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Nothing about being able to opt out of DNA testing?

197 replies

BlueJuniper94 · 27/06/2025 17:19

So why is there no mention of being able to opt out of this? Isn't this just going to encourage some people to avoid engaging with HCPs altogether?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c1ljg7v0vmpo

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MoominUnderWater · 28/06/2025 09:01

Parker231 · 28/06/2025 08:51

My parents neighbour and the daughter of a friend have both had kidney transplants after years of living a restricted life. Post transplant, they are living a near normal life - particularly my friends young daughter.
What would you prefer - they suffer and then die unnecessarily?

Same for a friend of mine. Had a kidney transplant 30 years ago and apart from having to take a tablet every day lives a very normal and active life.

Morgenrot25 · 28/06/2025 09:08

ttcat37 · 28/06/2025 09:01

So you’d rather your kids die than accept an organ donation and potentially live a normal life again? Riiiiight…

I’m also interested in what all those opting out of organ donation plan to have done with their organs when they’re dead and won’t care about whether they save a life of a child or get chucked in a skip.

Regardless of how interested you are, you aren't owed an explanation for someone elses perfectly legal choice.* *

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:09

Soontobe60 · 28/06/2025 07:59

Really? Legally the families of donors have to agree to the donation. Organs are only taken after the donor is clinically dead, it’s not some dystopian world where people are lined up waiting to have parts removed.
People who receive organ donations very much think about the donors as they know they’d likely not be alive without the donation. They have to take meds every day of their lives to prevent organ rejection, it’s not ‘out of sight out of mind’.

They don't at all. This changed a few years ago (and before that in Wales)

If you haven't opted out then they can take what they like. They don't have to get any consent from any family. It's taken as consent.

Most people don't realize how horrific taking organs is. The person is not allowed to die naturally & they are kept 'alive' on a life support machine.

The 'death' technically then happens on the operating table when they have finished helping themselves to your loved ones body parts. You won't be with them when this happens & won't be told the moment it happens.

The NHS sells people a lie of dignified organ donation.

After our experience with my brother I would strongly urge anyone to opt out.

Boredlass · 28/06/2025 09:11

HoskinsChoice · 27/06/2025 19:22

Like another poster, I'm also intrigued. Why did you opt out? And would you accept a donor if necessary?

Probably religion which is an absurd reason

Swonderful · 28/06/2025 09:18

I have friends who have an awful autoimmune disease. Their friends have refused testing as there's nothing you can do about it - it's the kind that can be triggered at any point but you could live your whole life with no symptoms. They'd prefer not to know and also I suspect that knowing would make life insurance etc much more expensive.

Genevieva · 28/06/2025 09:20

alexalisten · 28/06/2025 08:29

But i suffered a lot unnecessarily before I had it. Also something as simple as antidepressants can be decided what's best for an individual through dna testing.

Edited

So protocols improve over time as doctors become more aware of new diagnostic tools. It doesn’t justify universal DNA screening.

Morgenrot25 · 28/06/2025 09:22

Boredlass · 28/06/2025 09:11

Probably religion which is an absurd reason

I'm not religious, but you don't get to call others absurd for making different choices. 🫣

alexalisten · 28/06/2025 09:26

Genevieva · 28/06/2025 09:20

So protocols improve over time as doctors become more aware of new diagnostic tools. It doesn’t justify universal DNA screening.

But this is the improvement

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:26

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 07:43

I work within the organ donation field and I would say you need to take this further. It’s strange to me how this would happen. We have people who are suitable donors who have opted in on the odr. When their families have been approached they have declined donation (usually because of the time it takes - around 24 hours to set up safely, or the thought or surgery to the body being just too upsetting). So despite the fact the potential donor may have opted in 8 times, when a family says no, donation doesn’t happen. The families wishes come before the patients as they’re the ones who live with the decision afterwards.
however if you’ve opted out this is rarely discussed with family. Occasionally a dr may check that was the last known decision of the patient but I am yet to see a family challenge this and we would go any further without evidence that is what the potential donor wanted.
Due to stringent regulations we are very specific and detailed about what organs and tissues are taken due to the HTA. Contact the HTA immediately if you feel any organs or tissues were taken without consent. Contact the governamnt. And the police!

