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miraxxx · 17/06/2025 18:53

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 18:35

Yes they have but on here that isn't to be spoken about. Someone will be along soon to tell you off for saying that Needacupofteaandcrackers

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That is absolute nonsense! I myself have brought up Sikh and Hindu victims of these islamic grooming gangs. They were the early warning signs. I suspect that it is people like you who would want to shut up the other brown communities who were also affected.

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 18:56

Needacupofteaandcrackers · 17/06/2025 17:56

The Sikh community has been warning about this for years

Yes and the reason this is not listened to is that it brings up even more discomfort for the lefty types who see brown people as a bloc and cannot accept the idea that some very unpleasant religious ideology is running the rape gangs.

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 18:58

The Sikhs will tell you exactly who the perps are and what motivates them. White grooming gangs aint the answer.

mrshoho · 17/06/2025 19:26

Clavinova · 17/06/2025 15:51

The data does show most are white

Which data set are you referring to?
From the Casey report;

Presenting the data with a large percentage of unknown data skews the figures (as we show in chapter 4). For example, in the COCAD data for perpetrators of group based offending in 2023, self-defined ethnicity is 88% White when ‘unknowns’ are excluded, but 28% White when the unknowns are included. We can be confident that at least 28% of group-based offenders are White; but we cannot reach a conclusion that 88% are White overall.

Thank you for pointing out the flaws in the data so clearly. I do hope people will stop to think before continuing to insist that white men are responsible for the majority of these crimes.

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 19:27

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/06/2025 17:00

What additional factors that have to do with ethnicity?

We know they were part of the nighttime economy, taxi drivers and fast food operators. They groomed using the 'boyfriend' method. They plied the girls with drugs and alcohol. How is that different to any other paedophile grooming gang?

I haven't seen denial or gaslighting in many years. There have been reports and investigations going on for over 20 years which all said the same thing.

Flipping heck. Either you’re being deliberately obtuse or you’re just enjoying taking the piss.

I think I’ll defer to those in the know as to whether there’s been denial for the past 20 years rather than a random on the internet.

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:27

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 18:53

That is absolute nonsense! I myself have brought up Sikh and Hindu victims of these islamic grooming gangs. They were the early warning signs. I suspect that it is people like you who would want to shut up the other brown communities who were also affected.

I want to ensure they are able to talk. I have helped many in the past and will continue to do so. I was told not to talk about it on here. You clearly were allowed.

Now why are you fabricating things about me?

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:29

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 18:58

The Sikhs will tell you exactly who the perps are and what motivates them. White grooming gangs aint the answer.

Misogyny is what motivates them.

Menopausalsourpuss · 17/06/2025 19:34

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:29

Misogyny is what motivates them.

And racism.

OonaStubbs · 17/06/2025 19:34

They will just obscuviate and utter platitudes as normal, a few token people will be hung out to dry, nobody important. Nothing will change.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/06/2025 19:34

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 19:27

Flipping heck. Either you’re being deliberately obtuse or you’re just enjoying taking the piss.

I think I’ll defer to those in the know as to whether there’s been denial for the past 20 years rather than a random on the internet.

So you don't know.

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 19:35

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:29

Misogyny is what motivates them.

Yeah,but you, oh enlightened one, have already established that all men are misogynist. Wait, did any white british men run out to Syria to enslave and rape yazidi children? Why not since all men are equally vile?

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 19:36

Menopausalsourpuss · 17/06/2025 19:34

And racism.

Religious sanction. It explains the other brown victims.

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:37

mrshoho · 17/06/2025 19:26

Thank you for pointing out the flaws in the data so clearly. I do hope people will stop to think before continuing to insist that white men are responsible for the majority of these crimes.

The data we have is the tip of the iceberg for all communities in respect of both perpetrators and victims. We are surely not naive to think that these rapists go home and are respectful to the women and girls in their own community and that this is their entry level crime. Absolutely it is not.

They will do it in their own communities as well as within other communities. They will do it to their families and neighbours. We think we know but the reality is that these men have felt empowered to do this as their prior crimes have been supported by our society so they go on to do worse.

We also will never know the whole picture or have any idea of the scale or amount of people involved. So what we can do is use the data we have and ensure that data going forwards is complete. Same with all sex crimes, the real scale we will never know.

What this has also shown is that people do not know the concept of most. A basic mathematical concept taught in EYFS at school.

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:38

miraxxx · 17/06/2025 19:35

Yeah,but you, oh enlightened one, have already established that all men are misogynist. Wait, did any white british men run out to Syria to enslave and rape yazidi children? Why not since all men are equally vile?

Never have I said all men are misogynistic. More lies. Not quite sure why you keep lying about me.

You are the one saying all men not me. Why is that?

Men is a plural noun. It means more than 1 man. So when the word man is used it means 1. When the word men is used it refers to an amount bigger than 1. It could be 2, 3 or millions. But what it doesn't mean is all or else that would've been specified.

Now you understand basic grammar we can continue.

Can you quote were I said ALL men?

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 19:38

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/06/2025 19:34

So you don't know.

But you do apparently?

Please share your real life observations of the past two decades that lead you to decisively conclude there has been no denial of the facts. When those close to the situation are claiming the very opposite.

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:40

Menopausalsourpuss · 17/06/2025 19:34

And racism.

Racism motives many people yes but it is was just racism they'd do it to white men, no?

