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Nothing about being able to opt out of DNA testing?

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BlueJuniper94 · 27/06/2025 17:19

So why is there no mention of being able to opt out of this? Isn't this just going to encourage some people to avoid engaging with HCPs altogether?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1ljg7v0vmpo

OP posts:
alexalisten · 28/06/2025 15:30

MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 14:38

Calm your tits. I was sincerely answering a question (“who is not allowed to donate?”) I interpreted as someone being genuinely curious.

Edited

I haven't heard calm your tits for a while 🤣🤣🤣

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 19:11

sueelleker · 28/06/2025 09:48

I figure it's for people who kept meaning to opt in, but never got around to it. Does the new system also prevent relatives from denying donation, even if they knew the person wanted to?

No. Regardless of if you have opted in. Or if you’ve NOT opted out, it is always the nok who can over rule the decision. And if it’s a split family (half want it, half don’t) we don’t go ahead with donation. Hence my bewilderment that some people feel patients are whisked to theatre against the families consent. It just wouldn’t happen. No health care professional would allow it. And the consent form is completed with the family by a specialist nurse employed by NHSBT. It’s not the hospital NHS staff that arrange the donation process. They refer to the regional organ donation team and they come to the hospital to assess the patient and approach the family.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 19:22

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 10:46

This is since the law changed to be opt out rather than opt in.
He died very tragically & don't think he had ever thought about dying - he certainly never would have opted in.

We definitely did not consent. He was separated from his wife but was legally still married. She was happy for his organs to be taken (she hated him & hated our mother in particular). As his loved ones we strongly objected.

It's not newsworthy at all as it legal. People just don't realize that is the reality. People think loved ones are given a choice but the reality is legally they don't have to.

We did speak anonymously when the law changed in England (in Wales it happened earlier) and would be happy to speak out anonymously if you know anyone that might be interested as I think it is important for people to hear. I spoke to a journalist from Guardian but she was not able to run the story (they are not allowed to run certain negative stories about NHS care)

Ah this now makes sense. If his wife was nok then she has consented. Were you all at the hospital with her? split families are complicated but no specialist nurse would continue if there were people there speaking up saying they didn’t want it.
I am truly sorry for your loss. If your brother was neurologically dead his official time of death would have been on the icu before he donated and people would have still been allowed with him after. If he was a donor after circulatory death he would have passed away in the anaesthetic room and he would have been allowed someone with him. Potentially his wife may have been there but not told you? But there will have been a nurse with him throughout making sure he was treated with the dignity and respect he deserved. I hope in time to come you find some peace knowing that your brother was a true hero in every sense of the word.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 19:24

smallglassbottle · 28/06/2025 13:27

https://www.organdonation.nhs.uk/register-your-decision/do-not-donate/

You fill it in, then they send you a letter, then you have to fill in another online form.

Not true. You do it online. It is then completed.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 28/06/2025 19:28

HoskinsChoice · 27/06/2025 19:22

Like another poster, I'm also intrigued. Why did you opt out? And would you accept a donor if necessary?

I do feel, quite strongly, that if you opt out of donating, you should automatically opt out of receiving as well...

smallglassbottle · 28/06/2025 19:34

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 19:24

Not true. You do it online. It is then completed.

Yes, then they send you a letter and you have to go back online and fill something else in. Online.

MoominUnderWater · 28/06/2025 19:42

ZoeCM · 28/06/2025 14:41

Hopefully this will be a wake-up call for anyone thinking of lying to their child about their true parentage. Yes, I'm aware that this scheme isn't going to test for paternity/maternity - but this is just the beginning. DNA tests will soon be a routine part of healthcare, and we're sitting on a ticking timebomb. A lot of "full" siblings are going to find out that they're actually half-siblings, or aren't even related at all.

I'm amazed by the MN posters who blithely announce that they've lied by omission to their child about being donor-conceived, or advise cheating women to "keep quiet if the potential dads look similar enough", or let their child believe that their stepdad is their real dad. Doing that in the 50s was bad enough, but doing it in an era where 23andMe exists is painfully stupid.

I did Ancestry and soon realised that my mum’s dad was not her dad. Was a bit of a shock to say the least!

InWalksBarberalla · 28/06/2025 23:04

Lardychops · 28/06/2025 13:23

How do we opt out?
I wish to do so and 5 out of 6 of my adult kids to do the same want to do the same.
DH said they can have the lot of him but I will veto that if I’m allowed.

What? You'd veto your husband's wishes?
Why are you and 5 of your children so anti organ donation? Would you all also refuse to receive a life saving donation?

CinnamonCinnabar · 29/06/2025 08:30

DeafLeppard · 28/06/2025 09:40

Firstly, chemo services are relatively well funded.

Secondly, studies such as this one means we can only offer chemo to patients who will actually benefit. In ovarian cancer, we give chemo to everyone, for whom at least 30% of patients will not respond and we have no idea which 30% will. It’s even more important to be able to predict response based on bio markers - such as genomic data - when we are looking at newer therapies that can cost over £100k per course.

Finally the newborn study is not about finding random conditions that will affect you when you are older.

And yes, this is my day job.

