To wonder why people fuck about so much?

[comeandhaveteawithme]

My local skip is a very busy place. There is often a huge queue of cars and once you are in the queue, you absolutely cannot leave, there is no way of driving out of it or turning around due to the way it's structured. You're going through the skip, and that's that.

Today, I was in the queue of doom and a worker walked along the line of cars and told everyone that they just needed to use the crusher before they could let anyone through and to do that, they needed to wait until the cars already parked up and using the skips, had all left, then they could use the crusher and start letting people in again. It was my lunchbreak so I was in a bit of a rush, but nothing I could do.

But watching the people already using the skip was so irritating. They knew there was a line of approximately 20-30 cars waiting, they knew no one else could enter until every car had gone, but they all sauntered back and forth with their stuff from their boots, they stopped and chatted to one another, one guy had a quick cigarette before getting in his car, another sat in the drivers seat and did something on his phone before slowly putting on his seatbelt and leaving...

I just cannot understand people who are so incredibly slow and insist on doing unnecessary things in busy places where people are clearly waiting to use the thing they are using.

The other day, a waitress bringing our food to out table stopped mid-way and chatted to a customer she knew, while holding our plates of food, letting them get cold - why? talk on the way back if you must!

And the amount of people I see letting their toddlers use their debit cards to pay while smiling indulgently as the kids drops the card or taps it wrong with a queue of people waiting, or who stand at the till transferring money, or ask the bus driver an endless series of questions with a whole busload of people waiting, plus the 50 cars behind the bus....

If you are one of these people who fuck about, why? and are you also irritated by the fucking about or am I just far too angry?

It was really autocorrect gone rogue and me not paying attention. I use my iPad for work and end up with a lot of city names that end up coming to the forefront in my predictive text. 😁

A bit like me ALWAYS getting in the wrong queue at the tills. I excelled myself one day, Poundland (when everything was a pound) I joined a queue absentmindedly and realised the mistake I’d made after a couple of minutes. Her bill came to £99.

I take a darn sight more notice now!

I knew the parents where still there at half 6 as I would be racing down the road,trying not to be late to pick the kids up from after school club

Pissed me off,having to push them out of the way so I wouldn't get into trouble for being late (I never was,but I was scared of being that person)

But it actually is, you have to get there well before it's time to get to the gate and all there is to do is wander about, not to mention the people who are waiting for a connecting flight with a 4 hour lay over! Obviously there will be some people in a rush but then you just ask them politely to let you past.

We just sit and wait until everyone else is off.

Dammit, @Tigergirl80, don't tell everyone the secret! They'll all want the plane to themselves, and nobody will get off!

You're right. However... When it's really packed, so you can't easily move past people, I wish people walked around a bit more consciously. Instead they change direction suddenly because they spotted something in the shop across, or they stop suddenly to check their phone, or they walk very slowly in one direction then drag their suitcase over your toes while starting to walk almost zigzagy, or all the above

Can you tell I've been recently traumatised 🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭

@AlpacaMittens there are definitely airports that easier to mosey about in than others, Luton airport is particularly horrendous. Even getting to your gate at a normal pace feels hectic, it always seems to have about twice as many people in it than it can actually hold.

Yep it's Luton that traumatised me 😂😭

Maybe they were there also collecting from after-school club but just got there a bit earlier than you did and used it as an opportunity to have an adult conversation outside of work?

Isn't there some kind of queuing paradox (?) or something though because you're just standing there doing nothing it feels like the active people are taking an absolutely ages, but then when it's your turn it feels really quick because you were actually doing something and you only had to do it once rather than wait through 20 people doing it.

In other words some of you enraged people possibly aren't quite as efficient as you think you are, nor are some people faffing quite as much as you think they are. You probably also have moments other people would consider faffing, like occasionally dropping your purse or having to choose a different cheese as the one you usually buy is out of stock.

Knew it 😂

You're very defensive, aren't you?

Well most of us have at least 2 hours to kill before boarding our flight. I hate rushing at the airport. I’m there before check in opens. So we usually get fed and watered make use of the free refills then check in as soon as check in opens. So yeah we probably do absente mindedly wander around the airport but never been 1 of those people ranting we can’t get on our flight because we’ve missed check in.

When people are unnecessarily rude to or about people whom they know nothing about? Yep. Love to defend the innocent.

Your airport doesn’t have connecting flights? That’s unusual. Every airport I’ve ever been in has a mix of people arriving, departing, and connecting.

We all know how (at those airports that do connections) never have delays on the arrivals. They never have people who through no fault of their own are sprinting through the terminals trying to get to their gate.

Maybe one day you will be old…..(except that people who are of your mindset will have introduced a forcible cull at sixty, so you won’t get to experience the joys of old age yourself)

I am old infact only a couple of years off being 60 myself..this has nothing to do with age its to do with faffing people of all ages. I do not discriminate!

I agree. I am quite a bit older than you. I don't faff. I prefer self service tills, Aldi and Lidl for the speed. I've never faffed, I just like to get on with the boring bits, like shopping, to enjoy the really good bits.
Some people just faff, others don't.

What drives me potty is the inane conversations with the people on checkouts. I am warm and polite, I smile, but I don't want to be asked "oooh, have you tried that soup, What's it like" about a fresh soup I've purchased as it can open up a conversation and that's not fair on the people queuing behind.
I usually answer "no, first time I'm trying it" which means I don't have to listen to how the M&S one is better and how their son loves it but prefers the spicy one

Some people prefer the human touch (personally I like to be in and out with no chat but you know, we're all different). For some people, that "inane" soup conversation will be the only conversation they have with anyone that day. Which isn't faffing, it's just human to want some form of interaction with other people.

I get enough of that through work, family, friends etc. but am able to appreciate that some people have a different life to me and therefore afford them some compassion.

There's no need to be rude about people just doing their job and trying to get some happiness from it, or those who need that "service".

I don't faff about at the till in shops, I dislike self-service so always go to a checkout that's open (thank you Waitrose for always having at least one open). I can still chat occasionally with the operator, I pack, chat then pay and then I'm off. I don't hold anyone up.

I wasn't rude?

I said I smiled. I said I was warm and polite. But I didn't extend the conversation because I didn't feel it was fair on the people in the queue behind me
You would not think I was rude if you met me, I just move through quickly and say thank you warmly to the person on the checkout. I just don't want to have conversations about what I am buying in the supermarket.

Repeating my question to you in case you missed it first time. Apologies if I missed your response. This was your answer to someone describing a mum blocking the exit of a baby group to change a nappy, thus making others miss the bus. @IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

Do you think it’s acceptable for a mum to change a nappy at an exit, thus blocking a queue of mums with little kids in prams? Who also may be tired, stressed, busy etc. Would you do that?

I wouldn't. But I also wouldn't be so frustrated by it I had to tell a load of strangers how terrible she was. If have asked her if she needed help moving out of the exit or with the nappy.

There is no point being so upset with strangers not doing what you would that you need to rant about them to other strangers, and then be affronted that people don't agree with you.

You said it drives you potty and called it inane. That's rude. They're doing their job. They're told to try and make conversation because it might be the only conversation someone has. It's also highly boring for them to just sit there silently not speaking to customers (and you can bet people would complain about that too).

In my youth I worked at so many retail places, often on checkouts. It's part of their role. You finding it inane doesn't change that. Someone else finding it faffy doesn't change that.

I 100% thought "carmel" was done on purpose because of the American pronunciation. That couple was already American to me in my head before I got to "carmel" 😆