To despise picky eaters?

[Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair]

If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

We know ☺️
But there is a lot of us that do struggle with food, and I was just agreeing with the poster as we are very similar. It’s not often I find people with similar issues to mine.

I totally agree with you.
People should just be able to eat what they want, without judgement.

@HighLadyofTheNightCourt I knew nothing about ARFID until a friend's son was diagnosed with it about 18 months ago. From what she's shared with me, it's a serious eating disorder, just as anorexia and bulimia are. It's certainly not in the same category as merely disliking certain foods.

Her son was 11 when he was diagnosed and his doctors were v. concerned at how deficient he was both calories-wise and in certain vitamins and minerals as this could affect his growth and development, particularly as he enters adolescence. He now has to take various supplements, and his Mum has altered her schedule so that he can come home for lunch every day, because he wasn't eating anything at school.

So, I somewhat get it now @HighLadyofTheNightCourt. It's definitely not comparable to "fussy eating."

Kind of wish I was fussy 😂 there is nothing wrong with boundaries

It’s not rude or ungrateful to say you don’t like something.

I’d actually be quite upset if I found out a visitor to my home had eaten something they didn’t like rather than being honest with me.

We’re all human, we all have likes and dislikes. I’m not a fussy eater but there are things that I can’t eat - more to do with texture really, my gag reflex gets set off and i do think vomiting at the table would be rude😂

I don't get the idea of steak being a treat. I like steak now and then but I really don't know why people think it's so great. I find it quite bland. I'd much rather have a beautifully cooked piece of pink liver.

My in-laws are picky and they act as if I’m a big greedy troll because I eat most things, whereas they’re superior because they’re particular and fussy about what they eat. Which is funny because I rarely see them eat a vegetable.

i have never been a fussy eater but I had campylobacter last year and haven’t touched chicken since
I have even tried quorn chicken style nuggets and had to spit it out before I was sick
Fish, olives, pickles, tofu, mustard, mussels… I’ll eat anything else!

The only people I have ever witnessed make a fuss about someone else's picky eating have been fat.

I totally agree with you OP. SN or allergies/religious reasons aside, it's eat up and shut up in our house. Fortunately we don't have fussy friends. We know about the odd (rare) thing that can be avoided easily but you can't come with a list as long as your arm. Nope.

The most picky eaters I have ever met are fat

I mean I’m speaking from experience, I am autistic and do have related issues with food

Now this post is more understandable than the original!
I think I would be more annoyed at MIL’s expectation that because one person doesn’t like chicken, I shouldn’t even serve it…
When my many vegan friends come for a BBQ, they don’t complain about the carnivores’ food - they just enjoy the vegan food I’ve prepared separately for them!

I dunno, maybe it is to explain why some of us perceived as simply irritatingly picky, rude, entitled, ungrateful... will actually turn down food rather than force it down in silence.

Thats usually the way threads go - people say one thing, others offer another perspective or experience... have you been introduced to the concept of conversation before or is this new?

My daughter ended up in hospital with food poisoning after eating chicken and simply cannot face it now. My dil doesn’t like the taste of lamb. I don’t like liver. My dp is allergic to eggs. My son doesn’t like raw tomatoes. Surprisingly enough, I manage to cook for all of us with no difficulty.

Despise? Really?

I love cooking. I would positively relish the idea of finding alternatives for people.

I’ve just had a transplant and the number of things I am no longer able to eat due to infection risk is astronomical.: no cured meats/pate/shellfish/pink meat I.e rare/medium rare/no smoked salmon/live yoghurt//certain cheese. Oh and buffets are a no.

You have complained they are rigid as they are fussy but surely you not being able to abide fussy eaters is also rigid thinking? I just find the attitude of eat what is given a really odd stance- food is one of lifes greatest pleasures not something to be endured.

That’s a bizarre conflagration- because you don’t eat broccoli means your a shit shag? 🤔 on the other hand, having preferences means your good in bed as you prioritise pleasure!
I also agree with many PP if you don’t like a food just say I don’t like it- you don’t have to say it’s disgusting. Too much hyperbole on both sides of the coin (unless we are talking about liquorice of course!)

I hope the SIL knows what lies in store for her this weekend! Whilst she might be able to dodge the chicken, she won’t be able to miss the OP’s huffing, puffing and killer looks! Probably used to it 😆

Then you don’t dislike pork @Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair

i dislike mushrooms and no way would I eat them all up

shudders at slime

I completely get that. I did say I probably lived in a bubble.

If you were going to someone’s for dinner surely you would say, oh by the way I don’t eat pork. I don’t eat lamb so I’d make sure I pointed it out beforehand.

How many times is an adult actually faced with having to eat the food that is put in front of them even if they don’t like it? It must be pretty rare.

Surely if someone invites you to dinner a conversation is had about anything you don’t like? I couldn’t imagine inviting someone to dinner and not asking if there’s anything they didn’t want served.

If I forced myself to eat something I didn’t like, I would then be running to the bathroom to vomit. I have autism and have sensory issues around food that means if I can’t stand the texture, I can’t make myself eat it.