To wonder why people fuck about so much?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

Or the people who try to enter the lift/train without waiting for the people inside to get out! It's both a rudeness issue and an inability to understand the laws of physics, maybe!

YANBU. People who dither and faff anywhere are supremely irritating. When I’m a dictator I shall have them all thrown into rat-infested dungeons for a few days. That’ll larn ‘em!

If its me I am struggling out of and back into my shaper control underwear! Please bear with me 🤣🤣

My DH is literally you OP.
He absolutely hates being kept waiting and an unprofessional lack of urgency and awareness.

His (least) favourite is a local shop with a woman behind the till. She is literally Mrs Overall (iykyk) and is the slowest human being on earth.

She will take an item out of the basket and inspect it. Turn it over a few times. Maybe mumble a comment saying she hasn't tried this yet or hasn't seen it before and then scan it and very very very slowly place it in the bag. But then towards the end, she might come across something heavy and will then take out several items from the bag so she can place said heavy item into the bottom of the bag.

Absolutely excruciating.
And of course there is a long old queue forming - she has absolutely no sense of urgency.
I always use the self scan!

I said if they do! Mine generally don’t , but if for example people are swapping driver at the petrol station they might. In that case, best to adjust them first and move of safely.

Plus it’s conceivable that for some people a child has knocked them climbing out of the car - that’s not going happen a lot but it could happen!

I think I'd start by looking at why I was so irritated by these things. Wanting to be efficient is one thing, but things annoying you to the point it becomes a detrimental irritation isn't a healthy response to living in a society which unavoidably involves compromise and things not always going as smoothly as you'd like them to. Concentrate on the things you can control, plan around the things you can't, and give a bit of compromise about the rest!

OP have you seen the episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm where Larry waits to buy ice cream behind a woman who wants to sample all the flavours?
Very much like the situations you're talking about.

Don’t move to France, lots of elderly customers still pay by chq in the supermarket! At least the supermarket prints the chqs now, they didn’t 5 years ago.

I find people hovering parking spots quite annoying, I think unless someone is indicating, engine on, reverse lights on etc you need to keep moving especially if you’re causing an obstruction. I had an albeit fairly extreme example last week, I was in (admittedly popular and usually full) street parking but loading 2 under 5s into car seats, putting away pushchair and I had a car just sat in the road waiting for me, zero care to the long queue of cars he was blocking. I’m not a faffer but equally manoeuvring the kids takes the time it takes.

I was finally in, engine on - but then my daughter dropped her favourite toy and started bawling so I had to get out again. At this point he did finally drive away in frustration but he’d happily allowed probably 18 cars to get stuck in traffic behind him.

Why would you need to reset your mirrors? They don’t go rouge whilst you are in the shop

if I have to set my sat nav I budge a bit forward so people can pull in behind me or pull over into the big space lots of petrol stations have. I don’t sit taking up the pump

In the past I've had to get out of my car while queuing at a petrol station and tap on the window of the car in front and ask the driver to move along. He'd taken ages in the shop, got back in his car and...just sat there. He was really surprised to learn he was causing a massive queue. 🙄

And then there are the drivers that you are patiently giving way to at roundabouts who either indicate left just as they start turning off into the exit you are waiting in or don't even bother to indicate at all at all. "Signals are for wimps!" seems to be the motto of most drivers these days. I don't know how on earth they passed their tests.

Ha yes it's small men with small lives who are getting some kind of pathetic thrill out of inconveniencing other people.

I’m a pensioner. I have all the time in the world. But …. I still manage to operate efficiently and not hold up others unnecessarily. I too hate those who fuck about needlessly and believe it or not, they come in all age groups.

I much prefer this system as it stops me procrastinating till another day. You can also book on the day just a few hours before.

So is ours. I love it. You book online, head on over, you know there will be capacity and somewhere for you to park, and the staff actually have time to help you - including with heavy items. Our tip is very heavily used.

I never understand what some people are doing when they check in cases at the airport. They just seem to be there for ten minutes talking to the person serving and then finally haul their case onto the conveyor. I turn up, show documents, do the case and am done and dusted in a minute. Have never worked out why they take so much longer.

People LOVE our booking system. You are in and out at your allotted time - none of what OP experienced. There is no sign of our local one being less busy, quite the opposite from what I've heard.

YANBU. This is why I hate petrol stations that double up as mini supermarkets. The number of times I've seen people saunter round in their own good time choosing their evening meal ingredients, having not moved their car from the pump... 😠

ETA: I see it's not just me! I really should RTFT. 😂

How about ATM faffers? Multiple cards, doing a million transactions while a queue of 50 people builds up behind them.

But they would have sat in a queue themselves more than likely so had plenty of time.

They ain't piloting the space shuttle. It's a fiat punto...just flipping move!

Gosh, what a lot of impatient bad-tempered people have agreed with you!

It's life. It's other people. Have some patience. Life is not always about getting things done as quickly as possible.

They might have 'failed' one of the checked bags checklist (did you pack it yourself, has it been out of your sight, does it contain xyz).
They might be trying to change seats, or ask about a meal (or allergies), or medicines. They might have mobility issues, or have bulky items.
It might be their first time travelling and be nervous.

I am pretty sure they are not having a breezy chat with the check in staff!

Airport boarding and sorting out stuff on planes takes three times as long as it ought to while Neil and Barbara decide what they want out of the bag they've already put in the overhead locker and oh dear it's not in that bag it's in the other and which book do you want to read, no I didn't bring that one can you make do with this one and where's the spare bottle of water.

They've just spent half an hour sitting on their arses in the waiting area at the gate, where they had ample time to do this faffing about, but did they? No, they did not.

It is that bad. It’s fucking annoying when you’re trying to go about your day and mummy decides to let little Jemima/Noah hone their dexterity by putting the coins in the parking machine and invariably dropping some while a queue forms behind this sweet moment. Just let them practice their skills when it’s only taking up your time, not ten other people’s.