To wonder why people fuck about so much?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

Honestly, I don't really care. Organise your own time. It's not everyone else's problem to accommodate you.
Once you've filled up and paid for your petrol you need to leave the petrol station. You've no longer got any business being there.

It not everyone else's problem to move at the speed you want them to, either. You want to live life rushing from one place to another, fine. Don't expect the rest of the world to accommodate you either.

We're all just living our lives. Let people.

Really? Even if it's just a quick swig from a water bottle?

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos I don't thing anyone is begrudging you a quick sip/mouthful (except maybe Sophie) which doesn't take a full minute, more a couple of seconds. I wouldn't even notice that.

It's the people that sit there and text/fix their make-up/eat their sandwiches/smoke etc etc for a minute or more and get irate when someone beeps or asks them to move. There have been several examples of people doing that on this thread, and I have seen it in action.

A full minute though, no, it isn't acceptable because if everyone took a full minute, the queue would go at a snails pace and noone would get anywhere. It's consideration for others, that's all that's being asked for. We all have lives, and your minute is less valuable because you can drink/fix your make-up/text, in lots of places but you can only fill up your car with petrol in a petrol station and that is it's primary purpose.

Never mind the primary purpose of the petrol the station.

The primary purpose of human life is to connect and to be, not to efficiently and stressedly hurry down a checklist of things to do lest someone else spews their stress at me.

Maybe YOU should organise your life to avoid the pfaffers and go to get petrol at a less popular time.

There is a science to this:
when ppl have waited a long time they are more likely to try to make their turn last longer as they feel like they have earned it.

for example- you waited 30 mins at the doctor, a 3 min appt feels like a waste so subconsciously you try to draw it out.

i personally can not stand ppl faffing about and their effect inefficiency of under resourced services but this is often the only public interaction aome
people get and it used to be a way of life.

for example the post office was more of a social occasion than banking etc in the past

I am somewhat baffled that there are people here who wouldn’t be even a little peeved if someone chose to change their baby’s nappy IN FRONT OF THE ONLY EXIT FROM THE ROOM, when there were, presumably, many, many other places she could have chosen, which would have been just as convenient for her but wouldn’t have kept everyone else from leaving the room!

Yes, Chris the banana eating bro and Latte girl (Her name is probably Tiffanee or Loree or something with unnecessary “E”s) are American although I’m sure every country has their version 😁

(And yes I do also pronounce it carmel 😳😞)

I agree, but people need to do these things, and in order to get back to the good parts of life, they want to get them done as quickly as possible so they can use what precious little time they have to connect with people and enjoy their life.

I don't mind waiting longer if Dave in front is actually using the petrol station and he's filling up a full tank so it takes longer, I don't mind waiting while Edna hobbles across the forecourt at a snails's pace because that's the best she can do. But I don't see why I have to take time away from my life and my family and home because Sandra wants to block the petrol station from being used while she does her make-up. She can do that somewhere else, so we can all have more time to enjoy our lives, not just her.

Oh you must tell me your secret for avoiding airplane maintenance, bad weather, and all of those other things that cause delays. Because my current record is a 7+ hour delay.

Or whatever keep wandering about aimlessly in airports getting in peoples way as they are trying to get to their gate.

@comeandhaveteawithme I think we found you a good example of selfishness here! I noticed your side discussion with @IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

It's not even that that pissed me off. We all make errors of judgement sometimes (it was a particularly stupid one but there you are) it was more that she glared at me and said "can you give me a minute" like I was standing over her to intimidate her when actually I was just trying to walk through the door (someone will be along in a minute to tell me I must have rammed into her with my buggy or shouted at her) and then purposefully slowed down to make a point to all these mean mums who also appeared, trying to get through the door. One of us might have said something gingerly like "it's not the BEST place to change a nappy" which only angered her further.

And yes, it's a baby/toddler group. There was an entire changing area set up in the toilets for all to use. IIRC it even provided wipes!

I remember it being a very tight time window between the singing bit at the end finishing, and my bus arriving, so I had stationed my buggy right by the door so I could plop DS in it and leave straight away. The there's this angry woman changing a shitty nappy on the floor in front of the door. Best laid plans! 😂

Ughhhh hate faffers and train idiots. Had this yesterday when a woman tried to tell me she had booked my seat on the train. Showed her my ticket and she faffed and faffed to get out her paper ticket, reading glasses, etc only to realise she was in the wrong carriage. Just wasting my life.. .

