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MPs vote to decriminalise abortion

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AirborneElephant · 17/06/2025 19:34

AIBU to be thrilled! Sorry if there’s already a thread, couldn’t see one.

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AirborneElephant · 19/06/2025 13:27

AlertCat · 19/06/2025 11:50

@Arran2024 nobody is saying that that’s fine. But is the criminal justice system really the place for a woman whose life is apparently so chaotic- or coerced- that she can neither prevent pregnancy, nor care adequately for her children if she has them? The situation you describe here smacks of desperation rather than malice.

I agree. It’s not fine, but neither should it be a criminal justice matter. I’m very happy that she would no longer have been arrested, and might possibly have got the help she needed instead.

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Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 14:28

AirborneElephant · 19/06/2025 13:27

I agree. It’s not fine, but neither should it be a criminal justice matter. I’m very happy that she would no longer have been arrested, and might possibly have got the help she needed instead.

I disagree. Women with children and chaotic lives are still subject to the law. Its not an excuse. And she was organised enough to go online, research abortion pills and order them illegally from India.

I dont like the way that women who have late abortions are being portrayed as desperate, vulnerable and clueless. Some may be. But this is an easy stereotype.

Babies are being ordered by rich women through surrogacy, then abandoned when these women change their minds. Babies can also become suddenly unwanted in other ways like this. We dont know enough about it - imo mps have seized an opportunity to legislate but on something they actually haven't properly considered.

Viviennemary · 19/06/2025 14:30

Ilikeblacklabsandicannotlie · 19/06/2025 12:57

@Viviennemary Given she was sentenced in 2012 she's been out for 5 years even if she served the full eight years.

Ok thanks.

AlertCat · 19/06/2025 20:35

Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 14:28

I disagree. Women with children and chaotic lives are still subject to the law. Its not an excuse. And she was organised enough to go online, research abortion pills and order them illegally from India.

I dont like the way that women who have late abortions are being portrayed as desperate, vulnerable and clueless. Some may be. But this is an easy stereotype.

Babies are being ordered by rich women through surrogacy, then abandoned when these women change their minds. Babies can also become suddenly unwanted in other ways like this. We dont know enough about it - imo mps have seized an opportunity to legislate but on something they actually haven't properly considered.

The amendment was supported by a coalition of relevant professional bodies:

The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, the Faculty of Sexual and Reproductive Health, British Pregnancy Advisory Service, BPAS, and MSI UK have issued statements urging MPs to back amendment NC1

From https://www.bpas.org/about-bpas/press-office/press-releases/coalition-of-medical-bodies-and-healthcare-providers-welcomes-abortion-law-amendment-tabled-by-tonia-antoniazzi-mp/

Are you suggesting that they haven’t properly considered the issues?

Coalition of medical bodies and healthcare providers welcomes abortion law amendment tabled by Tonia Antoniazzi MP | BPAS

Tonia Antoniazzi MP has laid a cross-party amendment, with the support of 60 MPs, to the Crime and Policing Bill which would remove women from the criminal law in relation ending their own pregnancies – bringing England and Wales into line with Norther...

https://www.bpas.org/about-bpas/press-office/press-releases/coalition-of-medical-bodies-and-healthcare-providers-welcomes-abortion-law-amendment-tabled-by-tonia-antoniazzi-mp

pikkumyy77 · 19/06/2025 21:05

Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 14:28

I disagree. Women with children and chaotic lives are still subject to the law. Its not an excuse. And she was organised enough to go online, research abortion pills and order them illegally from India.

I dont like the way that women who have late abortions are being portrayed as desperate, vulnerable and clueless. Some may be. But this is an easy stereotype.

Babies are being ordered by rich women through surrogacy, then abandoned when these women change their minds. Babies can also become suddenly unwanted in other ways like this. We dont know enough about it - imo mps have seized an opportunity to legislate but on something they actually haven't properly considered.

There is no reason to think that the legislators haven’t thought this through. On the contrary the people weighing in on this legislation and the legislators are probably better informed on the pros and cons than random blog commenters.

Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 22:15

pikkumyy77 · 19/06/2025 21:05

There is no reason to think that the legislators haven’t thought this through. On the contrary the people weighing in on this legislation and the legislators are probably better informed on the pros and cons than random blog commenters.

