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To wonder why people fuck about so much?

510 replies

comeandhaveteawithme · 23/06/2025 14:40

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

OP posts:
IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 23/06/2025 15:35

@comeandhaveteawithme

I think the kids paying thing isn't that bad. They are at least teaching their kids how shopping works.

rubicustellitall · 23/06/2025 15:35

OP I am with you ...sunday drivers are my worst to encounter.. Derek and jean off for a mooch at a stately home or garden centre, pootling along at 20 mph and you know they are only going for coffee to get them out of the house. Get off the fking road...Every sunday, mix it up please folks go on a tuesday, but no tuesday they cut the lawn, couldn't possibly do both...hate hate hate it!

MiddleAgedDread · 23/06/2025 15:35

Gepl · 23/06/2025 15:28

People fanny about it to a shocking degree.

The worst is train travel. If you have a seat reservation, it’s a simple system consisting of a carriage letter and a seat number. Yet people wander up and down the aisle, staring deeply at their ticket like it’s War and Peace, debating with the person their travelling with whether it’s the right seat - it has the right number and this is the right carriage, but is it the right seat?? It’s absolutely painful.

OMG these!! Same on a plane.....you're in row 16 Sandra, it's not likely to that close to the front is it?!? Makes me wonder how most of them managed to book a ticket in the first place.

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 23/06/2025 15:38

yakkity · 23/06/2025 15:18

I’m convinced the people who are leaving a parking spot who see you waiting and then fanny about are doing it intentionally. It’s like a petty little control thing

I totally agree. Either being petty or liking the fact they are keeping you waiting.

DisappearingGirl · 23/06/2025 15:40

And toilets. When you're somewhere with only 3 or 4 women's loos and there is a queue of 20 people. And people amble in, spend an age in there and amble out. Sure, there's times when you need to take longer. But sometimes you can see all 4 loo doors from the queue and all 4 are in there for aaaages. Surely some/most people are just having a wee - so why take ages faffing when there's a massive queue.

RNApolymerase · 23/06/2025 15:41

Ah, faffers. Request to the full weekly shop at petrol station people - please move your car from the pump to one of the other parking spaces if you're going to be ages thankyou.

Gepl · 23/06/2025 15:42

DisappearingGirl · 23/06/2025 15:40

And toilets. When you're somewhere with only 3 or 4 women's loos and there is a queue of 20 people. And people amble in, spend an age in there and amble out. Sure, there's times when you need to take longer. But sometimes you can see all 4 loo doors from the queue and all 4 are in there for aaaages. Surely some/most people are just having a wee - so why take ages faffing when there's a massive queue.

The best situations are those where you’re queuing, you hear the person inside flush, and then hear the hand dryer….. and then silence for 5 minutes before they emerge.

OldMcDonaldHadABigMac · 23/06/2025 15:42

A lot of people are just vacant.

abnerbrownsdressinggown · 23/06/2025 15:44

Anycrispsleft · 23/06/2025 15:29

Tips seem to be a magnet for this sort of fuckery. The one in my hometown has space for 4 cars and it's always queued for miles so sometimes you see people who are passengers in the cars, if they don't have too much stuff, getting out the car and then walking down to the tip. They can then get back in the car and leave, speeding things up for the remaining queuers - crucially, without slowing down the people who are parked in the tip, because it's a big tip and there are several containers for every type of rubbish/recycling. But one of the guys who works there doesn't like it because they're jumping the queue, so he sends them back to wait in their cars. God it irritates fuck out of me every time I go.

Our local tip (sorry, recycling centre) only allows cars - no foot passengers or cyclists. And is appointment only. Which is absolutely ridiculous considering they are also waging a war against using cars.

They also don't let any vans in as they claim vans are commercial use. Which is flipping stupid if you've hired a van to move and want to drop some stuff off at the tip (sorry, recycling centre) as part of the move. So, if you have a van you have to drive to the other side of the borough to use the big tip (sorry, recycling centre). Eejits.

partyboat356 · 23/06/2025 15:45

Yes, it's extremely aggravating and YANBU!

hazelowens · 23/06/2025 15:46

comeandhaveteawithme · 23/06/2025 14:47

Oh god - petrol station shoppers!

I honestly think they shouldn't sell anything except petrol.

