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Nothing about being able to opt out of DNA testing?

197 replies

BlueJuniper94 · 27/06/2025 17:19

So why is there no mention of being able to opt out of this? Isn't this just going to encourage some people to avoid engaging with HCPs altogether?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1ljg7v0vmpo

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MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 10:11

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:04

You want a respectful debate... and then suggest organs might go to a paedophile. 🙄🤣

Yes.

What don’t you understand?

No name-calling or shitty sarcastic comments (1-0 to you)

There IS a chance your organ goes to someone you morally (or otherwise) disagree with…how do you feel? That’s a real question. If it were my family member’s liver that went to George Best, I’d be mightily fucked off.

And you just shitting on Seren’s personal life story is horrible.

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 10:12

noctilucentcloud · 27/06/2025 20:24

The organ donation is nothing to do with the state owning your body. It was to try and increase the number of organ donors as there are more people needing transplants than organs available. It was well publicised and you can opt out at any time and change your mind at any time too if you've previously opted in. I've just checked and have found the online form to opt out in less than 30 seconds. Personally though I think if you are willing to accept an organ for yourself or a loved one, then you should be willing to also donate.

Then I also want to see a system in place whereby you only receive blood or blood products if you also donate. And the amount you receive in proportion to what you have donated (taking into consideration age or other mitigating factors)

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Genevieva · 28/06/2025 10:14

alexalisten · 28/06/2025 09:26

But this is the improvement

DNA Screening the whole population, including people with no family history and no symptoms is not the improvement. Timely use of the technology for those it might benefit is.

scoobiedoozie · 28/06/2025 10:16

Details not yet announced but I expect you will have to give consent (opt in) in the same way you do for the existing heel prick test.

scoobiedoozie · 28/06/2025 10:20

@Genevieva it's because many genetic conditions arise without a family history (Google recessive inheritance, and de novo mutations) and if caught early can have a massive impact on the child's health.

Lithiumday · 28/06/2025 10:21

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:03

If he wanted to donate, surely his mum would want what he wanted? It is his body after all and he wanted to do something amazing in his last act by giving someone life. Your brother is a hero for that as the vast majority of us won't be able to do so, even if we'd like to.

I'm a little confused by what you think the NHS are lying to us about. How else do you think they're going to get the body parts out other than through surgery? And they can hardly wait until the patient has been dead for ages as the organs will no longer be viable. It's a huge stretch to say they're lying. It actually tells you what happens on the NHS donor website!

I've just done a quick Google search and trawled through various articles and I can't find a single article about people having their organs taken against their will in the UK. It is odd that you claim there are so many and yet there is no evidence of this in the media. The NHS do seek consent from family or a named representative even if the patient is on the register as being a willing donor. If what you say is true, surely it would be all over the media. I'd be interested to hear the full story, including whether his next of kin/named rep was asked.

I imagine you will make the Daily Mail now anyway as this is huge news...

If he wanted to donate, surely his mum would want what he wanted?

You've fallen from your moral high horse there. No one is compelled to feel any way about anything. Especially something as emotive as the death of their child. His mum can feel how she feels.

It reads to me as though this family felt underinformed about what would happen, and are now suffering emotionally because of that. That's a problem, even if everything was done by the book legally.

nearlylovemyusername · 28/06/2025 10:24

Soontobe60 · 28/06/2025 07:50

What utter nonsense! You really are a conspiracy theorist aren’t you? Do you also wear a tin foil hat?

Is this all you have to say?

Do you know that there are quite a few countries in this world where you can go and get organs you need for not such a huge money (not huge in UK terms)? We're very sheltered here to never think about it, but this is reality in less developed world.

As to BBC reporting and this project - if I read this last year I'd be really excited about it. Right now my gut reaction was - how can we ensure that this info is not used for any other, less benign, purposes? example of private insurance springs to mind, but we simply don't know today how our DNA codes and samples can be used in 10-20-30 years time.

ETA: This genetic testing can offer huge life changing benefits but can also pose very significant societal threats. I guess the key thing here is not just being able to opt out, but to ensure that no copies on code or samples are stored anywhere at all but by parents or children themselves when they grow up. The moment they are saved in some database you lose control over it.

