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New abortion laws

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Cheesetoastie537 · 17/06/2025 07:41

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I'm pro choice but the new potential abortion law changes feel a bit extreme to me. If I've understood right, if a woman was even in late stage of pregnancy (even say 35 weeks) could self abort the pregnancy and not face any charges for the death of a viable baby. I thought the 24 week mark was there for that reason. I know a woman still can't get a medically assisted abortion after 24 weeks (unless certain circumstances) but surely they'll just go home and do it now because theres nothing preventing them. No one should be in that situation surely. But if it was a case that a late pregnancy is now not wanted but a medically assisted abortion is not available and the woman knows they can do it themselves with no charges, wouldn't that just increase self done abortions?

If anything, shouldn't the law just change so that medical abortion at any stage is allowed then to at least make it safe for woman rather than them attempting a self abortion.

I'm not sure if the change in law opens up more issues than it fixes. And in part I feel that there's no protection for late pregnancies that the baby would have survived and now there's no legal charges for their life.

I've never really thought too much about abortion otherthan pro choice and felt the UK had a good middle ground.

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Witchling · 17/06/2025 18:07

FishChipsAndVinegarPlease · 17/06/2025 16:26

A miscarriage is not the same as a late abortion.

A miscarriage is not a crime.

And who is to say that the woman is safe from prosecution if she miscarried, but her phone shows she looked up abortion in the early weeks?

And we have already seen in brutal fucking real life, Dr's are scared to treat women losing their babies, refusing treatment for women who need it???

Cowbellsaringing · 17/06/2025 18:08

TheNightSurgeon · 17/06/2025 11:48

Who gets to 35 weeks pregnant, and simply thinks "can't be arsed anymore, I'll have a termination at home because I won't be arrested now"?

If you don't trust women then just say that.

If thats the case then why do we need to change the law. The law is being changed to allow just that.

SouthLondonMum22 · 17/06/2025 18:08

loongdays · 17/06/2025 13:57

I really hate daft pronouncements like this.

Not every issue is a black and white, all or nothing one. In fact most aren't.

The majority of people who think abortion should be legal, also think that there should be time limits on when an abortion should be allowed.

Abortion is not a straightforward moral issue as two lives are involved, the mothers and the foetus' /babies. Some people give absolute primary to the mother, some to the foetus/ baby and most have a view which shifts on who gets primary depending on the stage of gestation.

And some women don't make good choices. That's just a fact. I have spoken with a midwife who had the stand by and watch a labouring Mother make bad choices where she refused all intervention when her baby got into difficulty because she had believed a load of natural birthing crap that taught her to trust her body and not the medics. The baby died. The medics could not intervene as the baby had no legal rights until it was born. That's a tragedy for the baby and the Mother. Maybe, just maybe there are circumstances in which unborn babies should have rights.

The vast majority of women are more than capable of making good choices when it comes to their bodies and shouldn't be policed about what they do with their bodies based on a small minority.

The vast majority of abortions happen within the first 12 weeks and the vast majority of women accept medical assistance during labour when necessary.

It is correct that a baby doesn't have rights until birth. As long as don't want to start a slippery slope when it comes to abortion laws anyway.

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:10

ObliviousCoalmine · 17/06/2025 11:49

You’re not pro-choice if you follow it with “but”.

In that case almost all women are not pro-choice.

Witchling · 17/06/2025 18:11

Soggybirthdaycamping · 17/06/2025 17:01

No.
For DIY home abortions before about 34 weeks, all you've got to do is take the pills and then let nature take it's course when the baby is born. Babies born that young can't survive without medical care and it not murder to fail to intervene. It might take minutes, hours or days though.

Horrifying.

Or if course a woman can make sure it's born dead, risking huge internal injuries to herself, again, why are we encouraging that?

Who the fuck is encouraging late abortion???

Summerhillsquare · 17/06/2025 18:11

BeachLife2 · 17/06/2025 14:28

@Summerhillsquare

They amount to the same thing. Sorry, but I do think there should be criminal consequences for someone who decides to procure a backstreet abortion at 35 weeks.

