To feel a bit meh about friend making bf personality

[LivelyCoralMaker]

Hi!
so I don’t know if im being unreasonable but I have a friend who I meet up with and text quite a bit. We get on well and shes a nice woman
the only thing is- it gets on my nerves how she makes her partner her entire personality! When we talk about anything she always brings him into a topic! And the worst thing is when we meet up for girly night she always invites him out fml … so it’s me and her and him, or me our close friend who is another woman and Him! They live together so why can’t he stay behind at home for a few hours to give her some girly time? May be sounding unreasonable but it gets on my nerves
i have a solid partner and he always likes to give me girly time alone with my mates, her partner knew it was just her and women and he always wants to come out! I just find it a bit weird and annoying. Wouldnt know how to broach it with her
does anyone else find this annoying? Another thing that struck me as weird was two things

1. on Father’s Day she put up a post on Facebook saying she couldn’t wish for a better daddy to Jacob (Jacob is her partner’s son who he had with ANOTHER woman)
2. she put up a post advocating for a movement cant remember what it was but it basically said how she was so disappointed she couldn’t breastfeed Jacob…. (Again, not her son)

how would I even broach this? I want girly time and not him there all the time!
am I being unreasonable? Xx

Not sure you can do anything about this - she’s obviously smitten/borderline insane. I had a flatmate once who had an idiotic boyfriend called Greg. If I talked to her about anything, she’d start every sentence with “Greg says…” or “Greg thinks…” like she was a puppet deployed into the world to spread Greg’s ‘wisdom’. It didn’t help that she couldn’t pronounce her Rs, so all the time it was “Gweg, Gweg, Gweg”

@LivelyCoralMaker

I agree, use your words. I will say though that the only time I've had something like that it turned out that her partner was controlling and wouldn't allow her to go anywhere without him. So keep an eye on that. If you do plan on speaking to her about him tagging along, try to do it as an opening for a gentle conversation as to whether she's sincerely happy to have him around or if he 'insists' on going.

I'm going to play Pollyanna here and surmising she wasn't trying to say that Jacob was her son:

As far as the FD post about thinking that Jacob couldn't have a better father, maybe she worded it awkwardly and was just trying to compliment him?

The BF thing is odd though. Could she have meant that she wishes she could have had the experience of BFing? (Again, awkward wording)

How old is Jacob BTW? Is he a BFing infant or is he a hulking 16 yr old? Because if the latter then her posts are more weird than awkward.

Do you also think the OP is being unreasonable, petty & spiteful about the breastfeeding comments 🤣

Do you honestly want to be friends with this woman? I would be backing away slowly...

Yes, the breastfeeding part is seriously creepy.

Did you read the part about her wanting to breastfeed another woman's baby?

This would massively put me off her. Goodness me, just leave him at home & enjoy your time with your friend!

I never mention my (imaginary😂) partner or even my DD when I’m out with friends.

She sounds boring and insecure, I’d find someone a bit more fun to spend time with.

She can have time with him all the rest of the time? I’m sure she can peel herself away from him for a couple of hours every now and then to see her friends

Infact, what not just bring Jacob along too, make a proper day of it!🙄

Kind of sad really. Not menacing or nasty, just sad. As for him tagging along that is annoying. Make a comment about it being just the girls next time.

First Post that made me laugh irl. Don't know why, think it's the gweg gweg gweg 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What happened? Are they still together?
How's Gweg these days? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Why on earth are you friends with this woman? She sounds like a self-absorbed nightmare.

Just be honest with her say I would prefer a girly night no bf if she can’t do that let her go. Like other pp have said he might be controlling her but if you don’t ask you don’t get. It’s horrible when a man turns up to girly stuff even if you like them you can’t open up if there’s a spare wheel.

This is one of the worst things I've read for a while

The breastfeeding bit ,either this post is a wind up or your friend is unhinged