In garden chatting early. Aibu

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Me and DH were sat in the garden at about 6.30am this morning chatting over a coffee. I don't think we were particularly loud - we weren't arguing or anything, just chatting. A neighbour looked out the window at us and DH got worried we were being annoying and made us go inside.
I feel like it's not often you can sit outside and have a coffee first thing because it's never usually warm enough. In fact this is the first time we've done it all year (and we were just chatting). But then it WAS 6.30am. thoughts please. Were we unreasonable given the time?
If it makes a difference we live on a reasonably main road. So there's always way more noise at the front.

I love eavesdropping on my neighbours so I wouldn't mind. We were up at 5.30 anyway as it's the best time to get stuff done when it's warm so wouldn't bother me.

I'd speak in a lower voice than usual outdoors at that time.

When we were on holiday a neighbour came out and shouted at us because the kids were playing outside at 8.30am. They had been up for three hours and I'd been entertaining them solo indoors. Though to his credit a few minutes later he came out and apologised as he didn't realise the time and thought it was earlier.

What time is ok to start chatting?

You are being VERY VERY VERY unreasonable. 6.30am is so early, especially for a weekend. I can't believe that some people are SO inconsiderate. You would give me the RAGE if I was your neighbour.

Weekday totally fine . I'm up early i totally get how nice it is to sit outside .
But I suppose weekend maybe 7.30

At this time of year people sleep with their window open. Often people walk their dogs early so it's cool. They might greet and chat with other dog walkers. (I'm not one of them). I don't see how it's any difference to traffic noise at that hour. There's a farm up the road to me, and often the tractors start going up and down the lane at first light. While it's annoying, it's part and parcel of living near others. The OP isn't shrieking and yelling, if what's she's saying is correct and they are indeed chatting quietly. MN is very fond of shouting "RUUUUUUUUDE" to people doing normal things. Anyone read the thread by the poor woman who has the neighbours from hell on her terrace? Now they are rude.

Yes to eavesdropping! I don't get on with my neighbours so I love an opportunity to judge them.

YABU - 6.30 is too early for avoidable noise at the weekends.

Reasonable neighbours would not make noise right near bedroom windows on a weekend until later.
No crime in doing so but you wouldn't want to wake them up, would you? Reasonable would be after 7:30 for me.

Ha! This is a bit of an over reaction surely? We did it once ever and as soon as we realised we went in 😆
And weekend or not makes no difference to this particular neighbour I don't think, as they're retired. But we've taken it onboard and won't be outside so early in future.

We have neighbours we call the Annoyingtons because they are in their garden at 6am every Saturday and Sunday with their kids shouting, laughing, crying. If your neighbour heard you, you were too loud.

'DH made us come inside' that was the bit that got me tbh, that makes you sound like a child and dad had spoken.
6.30 chatting is early when it is warm and windows are open yabu for that aspect because even low sounds carry.
Neighbour looked at you out of window? I wouldn't have put too much to that unless she asked you to keep it down a notch.
If h was that bothered he couls have gone inside and left you outside to enjoy your drink, or you could have stayed put and kept quiet for the 15 mins you were outside.

The same time that noisy work is allowed to start due to local council guudelines? 8am?

There’s nothing wrong in sitting outside your own property chatting quietly. I would guess your neighbour got up for the loo, heard voices & looked out to check nothing untoward going on, seen it was you & carried on his day/went back to bed.
As long as you were using quiet voices & not screeching/laughing, then nothing to feel guilty about.

Ok "made us" was a turn of phrase. He actually said "come on let's go in. Maybe we woke them up"

I think lots of people don’t realise that sound travels up. It will have sounded really loud at an upstairs window

People will have windows open due to the heat and sometimes the position of surrounding housing, fencing and hedging acts like a speaker amplifying sound.

You clearly disturbed them and this may be the only lie in they get all week.
Not everyone is a morning person.

Why didn’t you go for a walk if you wanted to chat?

I disagree.
There are going to be very few days when you can sit and chat comfortably in your garden at 6.30 am. Today is the summer solstice too.
If you were doing it everyday or regularly then that would be inconsiderate.
Don’t curb quiet enjoyment of your own garden just to placate miserable buggers on MN.
Life’s too short, enjoy the summer.

Sit outside and enjoy your coffee by all means but shut the hell up and being that neighbour.

Well because the plan was to sit and have a coffee rather than go for a chat. We just naturally started chatting rather than sit in silence

The amount of threads on here with people lacking any form of self awareness is amusing

Yes you were being completely unreasonable. I don’t understand why it didn’t cross your mind that you would be disturbing your neighbours at that time of the morning

Too early !

Yes fine if you have quiet low voices :) sounds lovely :)

You were loud enough to be heard so 6.30am is too early especially on a weekend.

oh please.

One side starts chatting at 5am, the other one finish chatting at 4am.
But it's ok because it's summer. Meanwhile you are stuck in the middle and you can't sleep. There are weeks of summer warm enough to do this, even in England.

How can people be so inconsiderate is beyond me. I hope your neighbours are just like you!