Puppy dilemma - it’s not her, it’s us

[neverwakeasleepingpuppy]

Brought home a gorgeous 2 month puppy two weeks ago; the kids wanted one for years, DP and I are mildly pro-dog, thought it’d be great for us as a family, everyone says they’re great, unconditional love blah blah.

Being fair, she’s a perfect puppy so far - quickly getting the crate and toilet training and is now sleeping through from 11-7am, minimal accidents in the house. Hard work but manageable.

We are the problem - despite her gorgeousness, we are all a little meh. DD2 seems to be allergic; puffy eyes and sneezing. The kids have zero interest - spent maybe 30mins with her since she landed. DP and I are enjoying her somewhat but also my OCD is going through the roof, googling amputees from dog licks etc.

Am interested to hear others views on this as I think it’s a case of it’s not her, it’s us …. the breeder is fine to take her back as she has a waiting list for an adorable puppy who is mostly trained! Just wondering if it’s fairer all around to do this?

Send her back as soon as possible so she can go to a decent family and never get another animal again.

You got a dog but you were only “mildly keen to.

OP this is so unreasonable that I reckon you’re making this up

What do you want us to say? It sounds like you've gone into it totally unprepared, for the wrong reasons (entertaining the kids), and then realised they are not just a toy but a bring that requires almost as much attention than a child.

This is exactly why there exist a slogan that says that dogs are not just for Christmas!

Contact your breeder and return the pup. Never, ever get a pet for the kids. Only get one of you are prepared to take care of yourself.

A 11 week old puppy is not mostly trained.

Training is intense and at times soul destroying. "Meh" won't be enough.

Hand her back now so she gets the best chance with another family who will train and adore her.

Give her back to the breeder, you're being honest that you made a mistake, now rectify that mistake quickly before your pup ends up in a rescue.

Take the puppy back to the breeder ASAP. If you're feeling "meh" about such a young, helpless puppy, are unable to reciprocate the unconditional love it will already feel towards you, your home is not a suitable place for it to be. Send it on its way to a family who will adore it.

Why on earth did you get a dog when you are only mildly interested in them !
Send the poor thing back and hope that it gets a good home.
You'd be better of buying a pet rock next time

@neverwakeasleepingpuppy posts like this are irritating. A puppy/dog is a commitment and not something that should be gone into lightly. Sometimes though as well it takes longer to bond with the dog. We got our 2nd dog at he was 10 weeks, he wasn't an easy puppy compared to our older dog when she was a pup, and was a lot of work (still his), but I'd never in a million years thought about returning him to the breeder because we were all a bit meh. He's 2 now and the centre of home.

Mildly keen?! Give the poor dog back to the breeder and allow her to go to someone who will love her as part of the family

You’re being unreasonable to have gone into this with so little consideration.

Had your children never been around dogs before to see if they had allergies?

please return the dog to the breeder so it can be rehomed to someone who actually wants a dog - and I agree with others, don’t get another pet.

Duplicate post.

You were incredibly selfish to get her in the first place.

Please return her to the breeder and never get another pet.

First post nails it

Ffs it’s not that they aren’t a decent family ! One has allergies and it hasn’t worked out. They are very responsible for reconsidering the situation so quickly and speaking to
the breeder.

Give that dog right back to the breeder.
It deserves much better than you are willing to offer it.

God, I wish I hadn't read this. I lost my beloved dog a few weeks ago. I wish I could come and take her from you. Who can feel meh about a puppy?

It’s better to realise this now than next year. Please return her.

I'm not saying they're not decent, I'm saying send it back now before she ends up in a rescue center for years because she's not a puppy anymore.

Can’t actually believe what I am reading! Give the puppy back so it can go to a home where it is loved and wanted and as others have said, no more animals.

That's the kind of thing you research before bringing a live baby animal into your home, no?

Yes, it's fairer all round to give her back. A puppy is an enormous commitment and you have to be 100% onboard. They shouldn't be something you're enjoying 'somewhat'.

This is so mind numbingly thoughtless. Being “mildly keen” is insufficient and the puppy deserves better. Return the poor puppy to the breeder so it has the chance of a loving home.

It's absolutely insane that you bought a dog when you have that level of anxiety about dog licks. It was also nuts that you thought your kids would have sustained interest in caring for the dog - dogs should only ever be brought into the family when the adults really want them, not for the benefit to kids.

At this point it would be a trauma for her for you to return her as she has bonded to you, but I still think you should do it because the trauma will only be worse the longer you leave it. I don't think you should ever get a pet again.

The puppy is harder work than you had anticipated and you are not enjoying dog ownership as much as you had hoped. You made an error of judgment, that's all. Let the puppy go back to the breeder and do not beat yourself up about it.