You do realise they are not necessarily very well educated on every subject - they are briefed by their staff, they are lobbied by special interest groups. They usually hear from constituents too but this has been so rushed through that has barely happened.

Imo they have been fed one line and there simply hasn't been debate. This wasn't in any manifesto.

Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 22:16

AlertCat · 19/06/2025 20:35

The amendment was supported by a coalition of relevant professional bodies:

The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists, the Faculty of Sexual and Reproductive Health, British Pregnancy Advisory Service, BPAS, and MSI UK have issued statements urging MPs to back amendment NC1

From https://www.bpas.org/about-bpas/press-office/press-releases/coalition-of-medical-bodies-and-healthcare-providers-welcomes-abortion-law-amendment-tabled-by-tonia-antoniazzi-mp/

Are you suggesting that they haven’t properly considered the issues?

Organisations with a vested interest in abortions are pro abortion.

AlertCat · 19/06/2025 22:50

Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 22:16

Organisations with a vested interest in abortions are pro abortion.

Those are women’s health specialist medical services. How on earth do they have a “vested interest” in abortion? That’s like saying that colorectal specialists have a “vested interest” in giving people colostomies.

pikkumyy77 · 20/06/2025 02:11

Arran2024 · 19/06/2025 22:16

Organisations with a vested interest in abortions are pro abortion.

Who doesn’t have a “vested interest in abortion?” Its not the drug trade its an extremely necessary part of women’s health care. An enormous proportion of all pregnancies end in spontaneous abortion. Women rusk their lives in oregnancy. They will always be gaving abortions and needing abortions. Thank god public officials are not ashamed to support them.

BeachLife2 · 20/06/2025 09:13

@pikkumyy77

You wouldn't allow dentists to dictate the law on dentistry though, as at least part of their motivation will be maximising their own interests and income.

It is no different with abortion providers.

Viviennemary · 20/06/2025 09:23

I am surprised more concerns weren't raised about the danger to women if those drugs are taken in late pregnancy. Giving birth alone resulting in a live baby or still birth. Sounds horrific.

Arran2024 · 20/06/2025 10:15

AlertCat · 19/06/2025 22:50

Those are women’s health specialist medical services. How on earth do they have a “vested interest” in abortion? That’s like saying that colorectal specialists have a “vested interest” in giving people colostomies.

Er, yes, exactly. That's how it works. They get to say their piece because of their particular interest and experience, but that doesn't mean other people dont have other useful ideas to contribute. We normally hear from them too.

evelynevelyn · 20/06/2025 10:46

SouthLondonMum22 · 18/06/2025 09:20

The 'sanctity of life' should never be at the expense of a woman's bodily autonomy.

Why not though? They are both very strong arguments, but why should one trump the other in all circumstances?

Bushmillsbabe · 20/06/2025 10:55

As I understand it, this links to a case where a lady had a telephone/video call appt and told the health professional she was under 10 weeks pregnant, and was prescribed medication to terminate the pregnancy, but it turned out she was much further along, well around 32-34 week, and delivered a stillborn baby at home and was then jailed. It's unclear if she knew this or genuinely thought she was under 10 weeks. This scenario puts both mum and baby at risk as did not receive medical care appropriate to her needs.

Personally I have really mixed feelings, but I'm not sure it should be up to MP's to decide this, the decision should be made between a women and her doctor as to what is appropriate in each scenario.

My personal experience may also skew my views - DD2 had an anomaly scan which showed significant brain damage, confirmed by a fetal MRI in my womb. We were told to consider 'whether proceeding with the pregnancy would be in the best interests of our unborn child, as she was very likely to have severe disabilities'. After a lot of tears and soul searching we decided to continue with the pregnancy. DD2 is now 6, top of her mainstream class, bright happy sociable and amazing. That we could have potentially terminated her based on medical advice haunts me every day and I'm not sure I will ever move past it fully.
It was an incredibly hard decision and my heart goes out to other parents having to make a similar decision. Having the threat of prosecution on top of all that pain an uncertainty would be unbearable I think.

AlertCat · 20/06/2025 11:36

Arran2024 · 20/06/2025 10:15

Er, yes, exactly. That's how it works. They get to say their piece because of their particular interest and experience, but that doesn't mean other people dont have other useful ideas to contribute. We normally hear from them too.

