To wonder why people fuck about so much?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

But it isn't compromise if only one side changes their behaviour. That's surrender. How about the faffers change their behaviour?

I'm a massive fucker-abouter, a talker to strangers, one who stops to smell the flowers (yes, literally) and watch the birds. I'm time blind, with no built-in sense of urgency. It's quite a pleasant way to be, really, despite the scheduling issues.

I am aware of other people needing to do stuff faster and will get out of the way if I'm holding someone up. I agree it's gobsmacking that so many others seem oblivious to everything outside their personal bubbles, even things happening right in front of them. They make me look on the ball by comparison 😂

Unlike most of you, I tend to just watch them in slightly horrified fascination unless they're actually causing harm. Some of my family members are even more immersed in the moment, and only the moment, than me: I let them help me move house once; it was a disaster. I ended up having to pay the movers extra because of my 'helpers' floating around trying my clothes on, reading my books, remembering people from my photos ... argh.

On the other hand, these family members and I are really very good at waiting 😄 It's a little-appreciated benefit of time blindness! The ones who didn't help me move house are absolutely brilliant at it, they look like they've gone into suspended animation but I am assured they're just thinking.

I don't know whether your skip-faffers are more like my family, OP, or outright selfish gits getting some kind of satisfaction from controlling everybody else. Interesting question ... well, I would think so, wouldn't I?!

Some people are just like that. It's not worth getting worked up over, imo.

The people in a food buffet… weddings, hotels, conferences etc …

I have an issue waiting in line to be served food in the first instance. I feel like I’m at a soup kitchen. And then to watch other people ummm and ahhh over what they want to put on their plate. God help me.

I find trips to the refuse centre quite intimidating. You have to show ID and I feel the operatives are waiting to pounce if I use the wrong container.

I was throwing out a bazillion plastic hangers and got apprehended and told they go in scrap metal, not plastic.

Everyone seems to know exactly what they’re doing, except me.

This annoys me too. People in queues in shops who insist on paying in small change and taking forever to sort out every single penny really pisses me off. And people who can't make their minds up which drink/cake/sandwich to have in a coffee shop or cafe and spend 10 minutes quizzing the person serving them about every bloody thing. Or the ones who act all surprised at the till when they have to pay and then proceed to spend 5 minutes looking for their purse or wallet. Likewise people who stand at a bus stop for 10 minutes then decide to start hunting for their travel pass once they're on the bus. Inevitably they can't find it quickly and they stand there searching through every pocket and compartment of their bag. I feel like shouting at them 'For fucks sake,get your pass out while you're waiting for the bus'. I would add that I'm disabled with osteoarthritis and rheumatoid arthritis iny hips and knees so find standing in queues tiring at the best of times. And these people just make it worse.

We don't know why the faffers are faffing though.

Maybe they've had a bad day and are flustered. Maybe they are talking to the cashier because that's the only human contact they'll get that day. Maybe the people at the tip with two items who take a minute to look at them are clearing out a late loved one's possessions and can only bring themselves to do a couple at a time and need a minute after throwing them to compose themselves.

That extra 60 seconds they've taken to do something isn't going to impact us massively. But it may be a big thing for them.

See also; People who sit in their car eating a meal deal or fast food after shopping, in a P&C space, when the rest of them are full.

People in public loos! What the fuck do they do when they know (cos I've rattled the handle) people are waiting?

Omg the French and cheques! We always got stuck behind the people who had a trolley full of shopping and waited until the very end before trying to find the cheque book at the bottom of a cavernous bag. And then it came to them as a surprise that they needed the cheque guarantee card that was somewhere else in the bag, then laboriously write the damn cheque!! We were ready with cheque and card in hand as soon as the shopping was loaded up on the conveyor belt.

Stop being in such a rush, you are taking the enjoyment out of life. Take a chill pill as they say :)

I used to feel like you, but have learnt to slow down and be more patient. We live in a society where we’re taught every minute counts. Other people selfishness or stupidity used to really wind me up, but then who is that damaging, you’re only making yourself suffer. try to not sweat the small stuff, and next time your in the tip que have a good podcast on or enjoy a daydream, pack a nice coffee, you get my point.

If you think standing in a queue at the supermarket whilst some uselessly slow person who is too with it work out they need to pack quickly is the fun bit of life I feel for you 😁.
The fun starts after the queue.
I work full time, have 4 kids and love partying so I do not have time to watch people adjusting their mirrors.

Personally I’d like to shoot the fuckers but I’m assuming that’s not allowed?
I bet they still have people faffing around in prison though so it probably wouldn’t help,

Oh I have a huge issue with people standing in doorways. Or taking the whole width of a door space while moving at a snail’s pace. I do think some of it is purposeful - “please notice how important I am, and my priority of this space” - ”the king has arrived and the shopping trolley is my chariot”.

I had to go to the pharmacy the other day, normally there’s a ridiculously long queue but thought I’d hit payday when I arrived and it was just the two already being served ahead of me… but no, turns out they were time wasters too! By the time I got served it was back to the usual stupid queueing out the door.

To go to our local tip now you have to book a slot online. You can arrive anytime within your 30min booking time and whilst it might seem inconvenient it works really well. The last couple of times we’ve been in/out in no time

No. Wheels make things so much easier, especially if you have any mobility issues or hidden injuries.

I have an arm that is held together internally with metal plates. Carrying stuff any distance through places like airports would be a problem for me, but with wheels it is fine.

Oh and people who want the most complicated coffee ever invented while I’m trying to get my DC a quick drink…

Petrol station faffers drive me nuts, do they not see the queues? I’m in and out of there like it’s an F1 pit stop.

Oh this one drives me mad too. I always have my card out ready to pay once I've loaded up the belt but it's the ones paying with their phone that make me grind my teeth, it's never ready to pay, they faff about with it, then it doesn't work for a couple of attempts, so they then talk to the cashier while they try to decide why it's not working, meanwhile my ice cream is beginning to defrost ... 🙄

I'm in this corner.

Getting stressed about something you have no control over is bonkers (think - football, the weather, traffic..)

The loo thing is funny. The people who are before you (and in the loo when you are waiting) may've waited for longer, and just neeeed longer? I don't know, but that's what I like to think anyway. And if it takes me 30 seconds longer to make sure my tuck is right at the front, then so be it.

People take their time, because it's their time and most of the time, it's really no time at all.

I do accept the point about mobility issues and disabilities, but my point was more that they should go on the hold,then you wouldn’t have to be carting them around the airport at all. Most of what you need even for a long haul flight can be carried by most in a backpack or shoulder bag. But these days people want to bring stuff for a week’s holiday on board rather than putting it in the hold.

Like the queue for the ladies? What the Geff are people doing in there? Not have a quick pee that's for sure. My friend says she pees, then stands up for a bit then pees again to ensure her bladder is completely empty. I mean, save that for home where you pee 99.99% of your life.

However when I'm using a self service till I faff. I have dyslexia but I presume I'm also dyspraxic. It takes me twice as long at least as using a manned till and I feel zero guilt. If shops want me out faster they need to man a till.

So you feel no guilt about taking longer to do something you find harder, and quite right too. But can you not see that people might also take longer to pee, for various reasons, than you deem sufficient, and shouldn't have to feel guilty about that?

Definitely this! Drives me bonkers!! There should be a time limit to spend in a public loo if there’s a long queue with a sign ‘faffers can wait until queue dies down’.