To despise picky eaters?

[Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair]

If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

I find it really dry.

Either accommodate or dont invite them, quite simple

You sound like a non-taster. About 20-25% of people have comparatively few fungiform papillae. It means you can't taste things properly, so are unlikely to have foods that you strongly dislike and can't eat. You most likely don't understand why people genuinely despise certain foods, but that's because you aren't experiencing why. I love mushrooms, for example, but I understand why someone would hate them, as I know what it's like to hate something.

On the other end of the scale are super-tasters, about 20% of the population with extremely dense fungiform papillae. We taste things like the disgusting chemical in cucumbers and are so sensitive to it that we will taste it off anything a cucumber touched.

@Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair life’s too short to eat food you don’t enjoy .

I don’t believe chicken should be taken off the menu though it’s not like there aren’t other choices .

I was going to ask why you're now changing your argument (to something equally stupid) but having seen the sex post I see you're just trolling.

It's only dry if it is cooked badly.
The key to get a really moist chicken is to rest it after you take it out of the oven. and buy buying a good quality chicken in the first place of course.

My mum's experiment with me shows that's not the case.

In the 60s, west of Scotland, she fed us the standard local diet and I genuinely hated just about everything. And she tolerated no dissent. We had to eat everything on our plates. I would apparently sit for hours as I tried to eat eg mince and tatties, beef olives, plain white fish, rice pudding....

We were given no choice. She was hysterical, so was I.

Turns out I can't eat bland/soft food. As we barely even had ketchup to put on the food, it was a genuine struggle for me.

And I never did get used to it. Anything like that makes me gag.

I don't like chicken. It tastes horrible to me. I can just about manage it in a curry or something with strong flavours, otherwise yuck.

I am an adult who can't eat fish.
I have tried. I test it from time to time because I would much prefer to not be "fussy" but it makes me extremely nauseous every single time.
Likewise, if I eat an unexpected texture I cannot complete my meal. Again, I'd love to not be this way but the options are not easy it or gag and probably end up crying.
It's not a preference. I would love to be able to eat anything but it's just not a reality for me.

I'm fairly tolerant to people have a handful of dislikes, particularly of foods that are widely accepted to be acquired tastes as strong flavours or unusual textures... But I must admit to feeling irritated /judgy when I come across adults who are ridiculously picky, eat few veg and really only eat beige crap like children. I don't voice it but in my head I roll my eyes and think surely as an adult it's time to try and broaden your palate a bit just to avoid being that awkward person people have to take a lot of trouble to accommodate?

I don't consider myself a particularly picky eater and I'm not a vegetarian but thanks to the memory of school dinners I would rather eat my own foot than any type of offal.

This is a hill I am happy to die on and if it means I miss out on a slew of dinner party invites then so be it.

I'm picky because it makes me ill. I have to explain to my husband it's not that I don't like it but it doesn't like me.

Why should I be stuck in the bathroom just to please the cook.

I don’t think hosting is for you. Most hosts love to cook things their guests would enjoy, create a welcoming atmosphere, and generally try and foster conditions for a good time! I always ask my guests if there is anything they don’t like and I’ve always been asked if there is anything I don’t like. I’ve never felt awkward about telling people I don’t like a certain food (my friends always put their friends at ease), and I’ve never been annoyed if people don’t like a certain food. There’s always something lovely you can make, maybe you need to expand your repertoire Nd have a bit more imagination?

She can just eat all of the non-chicken food…

This, I don't care if someone doesn't want to eat something in particular, that's fine, but don't make it your personality, or expect others to dance around you and change what they're eating doing.

And that's not meaning allergies/intolerance...

My in laws are all gluten free and half vegetarian. We absolutely cater for all 😆 I also don’t eat chicken and hate it lol! If someone cooked it I’d just eat anything else on the plate but if someone asked me I’d let them know I don’t each chicken.

I'd also agree with this. Theres no need to use such loaded language, it spoils the food for other people to insist on describing it as 'disgusting'. If you personally don't like it fine, but there's no need to be overtly rude about it when it's a foodstuff widely accepted to be palatable.

Can't people just choose what bits they eat? Why does it bother you if someone doesn't want broccoli with their dinner?

Btw my younger daughter is hugely fussy - off the scale fussy.

She is adopted and was severely neglected as a baby/infant.

A therapist explained to me that she was probably given lumpy, off milk, which would make her gag. She finds all food suspicious as a result. She can't help it - it's hard wired.

She is an adult now. She has a boyfriend. His father mocks her food fussiness and it upsets her enormously. She doesn't have the words to describe to him what happened to her as a baby. He knows she's adopted but not the details.

And OP, and many of you, if she came to your house you would judge her too.

I mean whatever floats your boat…🤷🏼‍♀️

I’ve seen people post similar ridiculous questions and assumptions on other ‘fussy eater’ posts.
I live a very adventurous life. I’ve travelled the world, have a successful career and an ‘interesting’ sex life… more so than the average person.
Your assumptions and sarky comments say far more about you than my medically diagnosed eating disorder.

I‘m sorry my eating disorder offends you so much …🙄

Seems like a lot of effort to feed five! If everyone is stringent with their dislikes I think I'd suggest a takeaway or restaurant.

My in-laws won’t eat ‘foreign food’ (their words). No pizza, pasta, rice, curry, noodles and so on. 😵‍💫

Please enlighten me on how sex is related to eating habits?

Does it change viewpoint if a fussy eater’s eating habits doesn’t impact you / they are not vocal about it?

e.g. don’t use words like disgusting, don’t request alternative food to be provided, avoid a social occasion e.g. restaurant if they can’t face going due to certain smells etc or just eat the bits they are happy to eat?

I cannot imagine anyone actually wants to be a fussy eater, it has a huge impact on their life several times a day!