In garden chatting early. Aibu

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Me and DH were sat in the garden at about 6.30am this morning chatting over a coffee. I don't think we were particularly loud - we weren't arguing or anything, just chatting. A neighbour looked out the window at us and DH got worried we were being annoying and made us go inside.
I feel like it's not often you can sit outside and have a coffee first thing because it's never usually warm enough. In fact this is the first time we've done it all year (and we were just chatting). But then it WAS 6.30am. thoughts please. Were we unreasonable given the time?
If it makes a difference we live on a reasonably main road. So there's always way more noise at the front.

I think it fine to sit outside and chat quietly in your own garden at and time tbh.
lots of people are up at 6.30 for work or just by choice and they can’t be expected to live in silence

Chatting outside for a prolonged period of time at 6.30am is rude. Obviously if your neighbours are far enough away then crack on, but it sounds like this is not the case.

6.30 is flipping early - if you have any neighbours, I would say it’s a no to making any unnecessary noise outside at that time.

It wouldn’t wake me as I’m a deep sleeper once I’m out, but it would many people.

On a weekend when your neighbour could hear you, 6.30 is too early. Sit quietly, but conversation travels much further than you think.

It’s fine. It’s not that early

I live in a busy area, so am used to cars etc. But if you were sitting outside my house chatting at half 6 on a Saturday morning I'd be twitching the blinds too - it's not a passing noise, that I can ignore, it's a continuous one and I'd be well pissed off to be woken by you.

You can chat in your garden so that you can’t be heard next door, or you can do it so every word can be clearly heard several doors down. Some people have no concept of the loudness of their own voice. My neighbour was chatting over the fence to someone late last evening when I was sitting listening to the birdsong and cooling down and after 15 minutes I wanted to slap her. It’s possible at 6.30 am your chatting was irritating to your neighbour and at that time of the day if you weren’t using low voices you were being inconsiderate.

Too early. Sit outside, enjoy the morning, keep stum and let others enjoy their morning too.

if you were outside chatting at that time it would wake our whole household up and it forces you to start the day. Having said that, we are awake at that time anyway at this time of year but not everyone is.

You were obviously talking loud enough for them to hear so yabu, 6:30 is early.

It’s a bit early.

But there was no reason for you to go inside once your husband had, unless you were going to sit there chatting to yourself.

Absolutely unreasonable. My neighbours did similar this morning and I was fuming. I have to get up at 6.30
in the week and I do not want to be up at that time if I don’t have to be.

I think it’s too early especially as people might not sleep well in this heat and want a lie - in. Most people also sleep with windows open and would hear you.

If you woke your neighbour and they looked out you weren’t as quiet as you thought,
weekdays fine but it’s a weekend!
I say that as someone who is an early bird btw

On a Saturday morning it’s a bit insensitive. I stayed at my dp’s last night and at 7:30 this morning his neighbour let her two boys out into the garden to jump and shout on the trampoline…it’s ridiculous!!

My lovely neighbour has form for this - she also takes phone calls in the garden very early for work. She is naturally very loud - her nickname is Daddy Pig so you get the idea. Because in every other way she is a perfect neighbour I let it slide but when you live in a quiet area noise carries a very long way. If someone looked out the window you are being too loud.

I think your DH was right to come and all respect to him, other people don’t care. Trouble is, everyone has their windows open as it’s hot, to try to pull in some cooler air before it heats up again. Voices carry much more than you think and if you’re “chatting”, you’re not being proactive in keeping your voices low. Your neighbour would have thought, “Who the f is talking at this time in the morning?!” and looked to see.

Your DH was right

Too early at the best of times, let alone in this heat when people have their windows open. You clearly woke them up if they looked out. You may not have been very loud but when it’s silent early in the morning, sound really carries.

Sitting have a coffee is one thing, chatting away when people will have windows open due to the heat is rude! Its not early for some people on a weekday, but on weekends, lots enjoy a sleep in.

You would be under the patio by now if you were my neighbour!
Seriously though, you were extremely inconsiderate. Voices carry and many people will still be sleeping that early on a Saturday.

If its noisy at the front, even more need for peace at the back

Why does someone always say this, no matter what time the OP is talking about? 6.30 is surely, objectively, very early, especially on a weekend.

It’s not even unusual to live your life NEVER seeing that time, as many live near enough to work and school not to have to.

Its like saying “oh 1 am, that’s not very late” - i see 1 am most days but i know not everyone does.

YABU- If it makes a difference we live on a reasonably main road. So there's always way more noise at the front.

This was like our previous property, hence we slept in the back bedroom- to get away from the bloody noise. I'd have wanted to put the hose on you if you'd been chatting at that time this morning!

Any noise that might disturb your neighbours at 6.30 on a weekend morning is unreasonable and unneighbourly.

I think it’s fine. I’m up @6:00am on week days. If I heard someone chatting outside that early I would probably have a look who it was to make sure they weren’t up to no good. Maybe that all the neighbour was doing

6.30 am on a Saturday morning, yes you were rude!