Piss taking neighbour

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Moved to a nice (ish) area a few months ago, knew when I saw the new neighbour that he was a prick. Unreal how entitled the people down this street are tbh. My family and I are not stuck up yet we’re not the pits or in the nightmare neighbour bracket but it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.
So this twat hardly even says hello yet he stood at our garden fence watching as we were going to trim our hedges with our new hedge trimmer the other day and asked my partner if he would come and trim the hedge in his garden as it is our hedge that has grown over to his side. (I didn’t realise my partner hadn’t offered to do it himself and that this neighbour actually thinks it is our responsibility to do so and expects us to sort it as if it is our responsibility).
Fast forward to yesterday, a delivery guy attempts to deliver a package to this neighbour, rings his ring doorbell, I was in my garden at this point and heard loud and clear the neighbour say through the speaker that he was not home and to not leave the parcel with me but to take it to the other neighbours!
So he expects my partner to go and do his gardening yet we’re not good enough to take his parcel in? I could hear the disgust in his voice at the idea of the delivery man leaving his parcel with us.
He also stores his massive ladders in our garage because they won’t fit in his. Honestly I felt like launching his ladders over the fence for him to store where the sun doesn’t shine.
I could understand if we were scum bags and caused nuisance but we’re in bed by a reasonable time and do not make excessive noise or other anti social issues.
I realise I shouldn’t give it a second thought yet after hearing his tone about us to the driver I feel enraged at his cheek.

Your tone and choice of words show you lack the ‘class’ you think your neighbours are judging you far. How can you know from looking at someone they are so and so? Judgemental? Off back to your council estate

It really really does pay in the long run if you can stay on cordial terms with your neighbours. One thing about the hedge is that he is perfectly entitled to trim any overhang on his side but as it belongs to you, he’s within his rights to drop the trimmings over your side of the fence for you to dispose of. We, and all our neighbours have regularly done, although not always, but it is a thing, and it’s fine!

Wow…

you need to relax.

This.

I agree

I’ve been wondering lately why people bother posting on Mumsnet when they stop replying to comments. Wasted effort all round! If they don’t want advice then just don’t ask in the first place 😫

It's known as intuitive gut feelings
Haven't you ever had a sixth sense or initial first impression about someone which you too, might've wished you'd listened to as well? It's quite a common thing & us human beings are blessed with an intuition, but sadly, being's we're only human, we don't always take this sixth sense seriously enough

He doesn't sound like a bit of a bully

OP sounds incredibly judgemental and possibly even racist

I'm presuming she's more concerned & uncomfortable about the reasons, why,,, he doesn't wish to have his parcels left with her
It might be some prejudice reason for all we know
We're of course, not there so I feel she should trust her intuition

Her intuition which appears to be based on prejudice...

I've not been able to read the entire whole thread, only her 1st comment & some responses to on commenter
What was mentioned which implies prejudice? I got the impression, from what I've seen commented, she feels this male neighbour's being snooty & prejudiced towards her?

The part in her OP where she says

knew when I saw the new neighbour that he was a prick

Unreal how entitled the people down this street are tbh.

clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.

She took an instant dislike to this man and it's apparently because he's of a different religion and culture. She also thinks everyone else is entitled and looks down on her, again because of this difference

send the ladders back and say you no longer have room and as for the hedge, if your hubby has already done it then make sure he doesn’t do it again! And if he hasn’t then simply say you don’t have time. Legally if overhanging his side of the fence it’s his responsibility anyway not yours.

It sounds the other way round to me, however, granted we need some clarity on exactly what the neighbour said about the OP/her household to the delivery person , this would be helpful. Read on face value, he was disparaging about them so let’s see if we can get more detail. Simply saying you follow a different religion and come from a different culture to the majority isn’t racist.

Of course not.

I think you’re overthinking this.

It seems she feels judged & discriminated against for not following their religion, so it's the other way round

I think it's a bit unhinged to have an aspiration to take in parcels or be offended not to take in parcels. Like pp I think he probably just usually leaves packages with the other neighbours, and/or you didn't judge the tone correctly.
When you need a huge ladder you'll be glad to share instead of buy your own.
I think it's best not to assume negative intent where you don't know for sure.
Chill out. Share the ladders. Be reasonable yourselves and don't worry about whether anyone thinks you are " good enough" to take in their package (!!) or whatever.

Completely Concur With You
It Most Surely Seems the other way round to me too
To trust your intuition that someone's looking down their nose at you for not following their religion isn't being prejudice, but the person looking down their nose in judgement for not following their religion, is the one behaving in a prejudice manner
Most assuredly
Thank you for your compassionate enlightenments & empathetic understanding
God Bless You&Yours
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I think by trimming they mean the side, so literally would only affect the neighbour and there is nothing neighbourly about asking the op. He can trim his own side from now on.

It's really unkind to inform someone you think they're unhinged just because she's hurt by this male neighbour's tone! We weren't there, but it seems from how she's described him, that he's quite pompous
So she clearly doesn't have an aspiration to take in his parcels, she's merely wondering why he's seemingly being snooty towards her & her family, which is fair enough & just because she might be a sensitive soul, does not, in the slightest merit being labeled as unhinged!

Completely Concur With You Wholeheartedly Sincere Soul
Thank you for your compassionate comprehension & thoughtfulness
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If she's being presumed to be racist when she's seemingly just expressing this male's looking down his nose at herself & her family, why would she feel encouraged to enlighten any more!

She decided he was a prick just looking at him and calls the other people around her entitled and say they look down on her

In the absence of any clarification, that's very judgemental

Sensing someone's entitled isn't judgemental it's just observation
Have you never ever sensed someone's entitled yourself!, I think everyone at some time in their lives has had the misfortune of meeting someone entitled
I'm sure she doesn't need to nor have time to explain every single reason why she's sensed entitlement