The hospital were dreadful about the whole thing. We have met many other families that have said the same thing.

We did contact PALS, wrote a complaint (they just lied about the whole thing) and our MP who was actually extremely helpful but unfortunately has no power of the NHS.

The police can't do anything as the NHS is legally able to do it.

The worst thing for us was not being with our loved one when life support was stopped which was very important to us.

We were told he is brain dead & to say goodbye. He was then kept alive for a further 24 hours while they waited for the surgeon. He died somewhere alone in a operating theatre with no one that knew him or cared for him.

They callously them called us to give us the date & time of death.

Please for the sake of your loved ones, anyone reading this opt out.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 09:26

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:09

They don't at all. This changed a few years ago (and before that in Wales)

If you haven't opted out then they can take what they like. They don't have to get any consent from any family. It's taken as consent.

Most people don't realize how horrific taking organs is. The person is not allowed to die naturally & they are kept 'alive' on a life support machine.

The 'death' technically then happens on the operating table when they have finished helping themselves to your loved ones body parts. You won't be with them when this happens & won't be told the moment it happens.

The NHS sells people a lie of dignified organ donation.

After our experience with my brother I would strongly urge anyone to opt out.

Where is your information from please? It is hugely incorrect

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:27

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 09:26

Where is your information from please? It is hugely incorrect

We went through it with my brother. It is what happened.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 09:27

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:26

The hospital were dreadful about the whole thing. We have met many other families that have said the same thing.

We did contact PALS, wrote a complaint (they just lied about the whole thing) and our MP who was actually extremely helpful but unfortunately has no power of the NHS.

The police can't do anything as the NHS is legally able to do it.

The worst thing for us was not being with our loved one when life support was stopped which was very important to us.

We were told he is brain dead & to say goodbye. He was then kept alive for a further 24 hours while they waited for the surgeon. He died somewhere alone in a operating theatre with no one that knew him or cared for him.

They callously them called us to give us the date & time of death.

Please for the sake of your loved ones, anyone reading this opt out.

And this happened in the uk?

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 09:32

And, assuming you're based in the UK, nobody is forced or guilt tripped - you're given a choice to opt out so everybody can make a decision either way. It's really no more complex than that.

Lithiumday · 28/06/2025 09:37

Boredlass · 28/06/2025 09:11

Probably religion which is an absurd reason

Just because not everyone believes the same thing as you doesn't make them absurd. How excruciatingly arrogant.

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:38

Heyheyitsanotherday · 28/06/2025 09:27

And this happened in the uk?

Yes in an NHS hospital

DeafLeppard · 28/06/2025 09:40

ExpertArchFormat · 28/06/2025 07:42

My concern is how much this will cost. It's all very lovely having these wonderful new advances in science increasing what the NHS can do but wouldn't it be better to invest the money in more chemotherapy facilities so that people aren't waiting so long for their cancer treatments to start, and other similarly critical but underfunded frontline services?

Firstly, chemo services are relatively well funded.

Secondly, studies such as this one means we can only offer chemo to patients who will actually benefit. In ovarian cancer, we give chemo to everyone, for whom at least 30% of patients will not respond and we have no idea which 30% will. It’s even more important to be able to predict response based on bio markers - such as genomic data - when we are looking at newer therapies that can cost over £100k per course.

Finally the newborn study is not about finding random conditions that will affect you when you are older.

And yes, this is my day job.

Lithiumday · 28/06/2025 09:40

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 09:32

And, assuming you're based in the UK, nobody is forced or guilt tripped - you're given a choice to opt out so everybody can make a decision either way. It's really no more complex than that.

This very much sounds like archaic rape excuses. Consent is ACTIVE and continuous. Not saying no isn't it.

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:45

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 09:32

And, assuming you're based in the UK, nobody is forced or guilt tripped - you're given a choice to opt out so everybody can make a decision either way. It's really no more complex than that.

If my brother has known the reality of what it would do to his mother especially I am certain he would have opted out.

If he has understood his mum was not going to be allowed to be with him while he passed he would have opted out.

Most people are not aware of the implications of the change in the law. It is deeply disturbing & the reality is legally they can do it.