Genevieva · 28/06/2025 10:31

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 10:12

Then I also want to see a system in place whereby you only receive blood or blood products if you also donate. And the amount you receive in proportion to what you have donated (taking into consideration age or other mitigating factors)

Is this hyperbole / an extension based on logic or your actual belief?

There seem to be three different parallel topics in your thread: universal DNA screening, organ donation and blood donation. With all of them there are issues of consent, but with DNA screening there is the added issue of data protection.

Practically speaking I see very little benefit in universal screening. It will through up issues that never needed to be found. Eg minor chromosome abnormalities that a person would previously have lived their entire lives with without consequence. It also creates a database that could be plundered at some point for nefarious ends, such as an enemy state creating DNA targeted pathogens.

Regarding being a donor or donation recipient: most people will never need an organ trans pant or even blood donation. I suspect the need focussed the mind in favour of both. But there are different types of donation with different levels of inconvenience and those most able to give are not evenly spread. Eg bone marrow is a lot less convenient to give then blood.

Blood donation is dependent on blood type. My blood is utterly useless because it is rare and only 2% of the population can receive it. I can receive any blood type though. If I died young I’d be happy for my organs to be donated, but I understand my blood type also makes them nigh on useless. In a system of reciprocity I would be denied blood or organ transplants because I can’t reciprocate. Thankfulky, should I ever need either, the NHS is built in a system of care at the point of need based on clinical assessment, not the beliefs of the patient.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 28/06/2025 10:34

The most important thing about organ donation isn’t whether you opt in or out it’s about the conversations you have with your family beforehand.

Statistically 50% of families say no to organ donation if the potential donor’s wishes aren’t known and haven’t been discussed with them. That figure drops to just 10% if they have.

The problem with opt-out is that people now assume that their organs will automatically be donated if they haven’t opted out, and they don’t take consideration of the fact that their next of kin still have the final say, even though this is clearly stated on the NHS blood and transplant website.

So people need t be having the conversations with their families regarding their wishes.

Nobody should be forced to donate their organs, and even if you opt to be a donor there’s a chance your organs won’t be eligible. I had more than one false alarm before I actually received my heart. Am having to be a bit more vague now in case this becomes traceable.

Nobody wants an organ from someone who would be forced to donate. People can say no for whatever reason they want. Personally I don’t think that family should be allowed to override a decision if someone actively carries a donor card, but the family do ultimately have that say as they’re the ones left behind.

With regards to whether your organs go to a paedophile, you’ll never know, and if you want to be picky then presumably you are so about all walks of life, never donate to charity etc in case a bad person benefits and so on.

But that’s a two way street. As a recipient there’s no guarantee that your donor was a good person either. After all, it’s the family who make the decision. So would you refuse to receive an organ in case it’s the organ of a paedophile?

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:45

MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 10:11

Yes.

What don’t you understand?

No name-calling or shitty sarcastic comments (1-0 to you)

There IS a chance your organ goes to someone you morally (or otherwise) disagree with…how do you feel? That’s a real question. If it were my family member’s liver that went to George Best, I’d be mightily fucked off.

And you just shitting on Seren’s personal life story is horrible.

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You really think people should not donate because of the miniscule chance that the organ might go to a paedophile? Organ donations save lives, you want us to not save lives, just in case they're a paedophile? Whilst I'm not religious and don't agree with those that refuse to donate/accept donations as a result of their beliefs, I do appreciate that this is their religion and that's their choice. But encouraging people not to donate on the off-chance their blood/organs may go to a paedophile is possibly the craziest thing I've read on mumsnet. And this site is literally awash with crazies!

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 10:46

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:03

If he wanted to donate, surely his mum would want what he wanted? It is his body after all and he wanted to do something amazing in his last act by giving someone life. Your brother is a hero for that as the vast majority of us won't be able to do so, even if we'd like to.

I'm a little confused by what you think the NHS are lying to us about. How else do you think they're going to get the body parts out other than through surgery? And they can hardly wait until the patient has been dead for ages as the organs will no longer be viable. It's a huge stretch to say they're lying. It actually tells you what happens on the NHS donor website!

