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To wonder why people fuck about so much?

510 replies

comeandhaveteawithme · 23/06/2025 14:40

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

OP posts:
Gettingbysomehow · 30/06/2025 22:01

TulipTiptoer · 30/06/2025 16:03

Is this a joke?!

So they've managed to drive from goodness knows where, pull into a garage, fill their car, go inside and pay, buy food, come back to their car, get in, but at that particular moment they might pass out and need to have a meal parked at the pump?

I can't believe what I read on mumsnet sometimes.

Yes exactly.

AgingLikeGazpacho · 30/06/2025 22:15

Sophiehoney · 29/06/2025 22:28

Because THEY ARE THE ONES BLOCKING THE PUMP!

I want to use the pump as a pump
The petrol station wants me to use it as a pump.
They have already used the pump but instead of moving on so the next person can also use it, they've decided they'd like to use it for their own private picnic space.
That's not what it's for.
And they can eat a fucking sausage roll anywhere they like. The petrol station is the only place I can get petrol

"Why is my time more precious than theirs" 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ SMH. I despair at mumsnet users sometimes.
How about I go and sit in the middle of the pavement in front of someone's deiveways and eat a sausage roll? You can just wait for me to finish before you pull in, because why is your time more precious than mine?
How about I roll out a picnic mat right in a shop doorway, blocking your way from getting your milk? Why shouldn't I be there? Why is you needing the shop more important than my picnic?

Use your brain 🤦‍♀️

I'm enjoying the idea of having a picnic on someone's driveway and them angrily drawing a diagram of it to post on one of the notorious Mumsnet parking threads

OonaStubbs · 30/06/2025 23:00

Petrol pumps should make a siren noise if a car stays too long after the fuel has dispensed and been paid for.

Sophiehoney · 30/06/2025 23:53

The comments would be like:

Maybe she is diabetic and needed to stop right there and then for her picnic have some patience omg everyone is so impatient.

It's just a quick picnic. Takes two hours at most. Why is your time more important then hers?

Are you OK? Do picnic sized scotch eggs make you really angry?

I can't beleive anyone can be so desperate to park on their own driveway that we would begrudge someone a quick scotch egg on a driveway the world is so rushed and it's so sad, noone ever stops to piss about and smell the roses any more.

Say this prayer, it will make me feel all serene and superior you feel better.

And so on and so forth

Sophiehoney · 30/06/2025 23:55

OonaStubbs · 30/06/2025 23:00

Petrol pumps should make a siren noise if a car stays too long after the fuel has dispensed and been paid for.

Yes! And spray some sort of (washable) green liquid all over their car so everyone can see their shame.

TulipTiptoer · 01/07/2025 05:34

Atina321 · 30/06/2025 17:29

Are you ok? You should probably get your blood pressure checked. You seem very stressed.

Perhaps some mindfulness or meditation might help? Or a nice walk?

Because you write complete twaddle and a LOT of people disagree with you, that means we need meditation or our blood pressure checked?!

I am more concerned with your mindset to be honest than you should be about my blood pressure 😅😂😅

I do love the "are you ok?" desperation replies, they always make me laugh a lot, so thank you!
Classic Mumsnet!

ChocolateGanache · 01/07/2025 05:41

ClareBlue · 23/06/2025 14:48

Do you not build in 'other people arsing about' time into any task that has to be achieved. It varies from around 10 percent for food to an eye watering 50 percent for any activity at a Post Office. Supermarket car parks 20 percent, bank cash lodgement 15 percent, etc etc
If you do this it makes life easier to navigate.

Omg the post office gives me the rage! Both staff and customers. Fucking hurry UP!!!

HelloCheekyCat · 01/07/2025 07:25

OnyourbarksGSG · 23/06/2025 15:54

I call these people Feathery Strokey Fuckwits. I detest dawdling in busy public places. A slow stroll by the canal? Fine. Stopping the make small talk with a line of 7 people waiting pass then just Fuck Off

I know you posted days ago but I have to ask... Are you Marian Keyes, a fan of hers or is this a real term???

Hallywally · 01/07/2025 21:36

This happens at Fat Club- people chatting, faffing & taking ages while queuing to pay and get weighed. Just bloody pay, get on the scales & bog off 🤣

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/07/2025 22:23

@HelloCheekyCat - I first heard the term ‘feathery stroker’ on here - applied to Nigel Slater.

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