The petrol garage I worked for was petrol/diesel only and you would still get people who had no means of payment so we had to fill in paper work which would take time and it was always at the busiest times.

wordywitch · 23/06/2025 15:48

I have form for being a very impatient person when it comes to things like this and sometimes I still get wound up by faffers, but for the most part I have chilled out quite a lot. A few years ago I moved to a road with a level crossing at both ends and no over/underpass for pedestrians. I decided to use the time I spend there waiting for trains to pass to practise my patience as there is nothing that can be done about how long the gate is down (which is sometimes for a full 5-7 minutes before the train comes and the record for waiting there was 18 minutes once) and it mostly worked. I have more patience for things that I have no control over, though it’s still a work in progress given that I screamed the other day after sitting on hold for 50 minutes only to be told by the clueless customer service rep that they had no idea how to help me with my query 😜

BunfightBetty · 23/06/2025 15:49

So many people about who should be forcibly fitted with wing mirrors.

Devilsmommy · 23/06/2025 15:50

The one that pisses me off the most is the ones in the supermarket who can see I'm pushing a buggy and pulling a trolley behind me. Somehow they seem to think that fuck arsing about in the middle of the aisle at that precise moment is what's needed😡 knowing I can't get past on either side. There's a special place in hell for these kinds of people 👿

OnyourbarksGSG · 23/06/2025 15:54

I call these people Feathery Strokey Fuckwits. I detest dawdling in busy public places. A slow stroll by the canal? Fine. Stopping the make small talk with a line of 7 people waiting pass then just Fuck Off

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/06/2025 15:54

DisappearingGirl · 23/06/2025 15:40

And toilets. When you're somewhere with only 3 or 4 women's loos and there is a queue of 20 people. And people amble in, spend an age in there and amble out. Sure, there's times when you need to take longer. But sometimes you can see all 4 loo doors from the queue and all 4 are in there for aaaages. Surely some/most people are just having a wee - so why take ages faffing when there's a massive queue.

I despair of what on earth some people do in the loos! They can’t all be pushing out a huge constipated shit surely?

AmadeustheAlpaca · 23/06/2025 15:54

My pet hate is when standing at a till with a long queue and someone slowly and carefully puts all their large amount of shopping away before paying. Even though there are areas nearby for packing. Then they faff about with paying.
I love self service tills. Everyone who uses them seems to be more efficient and fast, apart from, of course, the people who pretend they have no idea how to use it and get the assistant to put their shopping through for them.

Lazygardener · 23/06/2025 15:55

Ablondiebutagoody · 23/06/2025 15:07

Presumably at midday on a Monday they are mainly pensioners with all the time in the world. Although you would think they might want to make the most of what's left rather than fannying around at the tip. Or for there to always be 2 queuing for air in the petrol station at 8am.

Ah, today's MN pension bashing post, such a joy. Yes, as we shuffle towards that dark night, nevertheless we can spare a little of our rapidly diminishing time on this earth to experience the exquisite pleasure of annoying other people at the dump.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/06/2025 15:56

BunfightBetty · 23/06/2025 15:49

So many people about who should be forcibly fitted with wing mirrors.

I think there are alot of men who genuinely have no idea other people are around them - they seem utterly oblivious to the fact they are standing RIGHT IN THE WAY- or pace back and forth in a busy area.

CaptainHammer · 23/06/2025 15:56

This annoys me too. However I get even more annoyed with people not doing their jobs and moving people on. The tip workers were waiting for them to move too, hurry them up a bit!

bombastix · 23/06/2025 15:57

Strong Venn diagram crossover with meanderthals with these types. My brother in law once pointed out that they had the whole day to get through. They just don’t have a lot else to do!

Paganpentacle · 23/06/2025 15:57

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/06/2025 15:30

Most of this I agree 100% with

I’m not a faffer and don’t really hold with faffers.

The one thing I don’t agree with is re moving off from a petrol pump - I think people are fine to just make sure the sat nav is on, set their mirrors straight if needed, have a sip of water etc before moving off. Then they’re all ready and safe to drive.

why would your mirrors need adjusting?
Surely that would have been done when you first get in the car?

RobinEllacotStrike · 23/06/2025 15:57

I understand why you were annoyed.

But YABU - people move to the beat of their own drum, not yours. Best thing is to focus on the things you can control in the world, not on the things you have no control over.

rubicustellitall · 23/06/2025 15:59

Every shop. every pub. every everything where you purchase something takes so long it is infuriating. People know they have to pay so be ready, its easy,its not hard except it seems for faffers who make a huge show of either counting out to the penny or can;t unzip the purse I mean really??
Then if in a pair Derek has to consult Jean and her him..you need potatoes does it really matter just get the bloody potatoes, then a faff of getting a bag for life out of another bag for life omg its endless...

NeedthatFridayfeeling · 23/06/2025 16:00

'stopped and chatted to one another, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...'
This at petrol pumps, why?! Also the women putting lipstick on, brushing hair etc while still parked at the pump, move!!!!!