I've just done a quick Google search and trawled through various articles and I can't find a single article about people having their organs taken against their will in the UK. It is odd that you claim there are so many and yet there is no evidence of this in the media. The NHS do seek consent from family or a named representative even if the patient is on the register as being a willing donor. If what you say is true, surely it would be all over the media. I'd be interested to hear the full story, including whether his next of kin/named rep was asked.

I imagine you will make the Daily Mail now anyway as this is huge news...

This is since the law changed to be opt out rather than opt in.
He died very tragically & don't think he had ever thought about dying - he certainly never would have opted in.

We definitely did not consent. He was separated from his wife but was legally still married. She was happy for his organs to be taken (she hated him & hated our mother in particular). As his loved ones we strongly objected.

It's not newsworthy at all as it legal. People just don't realize that is the reality. People think loved ones are given a choice but the reality is legally they don't have to.

We did speak anonymously when the law changed in England (in Wales it happened earlier) and would be happy to speak out anonymously if you know anyone that might be interested as I think it is important for people to hear. I spoke to a journalist from Guardian but she was not able to run the story (they are not allowed to run certain negative stories about NHS care)

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 10:50

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:03

If he wanted to donate, surely his mum would want what he wanted? It is his body after all and he wanted to do something amazing in his last act by giving someone life. Your brother is a hero for that as the vast majority of us won't be able to do so, even if we'd like to.

I'm a little confused by what you think the NHS are lying to us about. How else do you think they're going to get the body parts out other than through surgery? And they can hardly wait until the patient has been dead for ages as the organs will no longer be viable. It's a huge stretch to say they're lying. It actually tells you what happens on the NHS donor website!

I've just done a quick Google search and trawled through various articles and I can't find a single article about people having their organs taken against their will in the UK. It is odd that you claim there are so many and yet there is no evidence of this in the media. The NHS do seek consent from family or a named representative even if the patient is on the register as being a willing donor. If what you say is true, surely it would be all over the media. I'd be interested to hear the full story, including whether his next of kin/named rep was asked.

I imagine you will make the Daily Mail now anyway as this is huge news...

Please don't speak on behalf of of my brother. You do not know him & do not know us.

He would have put his own mother's wishes first and he would have wanted her with him when he died.

alexalisten · 28/06/2025 10:55

Genevieva · 28/06/2025 10:14

DNA Screening the whole population, including people with no family history and no symptoms is not the improvement. Timely use of the technology for those it might benefit is.

I'd be fuming if this had been an option when I was a baby and my parents refused it because they thought it was pointless so I had to suffer. None of my conditions i have a family history of.

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:58

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 10:46

This is since the law changed to be opt out rather than opt in.
He died very tragically & don't think he had ever thought about dying - he certainly never would have opted in.

We definitely did not consent. He was separated from his wife but was legally still married. She was happy for his organs to be taken (she hated him & hated our mother in particular). As his loved ones we strongly objected.

It's not newsworthy at all as it legal. People just don't realize that is the reality. People think loved ones are given a choice but the reality is legally they don't have to.

We did speak anonymously when the law changed in England (in Wales it happened earlier) and would be happy to speak out anonymously if you know anyone that might be interested as I think it is important for people to hear. I spoke to a journalist from Guardian but she was not able to run the story (they are not allowed to run certain negative stories about NHS care)

What happened to your brother is tragic and I am truly sorry for your loss. But you were misleading people by not giving the full picture. But nowwe haveit, he was on the register as a donor and his wife, his next of kin, did gave permission. So the NHS did have consent. It is unfair of you to discourage others from saving lives like your brother did by smearing the health service when they just followed guidelines.

I understand that you usually get an anonymised idea of where organs go after they are harvested although I appreciate his wife may not have shared this with you. I hope you did find out and that this gave you some comfort. Your brother is a hero for saving someone else's life.

Soontobe60 · 28/06/2025 11:14

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 28/06/2025 08:22

‘I’m assuming then that you would refuse an organ donation if medically required?’

