To feel a bit meh about friend making bf personality

[LivelyCoralMaker]

Hi!
so I don’t know if im being unreasonable but I have a friend who I meet up with and text quite a bit. We get on well and shes a nice woman
the only thing is- it gets on my nerves how she makes her partner her entire personality! When we talk about anything she always brings him into a topic! And the worst thing is when we meet up for girly night she always invites him out fml … so it’s me and her and him, or me our close friend who is another woman and Him! They live together so why can’t he stay behind at home for a few hours to give her some girly time? May be sounding unreasonable but it gets on my nerves
i have a solid partner and he always likes to give me girly time alone with my mates, her partner knew it was just her and women and he always wants to come out! I just find it a bit weird and annoying. Wouldnt know how to broach it with her
does anyone else find this annoying? Another thing that struck me as weird was two things

1. on Father’s Day she put up a post on Facebook saying she couldn’t wish for a better daddy to Jacob (Jacob is her partner’s son who he had with ANOTHER woman)
2. she put up a post advocating for a movement cant remember what it was but it basically said how she was so disappointed she couldn’t breastfeed Jacob…. (Again, not her son)

how would I even broach this? I want girly time and not him there all the time!
am I being unreasonable? Xx

Sounds like your friend is a clingy girlfriend! The post about wanting to breastfeed her partner's son....words fail me 🤢

Just tell her. Next time you are arranging something, say be nice yo see you without bf.
Or buy 2 tickets.
Just say something, to her. If its a normal healthy relationship there shouldn't be an issue.

Her posts sound a little unhinged, maybe you should have a chat with her about them.

Her comments about breastfeeding another woman’s son are very odd indeed.

Your friend is so far out of her lane she might be on that 🚀.

She wants to breastfeed her boyfriend's son, meaning replace his mother and she had the nerve to put she's sad she can't on social media for everyone to see. She's looking to start big trouble and using a baby to do it.

FAFO.

You'd better stay clear. She sounds unstable.

She sounds unhinged. Feeble minded actually.

Just tell her straight. If you still want to spend time with her that is 😬 “Let’s have a women only night ok?”

You're NBU at all for thinking that this woman has a screw loose, but you are for using the word girly four times in your post.

she put up a post advocating for a movement cant remember what it was but it basically said how she was so disappointed she couldn’t breastfeed Jacob…. (Again, not her son)

You fucking what now?!

Did any normal person say anything on her post like "why do you want to breast feed another woman's child you nutter?"

Use your words, OP. ‘Nigel is NOT INVITED.’

I’m intrigued too. All the ‘callings out’ that are performed on social media and nobody said anything about how mad this is?

If I was Jacob’s mother and I saw that on social media I’d get a non molestation order a giant your friend.

Back away, she sounds unhinged.
Bringing your partner to a night out with your girlfriends is a MN phenomenon, never heard of it in RL.
It simply wouldn't be tolerated.

Do you have other normal friends OP? This woman sounds really odd. I'd definitely concentrate on other friendships.

This is the second thread this morning where a completely insane bit of info has been casually added into the post. I couldn't be friends with a woman who thought it was acceptable to want to BF another woman's child.

I'm another who can't understand her need to breastfeed a child who isn't hers..
A bit weird., 😕

I want to know what Jacob’s mummy makes of all this! X

I have a similar situation. Friend will only go out of an evening if her hubby is invited, weekends away, hubby invited. Says its because he'd enjoy what we have planned. Never had an evening or weekend just girly time.

Its usually because BF has no friends of his own

You HAVE to be blunt. Don’t bring Bob/girls only. My partner is staying at home because it’s GIRLS NIGHT

Don’t be so selfish, the world doesn’t revolve around what you want.

If she wanted girly time she wouldn’t bring him, the fact she does means she wants time with him as well.

And your comment complaint about her saying he’s a good father to a child who isn’t hers must sounds petty and spiteful.

My sister is like this with her girlfriend. It’s actually really upsetting as she was like this from the get go, and I literally never see her alone anymore. She won’t even take a phone call without her girlfriend being in the background, laughing and chirpsing up with comments. Honestly, I get voice notes with said girlfriend in the background.

Everything is “we”, completely co- dependant. I have no advice as I tried to broach it once and we didn’t speak for a few months (sister likes to do silent treatment).

ahhh! Such an annoying situation, i used to happily go out and about without my husband (still so), just don’t understand that needy vibe, it’s so irritating.

Both of those social media posts sound utterly unhinged!

I’d avoid the fruit loop tbh.

Yikes, she sounds a bit cray? The breastfeeding thing is extra strength weird. I'd find her too much overall from what you've described.

Ooh, are you the friend? 😂

I cannot describe the hate I have for people who bring their partner to EVERYTHING, even stuff which is blatantly not for partners. My hate is only eclipsed by my contempt for those partners who want to come along.

If I asked DH if he fancied joining me and my mates for drinks, he’d think I’d lost the plot. If anything he’s glad to get me out the house and get what he wants on TV.