There should be consequences for the provider, certainly. Late term abortions are exclusively in difficult cases of very troubled women. Very young, old, ill, abused. Prosecuting them serves no societal purpose hence decriminalisation but not legalisation.

TheNightSurgeon · 17/06/2025 18:11

Cowbellsaringing · 17/06/2025 18:08

If thats the case then why do we need to change the law. The law is being changed to allow just that.

No the law is (hopefully) being changed so that women who have miscarriages and still births aren't subject to criminal investigation and potential charges.

Witchling · 17/06/2025 18:13

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:10

In that case almost all women are not pro-choice.

I'm completely pro choice.

I'm not comfortable with say a woman using abortion instead of birth control, however that's her choice. She probably has reasons for it, and needs support not prosecuting.

I also don't think there should be any distinction between how the foetus was created. any woman who wants an abortion should be able to get one as quickly as possible.

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:18

Witchling · 17/06/2025 17:20

I disagree.

If you start putting but after a statement, everything before the but is a lie.

As early as possible, as late as necessary

So what's the logical extension of your rationale? That you can abort a baby for absolutely any reason at any stage? What about sex selective abortion? What about the moment they're coming down the birth canal?
If your definition of pro-choice is that there are absolutely no conditions, that's fine, you just have to accept that virtually everyone (except an extremely radical minority) are not pro-choice.

Cowbellsaringing · 17/06/2025 18:20

TheNightSurgeon · 17/06/2025 18:11

No the law is (hopefully) being changed so that women who have miscarriages and still births aren't subject to criminal investigation and potential charges.

No - it is not illegal to miscarry or have a still birth. This is about decriminalising abortion at the late stages, and that is not OK

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:20

TheNightSurgeon · 17/06/2025 17:33

Do you really think it's the potential criminal investigation stopping women from having at home abortions at 30+ weeks?

Do you really think it's the potential investigation that would stop an abusive man coercing a woman into an at home abortion at 30+ weeks?

Do you genuinely think that there's going to be a massive influx of third trimester, at home abortions if its decriminalised?

This is nothing to do with 'sad circumstances' not being investigated, every death is a sad circumstance.

Its about not criminalising women already going through a still birth because she happened to ask for an abortion then changed her mind, or because she miscarried but didn't seem devastated enough about it, or because she loses a pregnancy she was coerced into and the abusive man complains to the police.

You're placing women last in this situation, when they should be first.

Do you assume that, by virtue of being a woman and being pregnant, you are incapable of doing something that is callous and criminal?

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:23

Moglet4 · 17/06/2025 17:17

Around 60%of women think it should be changed according to quite a number of polls. It is absolutely not acceptable that groups like the ADF are interfering in our country and exerting influence over our politicians with the result that women are being criminally investigated for miscarrying. All this proposal does is prevent that.

Polling also indicates that around 70% of women in the UK support lowering the time limit to 20 weeks or less

TheNightSurgeon · 17/06/2025 18:23

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:20

Do you assume that, by virtue of being a woman and being pregnant, you are incapable of doing something that is callous and criminal?

I assume that if a woman was to do something so desperate to her own body then she needs to be able to seek medical help, and there will be other factors going on in her life as well.

Do you want every miscarriage and stillbirth to be investigated as a criminal matter?

SouthLondonMum22 · 17/06/2025 18:23

Witchling · 17/06/2025 18:13

I'm completely pro choice.

I'm not comfortable with say a woman using abortion instead of birth control, however that's her choice. She probably has reasons for it, and needs support not prosecuting.

I also don't think there should be any distinction between how the foetus was created. any woman who wants an abortion should be able to get one as quickly as possible.

Me too.

I also agree with as early as possible, as late as necessary.

Screamingabdabz · 17/06/2025 18:24

I’m actually pro-life for myself but I wholeheartedly agree that a woman should be able to make the choice the whole time she is pregnant, without judgement. We should not be criminalising desperate women.

BIWI · 17/06/2025 18:25

Genevieva · 17/06/2025 16:32

I think we have very sensible abortion laws. There is no public demand for change. I don’t understand why it is being pushed through.

What do you mean, 'there is no public demand for change'? How do you know? Can you prove that assertion?