I certainly would! Because I have seen at first hand the appalling side effects and possibly even worse, the disappointment and despair caused by the failure to deliver the longed for ‘improvement’ to a wished for state of ‘normal’ health. I wouldn’t subject myself to that, and I would be very upset if anyone else I knew was putting themselves or more significantly DC through this process.

Life at any price? No thanks .

What an appalling take on the lives of donor recipients! There are myriad people around the world who’s lives have been saved or massively improved (think corneal transplants) through organ donation.

Soontobe60 · 28/06/2025 11:18

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:38

Yes in an NHS hospital

Which one?

Morgenrot25 · 28/06/2025 11:34

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 10:12

Then I also want to see a system in place whereby you only receive blood or blood products if you also donate. And the amount you receive in proportion to what you have donated (taking into consideration age or other mitigating factors)

That's utterly ridiculous.
Some folk aren't allowed to donate or aren't able to donate.
What a horrible world you crave.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/06/2025 11:42

muddyford · 27/06/2025 20:02

It ceased to be a donation once the state was entitled to take bits. I had a donor card but when that change came in I withdrew. Others obviously feel differently.

I did the same, muddyford, but my NOK are aware of my wish to be a donor if it's appropriate and happy to offer if the opportunity arises

So it was purely a principle thing, because as you rightly say a gift is a voluntary matter and I won't have the state deciding such things on my behalf

Rosscameasdoody · 28/06/2025 11:55

Heyheyitsanotherday · 27/06/2025 22:33

Not true. The law changed yes. But your organs will always be safely with you unless your nok agrees to donation. You can still opt in but your nok can say no.
to be a donor you have to die in icu. Either from being neurologically dead. Or because life sustaining treatment is being stopped and you are going to die imminently. you are therefore statistically more likely to need an organ than you ever are to be in a position to donate them. If you are able to donate your family is approached by a specialist nurse and given the information to make a fully informed decision. If they say yes then a formal consent form is signed.

but rest assured now you’ve opted out your organs will be left to rot in the ground or be cremated, instead of saving the life of someone else. All because you don’t want the government telling you what to do. (For what it’s worth most reasons people give for saying no to donation I respect…. Just not such an uninformed one)

This. My DH passed away in ICU. He had opted in for organ donation but they still had to ask my permission as his next of kin. They can’t just take what they want.

ttcat37 · 28/06/2025 11:59

Morgenrot25 · 28/06/2025 09:08

Regardless of how interested you are, you aren't owed an explanation for someone elses perfectly legal choice.* *

I didn’t say I was owed an explanation.

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 12:01

Morgenrot25 · 28/06/2025 11:34

That's utterly ridiculous.
Some folk aren't allowed to donate or aren't able to donate.
What a horrible world you crave.

Who is not allowed to donate?

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MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 12:02

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:45

You really think people should not donate because of the miniscule chance that the organ might go to a paedophile? Organ donations save lives, you want us to not save lives, just in case they're a paedophile? Whilst I'm not religious and don't agree with those that refuse to donate/accept donations as a result of their beliefs, I do appreciate that this is their religion and that's their choice. But encouraging people not to donate on the off-chance their blood/organs may go to a paedophile is possibly the craziest thing I've read on mumsnet. And this site is literally awash with crazies!

No. I didn’t say what you’re seeking to clarify in your first sentence.

I actually just asked for genuine opinions on that dilemma - it’s part of debate. Don’t put words in my mouth. Thanks.

smallglassbottle · 28/06/2025 12:03

McSpoot · 28/06/2025 02:08

And, since you're not a hypocrite, I assume you've also opted out of receiving any potential organs or tissues should your health require it.

Of course. It's included in my advance directive.

ttcat37 · 28/06/2025 12:05

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 12:01

Who is not allowed to donate?

Loads of people aren’t allowed to donate. Loads of medical conditions, if you’ve travelled to certain countries, had a recent tattoo, even if you’ve recently had anal sex with a new partner.

MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 12:05

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 12:01

Who is not allowed to donate?

Pregnant women, HIV/AIDS etc

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