A vested interest suggests a benefit arising from the activity. Obs and gynae drs and other women’s healthcare providers may have an interest but not a vested interest- that changes the message quite strongly. In the colostomy example a vested interest would be the surgeon holding shares in the manufacturers of colostomy bags, and therefore benefitting from increasing numbers of people with colostomies- and arguably anyone practising colorectal surgery should not have that interest as it would be a conflict with the patient’s best interests.

But abortion is a women’s healthcare matter, which was the point of the amendment. Naturally HCPs who work in women’s health and who see these cases day in, day out are going to take an interest and lobby for the cause they see as the right one, based on their professional experience.
Which other groups do you feel should have been lobbying MPs to vote a particular way, that weren’t “heard from”? And what makes you think they weren’t heard from? Do you think some groups were silenced?

Arran2024 · 20/06/2025 13:00

AlertCat · 20/06/2025 11:36

A vested interest suggests a benefit arising from the activity. Obs and gynae drs and other women’s healthcare providers may have an interest but not a vested interest- that changes the message quite strongly. In the colostomy example a vested interest would be the surgeon holding shares in the manufacturers of colostomy bags, and therefore benefitting from increasing numbers of people with colostomies- and arguably anyone practising colorectal surgery should not have that interest as it would be a conflict with the patient’s best interests.

But abortion is a women’s healthcare matter, which was the point of the amendment. Naturally HCPs who work in women’s health and who see these cases day in, day out are going to take an interest and lobby for the cause they see as the right one, based on their professional experience.
Which other groups do you feel should have been lobbying MPs to vote a particular way, that weren’t “heard from”? And what makes you think they weren’t heard from? Do you think some groups were silenced?

Of course these are vested interests - the surgeon who performs say gender affirming ops on the NHS has a vested interest in discussions to ban it because it relates to his/her career. Its not just about money.

But if you like I will remove the word "vested" from my comment. These organisations have an interest in abortion. They are not impartial.

pikkumyy77 · 20/06/2025 14:47

Why should they be “impartial? In your terms. They have patients—the thousands of pregnant women whose lives are on the line every day throughout pregnancy and delivery. Support for the woman requires one to be partial.

In addition I absolutely challenge your absurd views on “interest” here. Where is the profit motive here? No one profits off surgical abortions in the first place. In an NHS surgeons and doctors get assigned to specialties due to demand. No need for their services means they will do other work. And of course the real money is in charging for labour and delivery and all attendant services.

Lastly: what is at issue here is decriminalizing the woman who may be accused of self aborting—what vested interest does the evil medical profession have here? The woman is not a source of income here. The whole line of reasoning you are using is captious snd meretricious.

Arran2024 · 20/06/2025 15:31

pikkumyy77 · 20/06/2025 14:47

Why should they be “impartial? In your terms. They have patients—the thousands of pregnant women whose lives are on the line every day throughout pregnancy and delivery. Support for the woman requires one to be partial.

In addition I absolutely challenge your absurd views on “interest” here. Where is the profit motive here? No one profits off surgical abortions in the first place. In an NHS surgeons and doctors get assigned to specialties due to demand. No need for their services means they will do other work. And of course the real money is in charging for labour and delivery and all attendant services.

Lastly: what is at issue here is decriminalizing the woman who may be accused of self aborting—what vested interest does the evil medical profession have here? The woman is not a source of income here. The whole line of reasoning you are using is captious snd meretricious.

Ah, so you DO agree they have vested interests: "support for the woman requires one to be partial". So why tell me they do not have vested interests?

I have no problem with vested interests per se. I do believe though that we need to identify these and take this into account when we listen to what they say. And we should do the same with people making opposing arguments.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/06/2025 17:05

evelynevelyn · 20/06/2025 10:46

Why not though? They are both very strong arguments, but why should one trump the other in all circumstances?

Because women are human beings with human rights and are not incubators.

Forcing a woman to remain pregnant against her will isn't a society I want to live in.

AlertCat · 20/06/2025 17:25

These organisations have an interest in abortion. They are not impartial.

