To not want to eat Chinese - help me to see if I’m being unreasonable

[Watermoves]

My partners favourite take away is Chinese. I’m not keen, I’m vegetarian (raised this way) and just find its bland and boring. I have eaten Chinese but I don’t really like it.

Therefore we often have Indian, Mexican, pizza etc if we have a takeaway all of which he also really likes. I often offer to get him a Chinese or suggest he gets one if I’m working late etc but he always says no.

it come to a head tonight as he wanted a Chinese take away and I didn’t fancy it but suggested I would get something else. He said it’s not the same eating a takeaway alone. I kinda get that, but I would have got myself an Indian. (We would be eating at the table together just different food)

He basically said I should suck it up and eat the Chinese food every so often for him? My rationale is that I shouldn’t have to eat what I don’t want or like?

who is being unreasonable?

How many takeaways do you have?

Eat what you like, but maybe find a decent Chinese restaurant or takeaway that isn't bland or boring.

Tell him to man up and stop behaving like a baby.

Probably once a week

Takeaways are too expensive to have food you don’t like. Why not go for supermarket ready meals then you can have a mix?

Order chicken and chips from the Chinese for you?

That is an odd reaction from him if you'd both be eating takeaway together. Different if you were going to sit there nibbling a salad.

I'm vegan and Chinese is my favourite takeaway. Do you live in a small village with only one Chinese takeaway?

YANBU - he's BU expecting you to eat something you don't like!

She's veggie

I have tried several things from the menu, just all kinda tastes like dishwater to me. Might be just rubbish Chinese’s lol but I just can’t get excited about it! I love Thai and Japanese, but no where like that round here to deliver

She's vegetarian.

Get a cookbook and make actual Chinese food (not the nonsense from takeaways) together. I bet you’d really enjoy it (it isn’t bland at all) and you can explore new flavours together.

Alternatively, try and find another East Asian cuisine you both like? Japanese? Korean?

Or, he can stop being silly and you both just order what you want.

Surely there's veggie versions of most Chinese dishes, either using tofu, or just vegetables with lots of the same sauces?

I think you should take it in turns to choose the takeaway, and yes, you should chinese sometimes. I don't really understand why sweet & sour tofu would be bland, or veggies in black been sauce etc, chinese vegetable curry? Plenty of very tasty veggie options in a Chinese...

I actually agree with him, he compromises every time for your benefit by going for options you like over the option he would prefer. It isn’t unreasonable for him to ask you to compromise every now and then too. There are lots of vegetarian options on most Chinese menus.

Look up WowzaBox, then you can make it from home. And their veggie options are great.

More generally yanbu. It’s supposed to be a treat!

But she doesn't want the Chinese food, no way would i eat something that I didn't like/want just to make the other person happy. If you're sitting together at the table then it doesn't matter if you have different food does it?

If you don’t like it, you don’t like it. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t share takeaways,

Look for better takeaway! Menu from local Chinese... not huge.. but good!

She is veggie!

No-one is stopping him having the food he wants, he on the other hand is trying to guilt OP into eating what she doesn't want. Why do they have to have the same?

I don't like Indian food, my ex loved it, he'd have that and I'd have Chinese/pizza/Korean

So it's not the noodles or the rice that you find boring, it's the Chinese sauces?

It could be that your local is just a really bad Chinese, but regardless of that, your bf should be more sympathetic. It's not as if you haven't tried, you just don't like it, and no one should be making you eat it (or making you feel bad about not eating it).

He’s being unfair and precious; we get different stuff if we don’t fancy the same thing and I wouldn’t expect DH to eat the same thing if he didn’t enjoy it

She's a veggie

I think I just genuinely don’t mind if we eat different things we often do for normal dinner. He said he wants me to be ‘excited’ to have a Chinese - I just can’t

There is actually an elaborate Chinese buddhist vegetarian cuisine tradition . In East Asia, you can easily find wholly vegetarian Chinese restaurants fyi. Hw, western chinese takeaways do not do have much vegetarian options apart from stirfried vegetables and maybe the odd soup. You'd still have to be careful with the stocks and sauces which may not be vegetarian. If you are vegetarian, your options from the chinese takeaway are going to be very limited. Your partner is being unreasonable.