To despise picky eaters?

[Brownoliveskincurlyblackhair]

If you have an allergy or religious reasons not to eat something, fine obviously but grown adults who 'don't eat' something absolutely irk me beyond words. My MIL looked horrified earlier when I said I was making chicken as a part of a weekend spread because SIL 'doesn't eat it'. I have accommodated for SIL but honestly, I was bought up that you get what you're given and eat what's infront of you. It's terrible manners is it not?

Yabu - hosts should cater for preferences
Yanbu - it's rude

One thing that never makes picky eaters look good is when they tell you that a food you like is disgusting or revolting.

No, it isn't.

How can you be an adult and not understand that people just have different tastes? How does that happen?

I am so surprised by the poll results!
I must be out of touch

I find social eating a big hassle as there are so many things I don't eat for health reasons. But I don't expect others to cater for my tastes, I would just avoid anything I don't eat.

that you mother ? cause that what she does-invites people for dinners makes a martyr of her self preparing food cooking etc then it's nothing I eat - like she bloody knows what I eat. sameast week with my own mil invited for dinner and nothing I eat was served - I ate a plate of mashed potatoes and butter we had people over recently one a vegetarian- made the effort to cook something nice for her and she really appreciated it
I am a fussy eater bacuse of the way I was brought up I was force fed alot - smells of certain foods still make me heave - would be made sit for ages until my dinner was eaten
you don't know why people are fussy eaters- I am getting better but it's been hard and if anyone comments on my eating I can't eat at all - if you know she won't eat certain things then don't cook them.

Well I ea everything except lychees, but why would I ever eat something I didn't li ke?

Oh do piss off. Some people are more sensitive to taste than others, some people can eat everything and it doesn't bother them, for some people some food tastes absolutely revolting and there's nothing they could do about it. You could hand me a plate of dog shit and a plate of bacon and I'd have the same reaction to both, not by choice I should add. Maybe try being more tolerant.

Me too. I’m in my fifties so unlikely I’ll “grow out of it” now

I agree with this. How bizarre to invite people to your house but not check tastes to make a fairly inoffensive meal.

I don't eat seafood, I just don't, I find it disgusting and it makes me gag, I can't stand the smell of it, the taste of it, or the texture of it. Nothing is making me eat it and I've never come across anyone who would invite me to eat at their house and then insist I eat fish. Totally mental that anyone would do that with any food.

One pot of beef Bolognese, one pot of chicken in a creamy mushroom sauce. Roasted vegetables that compliment both. Nut free dessert

I hate being a picky eater. I have tried many times but I find many things so bitter it's more than unpleasant. I was also force fed things like cabbage as a child which means that I have nausea when new foods are being tried.

I'm also vegetarian. A vegetarian who doesn't like many veg.

I hate it far more than anyone else ever could. So give it a rest eh.

Having likes and dislikes doesn't make you picky in my eyes. I'll eat most things but too much spice (mostly curry) is where my line is - I don't find it enjoyable if it's painful to eat 🤣

For my DH it's fish, he can't stand the smell, taste or texture!

You've said yourself you don't like pork, and that's okay. The only difference is you'd suck it up when some others wouldn't. I find that odd as eating is supposed to be enjoyable and would always check guests' preferences - we're not toddlers who must eat every scrap or need cajoled to just try it!

Well you can thank my parents for fussy eating - yes we were told there was nothing to eat if we didn't finish our dinner - but it was also forced down our throats, left sitting at the table for hours until you plate was clear. yes my parents gave me "power " didn't they ? the smell of roast beef makes me heave still and I am in my late 40s. I never ate peas for years until my husband showed me a different way of cooking and I never ever eat a dinner at my parents house now. I would rather starve then eat another one of my mother's dinners.

I think it’s more rude if I throw up because I can’t stand the taste of something! Which is what happens if I eat prawns or salmon. I’m not allergic, I just hate the taste and smell so much

Well, my take on this is that fussy eaters don't appear to find eating pleasurable. Going on about what you don't like or can't eat is hardly a great stamp of approval on the whole eating thing.

I am not a fussy eater. I think eating should be pleasurable. I think being fussy about what you put in your gob sucks the pleasure out of eating occasions. Having a lovely sharing meal where everyone has a bit of everything is impossible with fussy eaters. Eating as a social occasion is diminished.

It's more weird to force yourself to eat something you absolutely don't like just because someone cooked it. Just politely opt out.

I would cater for you.

As someone who is a picky eater, I'm not picky for a laugh. Some foods make me physically ill if I eat it (yes I've vomited eating food I forced myself to eat to 'be mannerly' while eating food made for me), and my stomach churns even thinking if eating it. I hate it, and unless you have that kind of physical reaction you can't understand how distressing it can be.

That is so ridiculous I don't know where to start. If someone likes some music genres and not others and enjoys discussing it, does that mean they don't find any pleasure in music?

I also wonder what fussy eaters are like at sex.

I used to do an informal dinner for my small staff group each year to coincide with a Christmas event in my town. It seemed that each year, yet another ‘food allergy’ was added in. It started well, with just one vegetarian to cater for which was fine. Then I was presented with a pasta allergy. Then someone else developed a nut allergy and although she was alarmingly cavalier about it I wasn’t going to be the one to kill her. Then the vegetarian went vegan. That year was my swan song. Strangely enough none of the erstwhile diners offered to take it on.🤷‍♀️

It’s a shame they weren’t subjected to ‘there’s f@ck all else’ - then they wouldn’t be so fussy.

I spent a period of my childhood in significant poverty and experienced plenty of 'there's fuck all else', trying to choke down the worst kind of cheap, lumpy, chewy, back of the freezer mince. That's exactly why I, as an adult with some respect for myself and my prior experiences, would not force myself to eat something I don't like now, and nor would I ever dream of having a go at someone else for it either.

Right you must tell us what you served up as the full meal, so that we can make sense ie dould SIL have a full meal without chicken.

Just because you're happy to play the martyr doesn't mean other people should have to.

I don't think that's a great metaphor.

I think fussy eaters are more like the people who would skip through the tracks they can't beat to listen to on a collective playlist. "I can't listen to that It's disgusting!"