Politics isn’t impartial. People have opinions which they use to influence and shape policy according to their interest(s). Healthcare isn’t impartial. It can’t be. But being informed doesn’t automatically make you favour one point over another; HCPs have been far more divided over the assisted dying bill, but they are allowed to put their opinions forward. In fact we generally welcome informed opinion. And two informed opinions may still be in opposition. The interesting thing about this amendment (as opposed to Stella Creasy’s for example) is that informed opinion very much agrees with it, which suggests to me that it will serve the causes of women and women’s healthcare well.

Why don’t you want something that will support women and women’s healthcare?

evelynevelyn · 20/06/2025 17:40

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/06/2025 17:05

Because women are human beings with human rights and are not incubators.

Forcing a woman to remain pregnant against her will isn't a society I want to live in.

I agree that’s a very strong principle, but I think it runs up against another very strong one, and at that point it’s too simple to say simply ‘but it’s my body’ or ‘but it’s a life’, end of discussion.

pikkumyy77 · 20/06/2025 18:16

Arran2024 · 20/06/2025 15:31

Ah, so you DO agree they have vested interests: "support for the woman requires one to be partial". So why tell me they do not have vested interests?

I have no problem with vested interests per se. I do believe though that we need to identify these and take this into account when we listen to what they say. And we should do the same with people making opposing arguments.

You are still confused about the words you are using. I would say that health care workers have a responsibility or duty of care towards their patients. That is distinct from the common meaning of “vested interest” which means something more selfish, material, or exploitative with respect to the patient.

Arran2024 · 20/06/2025 18:19

AlertCat · 20/06/2025 17:25

These organisations have an interest in abortion. They are not impartial.

Politics isn’t impartial. People have opinions which they use to influence and shape policy according to their interest(s). Healthcare isn’t impartial. It can’t be. But being informed doesn’t automatically make you favour one point over another; HCPs have been far more divided over the assisted dying bill, but they are allowed to put their opinions forward. In fact we generally welcome informed opinion. And two informed opinions may still be in opposition. The interesting thing about this amendment (as opposed to Stella Creasy’s for example) is that informed opinion very much agrees with it, which suggests to me that it will serve the causes of women and women’s healthcare well.

Why don’t you want something that will support women and women’s healthcare?

I quite like people obeying the law. I believe that the law was put in place following discussion and we all agree to obey the law as part of the wider social contract.

I believe that new ideas which are to become law should be properly debated.

I believe that people, including women, can hold a range of views on any subject and are entitled to make their points.

I believe that there is a good reason for a 24 week limit and I dont agree that women shouldn't be prosecuted. I would prefer to see a bit of discretion tbf but ordering pills from India and taking them at 39 weeks, no, I dont think that should be given a bye.

I am suspicious of the organisations that want this because I believe they have not considered all the issues. They are 100% on the side of women having all the rights and the foetus having none and I accept that - this is their position and they ate entitled to it. But I think that's extreme and the 24 week limit is a good compromise.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/06/2025 18:36

evelynevelyn · 20/06/2025 17:40

I agree that’s a very strong principle, but I think it runs up against another very strong one, and at that point it’s too simple to say simply ‘but it’s my body’ or ‘but it’s a life’, end of discussion.

As far as I'm concerned, it is as simple as ''my body, my choice''.

pikkumyy77 · 20/06/2025 18:39

ok fine—the question is one of where you draw the line. So we draw it one place, balancing the interests of society, woman, autonomy in one way and you would balance it elsewhere. this is in fact how laws are made. The new decision is just as lawful as the previous one.

And the MP’s, agreeing with professionals and many women’s rights organizations, have suggested drawing the line in a different place than 29 weeks. Its not actually a world shattering risk as vanishingly few women choose to risk their health and safety in an at home late abortion just as vanishingly few self amputate a limb.

Here in the US the pendulum has swung radically in the opposite direction with women forbidden abortions after 6 or 9 weeks. With a taxi driver or a friend who accompanies a miscarrying woman to the ER liable to be sued as a confederate in an abortion. Stricter laws “protecting” the fetus always end up hurting and even killing the woman around the fetus. This is a proven fact in countries that criminalize abortion.

Quite rightly the MP’s have balanced the issue on the side of the adult, pregnant, woman. To do otherwise creates a slippery slope where do tors, patients, pregnant women, and eomen who need to end their pregnancies but are unable to freely access early abortion, are all at risk.