I would urge everyone (unless already with terminal illness etc) especially young & fit to opt out. You can always opt in again when you are older.

AnyoneWhoHasAHeart · 28/06/2025 09:47

Organ donation is a personal choice and people are entitled to that choice.

but as someone who is still recovering from a heart transplant I bitterly resent the implication that I am selfish and should have opted to die instead, or the insistence that people should opt out.

I’m sorry you had a bad experience, but that doesn’t give you the right to wish others dead.

sueelleker · 28/06/2025 09:48

Heyheyitsanotherday · 27/06/2025 22:33

Not true. The law changed yes. But your organs will always be safely with you unless your nok agrees to donation. You can still opt in but your nok can say no.
to be a donor you have to die in icu. Either from being neurologically dead. Or because life sustaining treatment is being stopped and you are going to die imminently. you are therefore statistically more likely to need an organ than you ever are to be in a position to donate them. If you are able to donate your family is approached by a specialist nurse and given the information to make a fully informed decision. If they say yes then a formal consent form is signed.

but rest assured now you’ve opted out your organs will be left to rot in the ground or be cremated, instead of saving the life of someone else. All because you don’t want the government telling you what to do. (For what it’s worth most reasons people give for saying no to donation I respect…. Just not such an uninformed one)

I figure it's for people who kept meaning to opt in, but never got around to it. Does the new system also prevent relatives from denying donation, even if they knew the person wanted to?

MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 10:03

This thread highlights the worst of MN.

What could have been a respectful debate, as per, descends into personal insults, undertones of personal fuck-yous to other posters, and a complete disregard for others having differing opinions. And it’s a thread about, essentially, hypotheticals!

People’s opinions differ. Shocker. Stop trying to bully people to your side.

For those pro donation in the manner this government is going about it, what if you knew your liver was going to a paedophile?

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:03

Serencwtch · 28/06/2025 09:45

If my brother has known the reality of what it would do to his mother especially I am certain he would have opted out.

If he has understood his mum was not going to be allowed to be with him while he passed he would have opted out.

Most people are not aware of the implications of the change in the law. It is deeply disturbing & the reality is legally they can do it.

I would urge everyone (unless already with terminal illness etc) especially young & fit to opt out. You can always opt in again when you are older.

If he wanted to donate, surely his mum would want what he wanted? It is his body after all and he wanted to do something amazing in his last act by giving someone life. Your brother is a hero for that as the vast majority of us won't be able to do so, even if we'd like to.

I'm a little confused by what you think the NHS are lying to us about. How else do you think they're going to get the body parts out other than through surgery? And they can hardly wait until the patient has been dead for ages as the organs will no longer be viable. It's a huge stretch to say they're lying. It actually tells you what happens on the NHS donor website!

I've just done a quick Google search and trawled through various articles and I can't find a single article about people having their organs taken against their will in the UK. It is odd that you claim there are so many and yet there is no evidence of this in the media. The NHS do seek consent from family or a named representative even if the patient is on the register as being a willing donor. If what you say is true, surely it would be all over the media. I'd be interested to hear the full story, including whether his next of kin/named rep was asked.

I imagine you will make the Daily Mail now anyway as this is huge news...

HoskinsChoice · 28/06/2025 10:04

MauriceTheMussel · 28/06/2025 10:03

This thread highlights the worst of MN.

What could have been a respectful debate, as per, descends into personal insults, undertones of personal fuck-yous to other posters, and a complete disregard for others having differing opinions. And it’s a thread about, essentially, hypotheticals!

People’s opinions differ. Shocker. Stop trying to bully people to your side.

For those pro donation in the manner this government is going about it, what if you knew your liver was going to a paedophile?

You want a respectful debate... and then suggest organs might go to a paedophile. 🙄🤣

Meetmeundertheclock · 28/06/2025 10:05

We want and are mainly pleased to have a National Health Service. So why the surprise? We have National treatment and organisation therefore it makes sense to have National planning and research. It is all part of improving care for us and future generations.

BlueJuniper94 · 28/06/2025 10:09

Nevertrustacop · 27/06/2025 17:33

I'm in two minds about this.
Should a parent be able to opt a baby out of something so potentially important to the childs health?

Potentially important but not necessarily without unforseen consequences

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