it is often misspelled and text autocorrect does not help, but you probably meant a palette 🎨. A pallet is one of those wooden bases used to move heavy stuff with a forklift. Sorry, you probably know that, but the thought of someone proudly showing up for dinner with a giant pallet made me laugh.

So being a fussy eater means you are superior to the rest of us who have manners?

Being a super taster has nothing to do with manners or being superior. It just means we can taste things in a more extreme way. It causes problems because if something tastes or smells different I struggle to eat it. For example, there are certain oils which make food unpalatable to me. I can smell straight away if that oil has been used.

I’d love not to be a super taster but it’s not something I can change.

Well done 😉🥩

Pedant alert.
Palette - used by artists to mix paint
Pallet - used to move goods around
Palate - part of your mouth, also used to describe your eating preferences as in, 'Her child has a very wide palate, he eats everything'.

No, and I wlll eat anything
it is a genuine sensory thing where tastes are very intense
i like really spicy food, a super taster would hate it

Ah the old “get what you’re given and be grateful for it” trope.

The 1950s called, they want your attitude back.

What's sad is how many people are hosting with the priority being cooking food they like and enjoy rather than sharing a meal everyone enjoys.i wouldn't cook my sister mushrooms because she doesn't like them. Yes I can cook them and she might force them down but I know she's not enjoying them so why would I want that?

Of course people can be rude about not eating a certain food, but rude people will also be rude about food they do like - the portion sizes or how they cook it better. It's because they're rude, not because of how many foods they eat

It has to do with being 'special'. Which often translates as being without manners.

How on earth have you worked that out? That doesn’t even make sense. It’s nothing yo do with manners at all. It’s genetic.
Like the genetic mutation which means coriander tastes disgusting to some people. It’s not a choice.

Unless you think being a super taster is a made up thing?

Oh dear lol.

This.

To be honest if I make something and there’s an alternative or it’s all kind of bits they can self select what they do like, then I’m not going round doing individual custom orders- I’m not a restaurant

Some of us were around in the 50s. For years I thought 'getting the rations' just meant going shopping.
I think the point is more that we all waste far too much food and it is ok to be picky in your own house and in a restaurant (after all you may be paying) but in other people's homes one should be a bit more flexible if it's only a preference, not an allergy/illness such as diabetes, or a religious observance.

Out of curiosity do you consider eating disorders such as ARFID an illness?

I’m a vegetarian - do you include me in this list of irritants?

I'm a massively picky eater but I would never expect any host to cater to me. It's my issue not theirs! I'll just bring wine and drink whilst they eat 😆🍷🤣