Sorry - another bridezilla ish one

[bagpuss90]

My niece is marrying in October. Her day - her rules . But aibu to be a bit shocked at the dress code ? We are all to wear black and only black. No hats. No fascinators. No flowers in our hair. No coloured shoes or handbags. And wait for it - no nail polish. She wants a monochrome wedding.

I think it’s selfish. If I was going I’d have to buy a complete new outfit including shoes and my DH would have to buy a new suit, shirt, shoes and tie (I assume the tie would need to be black too.)
I wouldn’t want people to have to buy new clothes to attend my wedding. It seems so wasteful and selfish.

With white shirt & black tie. NOT a black shirt.

Has the world gone mad. Her day, her rules? The egotism astounds me. And when they all stand in a group for the photo do they all go ‘ Baaa’?

Please OP go dressed like Mr Blobby and report back

Everyone does not own black clothes! I have been to many a funeral with the clothes I do own, I seldom even wear the black trousers I have, didn't even wear black to my mother or father's funeral, it's not a rigid code everywhere. That would be all I have in black, trousers or jeans, nothing remotely dressy and would never normally wear black at all so I would definitely by buying something in nearest charity shop and donating it again after use.

The photographs are going to be a hoot. She'll look like she's surrounded by a murder of crows. (I had to look up the collective noun for crows.)

It really is the no nail polish that I’m struggling to get my head round

I would want to dye my hair a rainbow of colours and wear the brightest most red lippy

Each to their own, you have the right to decline too. Please don’t do what people have said here and accept but turn up with colour. I am not a fan of stupid rules at all but I’d just be refusing to go.

I don't own anything black. This would make me roll my eyes but would just suck it up and get on with it if she was my neice.

For our wedding, the dresscode was come however you want: dress up, don't dress up, come as spiderman -- whatever makes you happy and you are comfortable in. Members of my family complained because they felt it was a really missed opportunity to get everyone really dressed up. You just can't win with weddings.

I'm sure most men have a black suit and a black shirt can be bought very cheaply.

I'd probably buy something new for my nieces wedding anyway but if not I have many black dresses in my wardrobe and often dress in black so would be very happy with the dress code. I would have thought that the majority of women would have a black dress.

DH and I got married in black.

Admittedly they were smart trouser suits at the Registry Office of a lunch time. 🤷‍♀️

@bagpuss90 you can buy black confetti. 😁

Black and white photos would save everyone the trouble 😆

@AngelinaFibres
”Surely all men (apart from poor ones) own a black suit.”

Why would you think that? Non of my adult kids or my brothers have black suits.
I bet blue or grey are far more common even with people who aren’t ‘poor’ 🤔

Gloves? You can take them off to eat.

Shame though?

yeah, but her aesthetic is about making her look good (being the only one in white in a sea of black) so everything else is probably irrelevant!

Who in their right mind would miss their nieces wedding because of a simple dress code. Ridiculous

Wear a Black Eyed Peas t shirt and your DP can wear a Black Sabbath one.

I don't own any black dresses (black makes me look illl) so I would end up having to get something I would never wear again.

Honestly it does sound really odd!

I wouldn't go.

Not really. Black suits are a bit naff. Dark grey ir dark blue are far more elegant, they can be worn with a black tie for a funeral.

Meh, I’d just go and have a nice time and enjoy it for what it is. Or don’t! No point complaining about it really though.

I feel like we will be at the same wedding lol. Husbands best friend and his stb Wife have the same dress code. All black but she said we can go as full on or laid back as we want 😬

I was more asking as PP said they’d resent buying something black that won’t suit them that they’ll never wear again, but presumably they would if they needed something for a funeral- I don’t see how a wedding is much different.

Your first point is fair though, I’ve only ever seen black at a wedding but understand other colours are worn.