To not want to eat Chinese - help me to see if I’m being unreasonable

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My partners favourite take away is Chinese. I’m not keen, I’m vegetarian (raised this way) and just find its bland and boring. I have eaten Chinese but I don’t really like it.

Therefore we often have Indian, Mexican, pizza etc if we have a takeaway all of which he also really likes. I often offer to get him a Chinese or suggest he gets one if I’m working late etc but he always says no.

it come to a head tonight as he wanted a Chinese take away and I didn’t fancy it but suggested I would get something else. He said it’s not the same eating a takeaway alone. I kinda get that, but I would have got myself an Indian. (We would be eating at the table together just different food)

He basically said I should suck it up and eat the Chinese food every so often for him? My rationale is that I shouldn’t have to eat what I don’t want or like?

who is being unreasonable?

I’m veggie and always get the chips 😆

Just have a good look through the menu though as you could try the ‘Chinese’ curries if you prefer spice. I take it you don’t like bean curd? But if you did you can usually get a ‘salt and pepper’ bean curd which basically means chillies. Singapore noodles are spicy. There is really quite a wide variety. Unless you just order egg fried rice I can’t really see how a whole regions food could all be bland.

Although I don’t think you are being unreasonable in as much as you shouldn’t have to eat anything just to please your partner and him trying to control what you eat is a bit of a red flag.

Yikes! Ok so just chips?

I’m a fussy eater and I don’t eat Chinese food either. I just don’t like it - and it’s too expensive to buy something I won’t eat. My husband loves Chinese food. It’s his favourite takeaway. It’s never occurred to him that he can’t have it just because I don’t want it! If we decide to have a (very rare) takeaway and he fancies Chinese, I’ll usually get fish & chips whilst he gets that. The kids will pick between the 2, not usually go with the chippy.

i also think this is a good thing given his order for 1 is only a few quid less than how much I pay for me and 3 teenage boys in total from a different takeaway! I can’t imagine how expensive it would be if we all ate it.

It has pork mince in it…

YANBU. He’s a weirdo expecting you to ignore your own preferences and pretend to enjoy the same cuisine as he does, especially as he knows you’re vegetarian.

I quite enjoy the occasional Chinese takeaway but my DH (also vegetarian) loathes them. He also prefers Indian, Korean etc.

Eating together is nice but we don’t have to be eating the same foods to enjoy the experience. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Must be rubbish chinese, then. Its an exciting, varied, and frequently vegetarian friendly cuisine although vegetarianism in China is associated with Buddhism and therefore it may align with other theories of spicing that are not interesting to you.

Basically I would take the ethnic style out of it. Its not a good restaurant for you. No dishes that you like. Your solution is good. Order what you want from where you want. He does the same.

YANBU he is a twat. My DH and I have different preferences to food, who doesn’t, he often fancies a curry and I’m not a fan, I just make something else, no big deal.
I see your DH as being controlling, guilting you into eating something you don’t want and won’t enjoy. Demonstrating he does not respect your views.
he is making mountain out of nothing

Literally pointed out already by multiple posters..!

I much prefer Indian/Bangladeshi food to Chinese. For years I would either just microwave myself something quick at home or have the curry sauce, rice & chips in a tray if my family chose Chinese but recently I’ve been having the tofu meals which I’ve discovered I quite like, and they just come with onion, carrot, peppers which is good as I’m not keen on Chinese veg.

I don’t understand people saying to make it yourself - isn’t the point of a takeaway so you don’t have to bother cooking?

If you order two separate takeaways to be delivered at 7pm, so you can eat together, what on earth is his problem? I don’t mind Chinese, but I only like sweet & sour chicken balls, and obviously that wears thin after a while, and I don’t like Indian takeaway at all, so DH and I have different takeaways 90% of the time. It doesn’t take away from our own enjoyment of our meals.

He’s being quite weird about it.

Sorry, are you seriously having a go at people for not reading the whole thread after your comment when you couldn't even read the OP?!

We are lucky to live in a city close to a large multicultural community and our takeaways are amazing. There was one Chinese in the town that I grew up in and it did the standard Chinese stuff, MSG, everything in batter and slathered in gloop. I wouldn’t touch it with a barge pole these days but our local Chinese is incredible. The menu is mainly written in Chinese and only half translated so you find yourself having a guess quite often but the food is out of this world. a bad Chinese is not something to eat OP.

’Having a go’ 😂

So I actually feel your pain OP! I’m not keen on Chinese because there’s only a few items I enjoy, but they don’t fill me up for long, and they tend to be noticeably greasy. DH loves Chinese though. So every now and again he will get a craving for it and I scrunch up my face, but then think to myself ‘well it can’t always be my way’. He will suck it up when I have a preference he doesn’t particularly fancy, so I return the compromise because a takeaway for us is something we do together, it’s not just about the food. So it really depends on your outlook.

I can't stand chicken but dh and the dc love kfc. It's a massive pain but I tend to have chips and beans and then make myself some veg/salad or something to go with it.

I love Chinese takeaway but we never have it as it's so expensive. We find it's cheaper to go to one of those Chinese buffet places. There is one near us that does sushi, pizza etc as well as the Chinese stuff, could that be an option for you? Or some Chinese takeaways do fish and chips as well.

I think you should take it in turns. But I don't understand the bland and boring, our Chinese is delicious, even veggie. It's not fair for him to have to eat what you like all the time, or eat alone. We get several dishes and share a bit of everything with Chinese, surely there's something you like? It's part of give and take in a relationship.
Supermarket versions aren't the same in my opinion.

Haven't read any other posts, but yes, vegetarian, Chinese food. It's very boring. It's tasteless unidentifiable, frozen vegetables, horrid. Just eat frozen Pizza, it won't taste any better, but at least the fake cheese has some protein. Sorry.

He’s being daft !! When we have take away more often than not we all eat from different places and there are 5 of us . Life is too short to eat food you don’t like

If you like spicy food, look for Szechuan-style dishes on the menu. Even if there's only beef, ask if they can make one of the veggie dishes Szechuan-style, with plenty of chillies and "numbing" peppers.

I am like you can’t stomach chinese food 🤢

I must admit I often find Chinese takeaway food dull. We rarely have takeaways and I would always always go for Nepalese - lots of Gurkha restaurants round here. I like home made Chinese and if we end up in Chinatown.

Looks Japanese to me-and few vegetarian options.

Just cook for yourself at home in your kitchen

All this bloody takeaway business all the time is expensive and lazy.

Me and my partner are sometimes like this. I order what I want and he orders what he wants. My local Chinese that’s cash only is fab and cheap.

He's being fucking weird.