I'm a medic too and I honestly don't see how newborn genomics will be useful for studies of chemotherapy response in midlife & older adults. Surely what you need there is a genomics study of people with the cancer of interest looking for somatic or cancer genetic factors that correlate with chemo response. I understood that's it's often the genetics of the cancer cells that are relevant to treatment response.

noctilucentcloud · 29/06/2025 10:36

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 10:12

Then I also want to see a system in place whereby you only receive blood or blood products if you also donate. And the amount you receive in proportion to what you have donated (taking into consideration age or other mitigating factors)

I don't think practically or ethically we can or should have a system where recieving an organ or blood is dependent on donating (or being willing donate). For blood there is a lot of reasons why people cannot donate (weight, travel, ill-health etc). I meant that it's a moral question we should ask ourselves when considering whether we should opt out of the organ donation register.

ttcat37 · 29/06/2025 12:31

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 12:10

But they can all donate organs?

They can all opt in to donate but whether they’re accepted is not up to them. Would you want an organ from someone with cancer? Hepatitis?
The vast majority of people I've known to receive organs have received them from young, healthy people who have sadly been in accidents and met an untimely end. Not people who have died because they were poorly (like most people who die).

BIossomtoes · 29/06/2025 12:55

noctilucentcloud · 29/06/2025 10:36

I don't think practically or ethically we can or should have a system where recieving an organ or blood is dependent on donating (or being willing donate). For blood there is a lot of reasons why people cannot donate (weight, travel, ill-health etc). I meant that it's a moral question we should ask ourselves when considering whether we should opt out of the organ donation register.

I’d willingly donate blood, they don’t want mine because I have had hepatitis.

evelynevelyn · 20/07/2025 15:09

evelynevelyn · 28/06/2025 07:56

What she is saying is not a conspiracy theory though. A conspiracy theory is believing there is a large and complex conspiracy to conceal something.

She’s saying she thinks that if incentives change, that might affect decisions on end-of-life care or continuing with treatment for people who already have slim chances of surviving.

You might think that’s an unfounded worry, but it’s not a conspiracy theory. If you characterize the concern fairly then you can look for evidence one way or the other on how plausible it is. If you just shout lizards then you are the one degrading the discussion.

@alexalisten I guess it’s this sort of thing the pp is concerned about.

Nothing about being able to opt out of DNA testing?
Nothing about being able to opt out of DNA testing?
saltinesandcoffeecups · 20/07/2025 16:05

Organ and blood donation aside… DNA collection is on a whole different level.

People need to think long and hard about the implications, of which we haven’t even fathomed yet, of providing DNA. Laws (in any country) haven’t come close to catching up with the technology so I’m of the opinion that it’s too risky to let anyone have my DNA and to store it. There is absolutely no way that I’d consent on someone else’s behalf.

Anyone that has used 23andme dodged a bullet when they went through bankruptcy. That data was almost sold to the highest bidder.

When I was diagnosed with cancer I was given a form to opt into ‘studies’. This form had no details on what was going to be collected, how it was going to be stored, who it was going to be shared with, and how long anything was going to be stored. It didn’t mention DNA at all but I assumed that was going to be part of it.

It’s a shame because I do have a relatively rare cancer, but the risk was not worth it. Hell, I wouldn’t even do a dog DNA test on my mutt because I was concerned about unknown consequences.

alexalisten · 20/07/2025 16:10

evelynevelyn · 20/07/2025 15:09

@alexalisten I guess it’s this sort of thing the pp is concerned about.

So if you can find an English article from a reputable source il read it

Sharptonguedwoman · 20/07/2025 16:14

MauriceTheMussel · 27/06/2025 21:50

This.

What pisses me off is the sneakiness and underhanded manner of it all.

it's been in the wind for years and years. Neither sneaky nor underhand.

Sharptonguedwoman · 20/07/2025 16:17

alexalisten · 20/07/2025 16:10

So if you can find an English article from a reputable source il read it

New approach to organ and tissue donation in England: government response to public consultation
Maybe this but I haven't read it all. We're all signed up anyway.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/731913/govt-response-organ-donation-consent.pdf

adviceneeded1990 · 20/07/2025 16:50

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:27

We went through it with my brother. It is what happened.

Doesn’t it matter to you at all that this is clearly what your brother wanted seeing as he had not opted out? I’d be devastated to think that my loved ones would be upset by my choice after death but I’d also be really annoyed if they were trying to blame the NHS for following my wishes.

adviceneeded1990 · 20/07/2025 16:52

Lardychops · 28/06/2025 13:23

How do we opt out?
I wish to do so and 5 out of 6 of my adult kids to do the same want to do the same.
DH said they can have the lot of him but I will veto that if I’m allowed.

You’d veto your husbands wishes about what should be done with his own body parts?!?

JayJayEl · 20/07/2025 17:47

adviceneeded1990 · 20/07/2025 16:52

You’d veto your husbands wishes about what should be done with his own body parts?!?

I know, right?! That is an appalling level of disrespect to the person you have chosen to share your life with.

evelynevelyn · 20/07/2025 17:55

alexalisten · 20/07/2025 16:10

So if you can find an English article from a reputable source il read it

It’s in English and it’s from the New York Times which is a mainstream outlet.

pp’s worry wasn’t that the UK is like this now, but that it might become it.

My point is not that she’s right, but that you calling her, essentially, a tinfoil conspiracist, isn’t warranted.

You seem to have dismissed this one without reading it, because (you think) her view is stupid. If you are the reasonable rational one, shouldn’t you be reading first, not dismissing first?

evelynevelyn · 20/07/2025 18:16

Full article here:

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/07/20/us/organ-transplants-donors-alive.html

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