Piss taking neighbour

[Violetraindrops]

Moved to a nice (ish) area a few months ago, knew when I saw the new neighbour that he was a prick. Unreal how entitled the people down this street are tbh. My family and I are not stuck up yet we’re not the pits or in the nightmare neighbour bracket but it’s clear the neighbours look down on us as we do not follow the typical religion and culture that most of the street share.
So this twat hardly even says hello yet he stood at our garden fence watching as we were going to trim our hedges with our new hedge trimmer the other day and asked my partner if he would come and trim the hedge in his garden as it is our hedge that has grown over to his side. (I didn’t realise my partner hadn’t offered to do it himself and that this neighbour actually thinks it is our responsibility to do so and expects us to sort it as if it is our responsibility).
Fast forward to yesterday, a delivery guy attempts to deliver a package to this neighbour, rings his ring doorbell, I was in my garden at this point and heard loud and clear the neighbour say through the speaker that he was not home and to not leave the parcel with me but to take it to the other neighbours!
So he expects my partner to go and do his gardening yet we’re not good enough to take his parcel in? I could hear the disgust in his voice at the idea of the delivery man leaving his parcel with us.
He also stores his massive ladders in our garage because they won’t fit in his. Honestly I felt like launching his ladders over the fence for him to store where the sun doesn’t shine.
I could understand if we were scum bags and caused nuisance but we’re in bed by a reasonable time and do not make excessive noise or other anti social issues.
I realise I shouldn’t give it a second thought yet after hearing his tone about us to the driver I feel enraged at his cheek.

I wonder if the OP has managed to buy a house on a remote island run by a strange charismatic aristo where all the inhabitants subscribe to a weird nature loving quasi religion involving naked dancing, animal masks and human sacrifice. In which case I would hang on to the ladders as they will probably be round to ask for them later as they need long ladders to finish off the Wicker Man

Post of the week, so far 😆 🤣 😂 😹 🏆

Our neighbour has always trimmed the hedge on both sides. Really annoys me!

It just sounds like you are being racist and are making assumptions based upon this. You are different to them so therefore everyone is against you? Did you every consider that it isn't your neighbours that are being stuck up and are full of hatred?

You have to return his ladders, because while they are on your property he will think he has a right to enter your property anytime he wants, if you are on holiday, he will for sure pretend he needs to dust his ladders, and im 100% sure he will try your door handle to house, if you built a rapour with the previous house owners, drop them an email asking them if this guy was ever racist/prejudice/demanding/suspicious, my guess they will tell you hes the neighbourhood C*t

OP - going to bother coming back and explaining your vaguely racist opening comments?

You've been there a few months, he's probably been there far longer and may be stuck in his ways. If you want to enjoy living in that road, then how you act now as the "newbies" is quite important. I'd think long and hard before taking a "stand". Living amongst people requires compromise and understanding. He may be used to his previous neighbour cutting that side of the hedge or parcels delivered to the other house. It's not a case of "giving in" on your part but adapting. You may find that if you have a growing family or lots of visitors, good relationships with neighbours especially at noisy, busy times are vital.

Sod him! I'd deliver then back to him when he/another family member return home from work

Don't forget some people are just part of the awkward squad

So I dont get it...who is what culture in this scenario. I dont understand

This is why OP needs to explain

Because either she's being vaguely racist or everyone in the street is...

Like is she the only white family in a street of Asians and Muslims?

Or is she a Jew in a Christian street?

Or what?

Yeah i dint get it. Please explain OP

My neighbour gets his parcels delivered to his other neighbour, not to me, because they were here before us and do all sorts of stuff for each other - they both have cats and each feeds the other's when they are away, so they have keys to each other's and can drop parcels off.

I really think you are over reacting here.

If you own the house you have to disclose bad relationships with neighbours if you move so dont antagonise him with the ladders if they dont bother you.

From his point of view it will look petulant and from nowhere. You won't come out of this looking good.

My neighbour is elderly and while she will take parcels in, I know she’d rather not. She sleeps downstairs and keeps odd hours as elderly folk do. She doesn’t want to be bothered by her doorbell ringing. My husband cuts her grass as she is unable to do so. She’ll come out if she’s up and talk for ages over the fence. We have a neighbourly relationship with her, she just doesn’t want to be woken or rush to get to the door for someone else’s parcels.

Is it possible he wanted the package left with other neighbours as he doesn't know you well yet?
I would tell delivery driver to leave something with my neighbour to the left as I've known her 20 years and we do that sort of thing for each other. Nothing against neighbour to the right, just don't know her well.

I would check with the previous owners before throwing the ladders into his garden, to see if they are really his or was it when they moved out they didn’t need them so left them for you and he is taking advantage.

Feck him.

Get the ladders out of your garage.

And he can trim the bushes himself next time.

Very similar situation here. We were so excited to move into our little village 3 years ago. We’d heard how lovely and friendly it is and the family next door looked very similar to us. 3 kids, dog etc. fast forward and we’re barely on speaking terms. She’s a SAHM so looks down her nose at me as I work. She’s made comments about our dog being at home till 3pm even though I take him out every night. Her boy has broken our window with his football (we didn’t complain) just fixed it and they phoned the local planning office when we built a man cave. Even though they’ve already got one. Horrible people.

You are not being petty. Give him back his ladders with a comment that you're sure he doesn't want you to have them in your possession because you've heard his comments to the driver.

Nooooo, terrible advice. The neighbour is 2 faced and sounds like a bit of a bully. They’ll never have a good relationship with him. If they’re pleasant to him he’ll just carry on using them and bad mouthing them behind their backs. Better to make a stand and cut any obligations or else he’ll keep on taking liberties. Sounds like someone needs to stand up to him.

Absolutely evict his ladders from your garage. This idiot is never going to be a civil neighbour towards you so you have nothing to lose and a bit of garage space to gain. Don't worry about offending him because you don't need that sort of crazy in your life.

Personally I'd thank my lucky stars he doesn't want his parcels going to yours. Honestly, if he'd said the opposite 'leave them with Violetraindrops' you'd be just as enraged!

Definitely don't cut the hedge again - he can feck off! But I would start using the ladders as much as possible. I bet he will hate that, but what's he going to do?!

I'd be giving him back his ladders asap.

It really doesn’t seem that bad, and what do you mean by not the religion/culture of the street?

This! You sound like you have a bit of an inferiority complex OP. I think you will find that it is your responsibility to cut your hedge on both sides, however, the neighbour IS entitled to cut it himself if it's annoying him. I think you need to chill out a bit.