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:26

Witchling · 17/06/2025 18:00

Exactly, what are people scared of?

That a perfectly sane woman who is 37 weeks pregnant, is suddenly going to think "awesome, quick abortion, then lunch at macdonalds"

Or will it actually mean that a woman who is going through an awful time will not be frightened to get help?

I'm scared of absolutely any legal justification for killing or injuring a viable baby.

Moglet4 · 17/06/2025 18:28

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:23

Polling also indicates that around 70% of women in the UK support lowering the time limit to 20 weeks or less

You’ve just exactly proved my point. That poll was run by the Christian Institute. Independent polls do not find this.

spicemaiden · 17/06/2025 18:28

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:26

I'm scared of absolutely any legal justification for killing or injuring a viable baby.

Are you also scared of men just being allowed to walk away and not be held 50% accountable for all the financial, physical, emotional, domestic labour? Or is that all on women? Bevause so far in history, that’s been the case.

Soggybirthdaycamping · 17/06/2025 18:30

Witchling · 17/06/2025 18:11

Who the fuck is encouraging late abortion???

This law.

It changes the 24 week limit to 2 limits. A 24 week limit if you want to have it done by medical professionals, or an unlimited legal right up to birth if you do it yourself.

And yes, it would be an extremely small number of women that go down that route. Most women wouldn't sit and watch a newborn suffocate. But equally, most people don't commit murder, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't investigate mysterious deaths.

No the police aren't checking the phones of women having miscarriages. What convoluted clickbait made you think this is happening? And how would the police have time for anything else.

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:31

TheNightSurgeon · 17/06/2025 18:23

I assume that if a woman was to do something so desperate to her own body then she needs to be able to seek medical help, and there will be other factors going on in her life as well.

Do you want every miscarriage and stillbirth to be investigated as a criminal matter?

How can you possibly know the moral disposition of every single woman in the country who finds herself in an unwanted late term pregnancy? The majority would never do such a thing. A minority might if desperate. And a smaller minority might because they genuinely have no regard for the child's life. Safeguards exist for the MINORITY of cases, not the majority. Don't you think safeguards should exist to protect viable babies who may be at risk from injury or deliberate killing?

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:33

spicemaiden · 17/06/2025 18:28

Are you also scared of men just being allowed to walk away and not be held 50% accountable for all the financial, physical, emotional, domestic labour? Or is that all on women? Bevause so far in history, that’s been the case.

Yep I also think men should always be obligated to support their children

spicemaiden · 17/06/2025 18:33

Soggybirthdaycamping · 17/06/2025 18:30

This law.

It changes the 24 week limit to 2 limits. A 24 week limit if you want to have it done by medical professionals, or an unlimited legal right up to birth if you do it yourself.

And yes, it would be an extremely small number of women that go down that route. Most women wouldn't sit and watch a newborn suffocate. But equally, most people don't commit murder, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't investigate mysterious deaths.

No the police aren't checking the phones of women having miscarriages. What convoluted clickbait made you think this is happening? And how would the police have time for anything else.

Oh, the police guidance on checking Women’s phones is very true. If you don’t know you’ve been living under a rock.

By yhd Timd I knew I was pregnant with my last child I was, in fact, three months pregnant, and yet I’d only missed my latest period. Under the latest guidance the police would have been all over my phone trying to prove I’d illegally had a medically managed abortion.
my body, my choice.

spicemaiden · 17/06/2025 18:34

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:33

Yep I also think men should always be obligated to support their children

Dream on.

Women are the ones who carry not only the physical rusks of pregnancy, but the vast majority of everything ekse.

Our bodies, our lives are the ones seriously impacted in addition, our choice.

spicemaiden · 17/06/2025 18:36

TeaAndMuffins · 17/06/2025 18:31

How can you possibly know the moral disposition of every single woman in the country who finds herself in an unwanted late term pregnancy? The majority would never do such a thing. A minority might if desperate. And a smaller minority might because they genuinely have no regard for the child's life. Safeguards exist for the MINORITY of cases, not the majority. Don't you think safeguards should exist to protect viable babies who may be at risk from injury or deliberate killing?

Those safeguards already exist.

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