Or they'd not do it to their own. I think it would be pretty naive of us to think that rapists families are safe and that they do not rape their own kids or wives. That is absolutely where they will have started.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/06/2025 19:41

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 19:38

But you do apparently?

Please share your real life observations of the past two decades that lead you to decisively conclude there has been no denial of the facts. When those close to the situation are claiming the very opposite.

I'm asking you what was different about these grooming gangs due to ethnicity. We've had many reports and investigations into the gangs and I haven't read anything that suggests their modus operandi was different because of ethnicity.

However, you seem certain there is so I'm asking what that is.

Menopausalsourpuss · 17/06/2025 19:53

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 19:40

Racism motives many people yes but it is was just racism they'd do it to white men, no?

Or they'd not do it to their own. I think it would be pretty naive of us to think that rapists families are safe and that they do not rape their own kids or wives. That is absolutely where they will have started.

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They despise/hate non-muslims. In their eyes raping non-Muslim women is showing disrespect to non-muslim men as well. Especially as they know they get away with it or get ridiculously low sentences due to our evil authorities. I'm not convinced that they didn't/arent raping some non-muslim boys as well.

Barr77 · 17/06/2025 19:54

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/06/2025 17:24

No its not.

The Labour Party haven’t exactly covered themselves in glory on this issue — and they need to be very careful not to become the party associated with political cowardice. But let’s not pretend the Conservatives have done much better. Neither side has shown the urgency or moral courage this issue deserves.

Labour-led councils — particularly in Rotherham, Rochdale, and Oxford — were in charge during the worst of the grooming gang abuse. Multiple inquiries, including the recent Casey Report, now confirm what survivors and whistleblowers had said for years: these councils ignored, denied, or minimised the abuse, often out of fear that confronting it might seem racist or upset key local voting blocs.

Political sensitivities, particularly around race and community cohesion, seemed to matter more than the safety of working-class girls. Former Labour MP Simon Danczuk made clear that many within Labour turned a blind eye because they didn’t want to risk losing votes.

The late Jo Cox expressed the dilemma clearly — wanting to protect victims but worried that, by speaking openly, could feed far-right narratives. This tension seems to have haunted the party’s response.

When a national inquiry was proposed in January 2025, Keir Starmer and Labour leadership focused on this same fears of risk for far-right exploitation of the issue, using that as a reason to whip MPs to vote against it.

Inside the party, responses were mixed:
Lucy Powell - called discussions about grooming gangs “dog whistles” on BBC Radio 4. Jess Philips faced criticism for not pushing harder or speaking out decisively during the inquiry vote.

There are however notable exceptions who have long called for action and accountability, though they often faced resistance. They deserve recognition and rightly so. Sarah Champion,, MP for Rotherham, who has been a tireless advocate for victims. Ann Cryer, former MP for Keighley, was one of the first politicians to speak out despite backlash and Melanie Onn, former MP for Great Grimsby, criticised Labour’s slow response and political caution.

But to be clear: the Conservatives also had years to act. They’ve been in government since 2010. If they truly believed a national inquiry was needed, they had multiple chances — and didn’t take them. It only became politically convenient after Labour’s failures became public again. And of course there has been the rise of Reform.

Ultimately, it’s disgusting how all parties have behaved.

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 19:58

MiloMinderbinder925 · 17/06/2025 19:41

I'm asking you what was different about these grooming gangs due to ethnicity. We've had many reports and investigations into the gangs and I haven't read anything that suggests their modus operandi was different because of ethnicity.

However, you seem certain there is so I'm asking what that is.

There have been multiple responses to this point on this thread. But you are determined to view this through one lens - misogyny.

I have already said I agree with your perspective on this. But in this case, the disproportionate numbers of Pakistani men involved in the gang culture cannot be ignored. It explains why institutions failed to act and that is a key part of the story. They didn’t only fail to act because they were all hardened misogynists. They failed to act because of fears of being accused of racism. It’s no coincidence that the majority of predators operated with impunity in Labour- controlled authorities.

If ethnicity isn’t an important factor how do you explain reports with the word ‘Pakistani’ crossed out? How do you explain the countless news reports addressing the denial due to concerns about inflaming cultural tensions?

Moreover, why are you expending so much energy arguing against it as something worthy of further investigation? Clearly previous reports haven’t gone far enough. Local authorities are not volunteering themselves for local investigations- why not? You really think they’re worried about being outed as misogynists??

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 20:00

Menopausalsourpuss · 17/06/2025 19:53

They despise/hate non-muslims. In their eyes raping non-Muslim women is showing disrespect to non-muslim men as well. Especially as they know they get away with it or get ridiculously low sentences due to our evil authorities. I'm not convinced that they didn't/arent raping some non-muslim boys as well.

There are male victims but again that isn't spoken of.

They rape muslim girls too so as I said that is due to misogyny and hating females.

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 20:03

Moreover, if ethnicity isn’t a factor, why are the Muslim gangs not abusing and raping Muslim girls?

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 20:04

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 20:03

Moreover, if ethnicity isn’t a factor, why are the Muslim gangs not abusing and raping Muslim girls?

They do!

TeenagersAngst · 17/06/2025 20:12

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 20:04

They do!

Struggling to find any reports on this - would be interested to see the data you have

OonaStubbs · 17/06/2025 20:12

If the truth feeds far-right narratives, let it. Because it's better than letting lies feed far-right narratives.