Checking into a hotel is also a massive bug bear of mine. The tap tapping away on a computer, printing stuff, more tapping and looking gormlessly at the screen when all they need to do is find my booking and give me my bloody key. AI needs to take this one over ASAP.

I got spoiled when I traveled one week a month to the same hotel for 4+ years. I would walk in the front door and the front desk staff would be waiting with my key 😁.

It always shocked me when I went to other hotels and I had to check in like a mere mortal. I agree though… all my info is in their system… why are you asking me for this information again!

I will give credit to my rental car company. If you’re in their program you walk straight to pick your car then drive to a booth where they scan the car, check to make sure you have a valid drivers license, and ask if you want to prepay fuel. Maybe 2 minutes.

Dropping off is even quicker… pull up, guy waiting who takes a visual of the car and records mileage and fuel level, asks if everything was ok, asks if you want to use the credit card on file, and finally asks if you want a paper receipt or email. All of this completed in the same time it takes to get your bag and stuff out of the car.

Checking out can also be annoying if you want to pay for something instead of just plopping your keys.
I was once stuck behind a couple who were trying to pay for their dinner from the night before. "I had the swordfish"
"we don't serve swordfish"
"Oh, it might have been catfish"
"we don't serve catfish"
Husband ambles over... "you had the monkfish"
Monkfish then!! it's the only fish on the menu!! couldn't someone have worked that out??
"Did you have a dessert?"
"I don't remember. Did you have a dessert, darling?"
"I did, you had the ice-cream"
"No, that was carol, Carol! you had the ice-cream, I didn't you? Oh I remember now, I had the cheesecake, it was the best I've had..."
and so on and so forth....

One week a month in a hotel sounds lovely. Yearns for a week away once a month....

Are you kidding with that assessment of pensioners or being sarcastic? I can’t tell. I hope you’re being “funny”.

It was kinda nice but don’t tell anyone😉.

On the topic of this thread my trip involved a 4 hour drive through Chicago, now there’s a place where people don’t fuck around. I don’t even know what the speed limit is supposed to be on that drive but if you’re not going 80+ mph you will be made aware of your error by all the other drivers.

My best drive was coming home. It was me and a BMW in the fast lane when a sheriff came up behind us, we both moved over (again at 80+) and watched as he started to push the semis/lorries out of the two fast lanes. Me and the BMW guy shrugged at each other and pulled back over into the fast lane.

For at least 30 minutes we kept a respectful distance and enjoyed a gloriously clear lane!

I found driving in Chicago to be painfully slow but then I was mostly downtown.

For sure there are some bits that are congested, but then others that are flat out.

It’s also very time dependent.

Exactly. There is this whole chain of places along motorways and A-roads with slip roads called "service stations" which sell fuel and also have parking spaces in which you can sit and sleep, take a moment, faff with a car seat or have a nap to your heart's content. And yes, one should stop there if they need to even if they have filled up with fuel.

Yes!!! It bloody is!! Why are you so bloody-minded?

I don't care if you think I'm rude. There are worse things than rude and that is YOU. Selfish, entitled and arguing for the sake of it to defend the indefensible.

I'm quite quick to forgive a faffer who acknowledges their faffery and wholeheartedly apologises or acknowledges it...but definitely do daydream about cattle prodding the other inconsiderate/gormless feckers

People who somehow take up a whole pavement, ambling slowly really get on my tits - move to the side!

People who stop at the top of of stairs/escalators/in doorways/at junctions also rile me. Just make a fucking choice to go left or right, find a quiet spot and then make a decision about what you want to do next!

People who fuck around in train or plane aisles - sit down, let others pass, then arse around with your belongings (I also have a special spot in Hell for people who take up space in the luggage rack for their sodding coats when the stewards have repeatedly asked them to not stow coats there due to plane being fully booked and there not being enough space for everyone's carry on otherwise...you are delaying everyone because you don't know how to listen to instructions/not be a selfish arsehole)

Thanks OP that was cathartic

The stopping and flashing thing when I’ve already pulled in infuriates me. Every single day on my road this happens!

Agree, it’s not the speed of the walking but proceeding to take up the width of the whole pavement because they can’t walk in a straight line. You try to go round them and somehow they are in front of you again. Complete lack of awareness.