To wonder why people fuck about so much?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

Life may not always be about getting things done as quickly as possible but SOME things should be done as quickly as possible, for example tedious queues in shops, petrol stations and the dump. The quicker the tedious stuff is done, the more time there is for the fun stuff.

The people I get most frustrated with at the tips are Nigels (my name for them). They're always men, usually older middle aged or retired and drive largish cars that you can't get past. They take ages parking up and then slowly get out of their vehicle, saunter towards the boot and then remove two items which take up no space. They carefully carry the items to the appropriate skip and place them in and gaze at them for a few seconds before sauntering back to the car, stare curiously at the drivers waiting behind before getting in and faffing around with whatever before slowly driving off.

They seem to be Alan Partridge types who probably have alphabetically ordered vinyl records at home, eat fish fingers for tea and fold their clothes carefully before having sex. They probably have a caravan as well and subscribe to Caravan Monthly.

Standing waiting for the bus to arrive. Takes 15 minutes to come and 2 other people standing there waiting alongside me.

Why oh why is it a surprise to some fellow passengers (who weee there before I joined the queue) that they need their bus pass or debit card to board the bus?

They get on and faff around for hours in the bottom of their bag trying to locate it. YOU COULD HAVE DONE THIS WHILST WE WERE ALL STOOD AT THE BUS STOP!!! But oh no - you have to hold everyone up as you couldn’t prepare yourself . Aarggghhhhhhhhghhh!!!!!

Why do people do this? . Totally understandable if you’ve just run desperately to catch the bus - but when you’ve been stood there waiting for ages - would it kill you to get the payment method ready?

This. Surely they must have experienced this themselves at some point as well so would not want to make others suffer? Or they think they’re entitled to do the same maybe 🤔

Might not have been a queue when they pulled up. Quite often isn't a queue when I get there, although I tend to go in the middle of a weekday morning to/from whatever DD and I were doing so it's quieter. Or on the way home from the office on a work day because I like the garage on that route.

However, I do, on occasion, get in my car on autopilot and set off to wherever I'm going and then realise DH had it last (it has the dog crate in the back and is the bigger car so he often needs it for something) and moved a mirror/seat/adjusted the blowers/pressed something random. I obviously don't want to be faffing while I'm driving so I'll do it at a convenient point, such as when I stop for fuel. Might hop out first to fill up, might adjust it before I get out. Depends what's actually going on.

I also live a 4 hour (with no traffic) drive from my family. So I could be part way through the journey, have stopped off and need a drink or just a minute. The sat nav might be playing up, there could have been a road closure that's caused problems, DD might need a snack. That might be the best time for me to be rummaging in a bag.

But you know, maybe instead of doing it at a safe point, I'll save you 60 seconds and either deal with a cranky child or be dangerous while I'm driving. Right?

I'm so glad to see so many people agreeing with you, as I do but thought maybe I was just impatient or miserable!

I 100% blame social media and the likes, which mean people have the attention span of a goldfish and are all over the place.

I want to walk round shouting "FOCUS PEOPLE!".

Well if they only have two items that take up no space, they don't deserve to have used the tip do they?! How dare they queue to use a service when you have deemed them unworthy of it's use!?

That's very different from tapping a contactless card, which is what I was responding to.

You are not alone. I use self check out because the faffing at a staffed check out infuriates me. Let's not forget the people who can't load shopping into bags and hold a conversation with the person on checkout at the same time. The time spent paused with an item in their hand whilst they finish what they are saying drives me mad.

Driving gloves?

I think the definition of what constitutes hand luggage needs to be tightened up considerably. Anything with wheels shouldn’t be allowed.

Yes. Let's take away the easy things to move around for people, no one needs that. Everyone can carry a bag, can't they? No one will struggle with that.

I would dearly love to know what the fuck women are doing in toilet cubicles. Get in. Sit down and go. Flush. Then what are they doing after?! I've started to think everyone is wearing underwear that requires a degree to operate because why else would anyone just want to stand in a cubicle.

I have explained this already.

Not everyone is able to move as quickly as you might like them to.

Or their entire weekly shop.

Your post makes me think of a French guy who makes shorts/ reels deliberately mispronouncing “focus” as “fuck us” (funnier than it sounds - well, assuming his whole schtick is as tongue in cheek as I assume it to be!). I think if you went around shouting that, you’d at the very least get a reaction.

And me. Love self check outs, always use them whenever I can even with a trolley

Because I lose the will to live at how slow people are packing their shopping. They often look at the items coming through as if they have no idea that they actually put it in the trolley themselves. Then the check out person gets slower and slower to try and help. Then they discover they used to go to school together and have a chat about that
And the person has to find their card to pay. And then the club card. And then they put in the pin wrong and then they have to find another card.

God no can't do it. I can whizz through self service in no time

Taking a moment before the onslaught of "are we there yet" starts again?

Entitled wankers. I'm always amazed when people do a mind bogglingly slow 5 point turn in the middle of a really busy road at rush hour

Haha well this is made even funnier by the fact that I am actually French, so you can imagine me walking round shouting it like that 😂 though I am yet to do it in real life! I think I know the one you mean, love his videos!

I have been driving for 36 years and I don't think I've ever seen this.

Yabu, just chill.a bit. And use your lunch break to eat, sods law means that any errands you want to run won't turn out to be quick.

Maybe we all need to just slow down. I’m not a faffer, always aware of people waiting behind me, but if I’m behind a faffer, I just remind myself I’m not in a hurry. If I was in that skip queue, I’d have just found something to read and enjoyed the downtime. I tend to avoid anything time critical if it relies on other people, but if I’m held up when I have somewhere to be, I’ll let them know I’m going to be late, can’t be helped, I can’t make it go quicker by being annoyed about it and the end result would be to be pointlessly stressing out.

This is the problem of petrol stations that are now convenience stores.