To despise picky eaters?

[Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair]

If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

At my mils i had to offend her and refuse the hot dog slathered in ketchup she offered me..I fucking hate ketchup and will not eat it to appease anyone!!

Not trolling. Trying to be honest. Trying to explain how fussy eaters traditionally appear to non-fussy eaters. A bit prissy and squeamish. (It’s an unreasonable assumption, I’m sure.)

And I don’t think I’m changing my “argument”. Again, not trying to argue, but trying to explain. Someone said that people who ate anything were somehow taking the joy out of eating. I was just positing that it appears the opposite to the rest of us.

As I said earlier, I have honestly changed my mind on all this. I had been told all my life (certainly by my parents) that fussy eaters were spoilt, unimaginative, childish and picky. Everything people say on this thread tells me otherwise. I don’t think it’s very helpful, though, for people who can’t/won’t eat certain foods to pretend the rest of us are morally deficient, though!

So you would eat tripe then?
Liver and onions?

There is always food you don't like doesn't make you "picky" just means you don't like something I'm really not sure why people think grown adults arnt allowed to have food preferences

Well, without getting too graphic about it, when I hear people saying that pretty bland things like chicken or mushrooms are disgusting or repulsive, I wonder what other… tastes… they find disgusting or repulsive. And again with extreme sensory / textural issues.

buffet.

Don't know a single adult with diagnosed autism and even the ones I suspect might be (brother) eats anything. I've never heard another adult talk about ARFID as a problem either. If someone says, 'I don't like tomatoes' you accommodate them.
I realise that means I live in a bubble bit I truly never have had this discussion with an adult.

Pub.

Liver and onions are delicious and only my mother has served me tripe.

Quite. And saying they have ARFID when they are really just fussy. ARFID is a serious and rare medical condition...but the number of people that trot it out, including on this thread are statistically highly unlikely to all have a diagnosis.

If your food issues are that severe then you'd think you would let hosts cooking for you know in advance.

I am a supertaster. Anything that tastes pleasantly bitter to others tastes dreadful to me

I’m with you to some extent OP. Probably in part because I’m celiac, I have to be so strict about what I eat so when people are like “no red peppers or french cheese” I do find myself thinking get a fkn grip…🙄

when you’re hosting/inviting its crucial to say at invite stage “any dietary requirements” and this is the point at which people can say allergies or strong dislikes. After that they’ll eat what they’re given in my house and I’ll think them rude if they don’t eat it/spring any last minute gripes on me.

I'm not a fan of ketchup but manners would mean I just ate it, honestly or found a surreptitious way to wipe if off.

Haha, definitely. No way am I preparing a buffet for five!

It doesn't, what bothers is when non broccoli Belinda bores and drones on about being non broccoli and the trauma that broccoli brings..

Why are you judging people just because they have food preferences? Do you treat all so-called 'fussy eaters' with the same contempt or just the ones you dislike and create drama around? You sound insufferable. People have a right to express their food preferences.

nah, I'd sooner just not eat at yours.

To me, different tastes are preferring chicken to beef or potatoes to pasta. If someone cooks me food I'll just eat it whether it's my favourite food or not.

I’ve been medically diagnosed with ARFID.
One aspect of ARFID is the social anxiety around discussing with other people. I don’t like to draw attention to my disordered eating and have only disclosed my diagnosis to a small handful of people.
I will go to great lengths to hide it.

Me too. Hate fussy adult eaters

Well they can,but they can't then expect their demands to be met by others.
Youngest dc has allergies so we bring food to parties, rather than expect other to manage this.

I was subjected to "sit till you finish" at school. That's where I found out about the projectile vomiting.

I was swinging towards fussy eater sympathy, but most of the judgment seems to be against us weirdos who will eat offal. I for one am very glad I will eat anything. I also love travel, I do judge people who go abroad and moan about ‘foreign food’. It is part of the holiday

I don't eat chicken or pork, for no other reason than I dislike them, yet I still get invited to eat at friend's houses regularly

There is nothing dramatic about letting you know someone does not eat certain food lol.
Unless you planned to serve them just a loads of roasted chicken wothout anything else in sight surelly you could have just go on with your life and expect DIL to eat something else. Or if you want to be nice put some sausage or whatever simple thing she eats. I even do that for my MIL ffs.

And use your big girls voice and tell others you don't eat pork so they don't plate it up for you and eat the rest.

Idk why people make so much drama over people eating over, it's not like they will die of starvation for not eating everything offered that one meal they are there.

I like to serve things that the people I love enjoy.