DP being horrible towards my DCat

[Yasmin98]

DP and I don’t live with each other but he stays over a couple nights a week.

Recently, he has been making increasingly rude comments about my DCat and when I challenge him he just says ‘she’s a cat, she doesn’t have feelings’.

He really isn’t a pet person which is fine but I would expect him to treat mine with respect.

Has anyone had a similar situation and found a solution? I am reluctant to move him in full time unless his attitude changes.

I'd have a camera on him if he's ever left alone with the cat.

I had a very good friend who I saw punched my dog when she thought I wasn't looking...definite abusive tendencies and no, we're no longer friends.

They say if a person wants to be violent to animals, people are next.

Why are you with this disgusting cretin? Why is he still with you after these comments. And why are you only giving him an ultimatum instead of kicking him out of the door? Your boundaries are very poor. I'd be scared what he was like to your poor cat when you aren't in the same room. He's a freak!

Cruel and disrespectful about animals AND women, sounds like a wonderful man.

Wtf??? That's awful!

I mean if he’s saying rude things it’s not like the cat can understand is it 😂
If he’s giving her a sly boot up the arse when he thinks you’re not looking then that’s different.

🙄🙄

no need.

There's not being a cat person, which is fine and being a cunt, which isn't. He is in the latter category and I would get rid of him.

The kicking the cat comment is awful.
The thing he said about his ex is even worse.
Get rid of this prick.

Both comments show he has absolutely no respect for other living beings. And he won't have any respect for you either.

I have dumped someone who was nasty about - and it turned out was nasty to - my dog. He kicked the dog out of sight, while I was cooking in the kitchen.
He was out of my life within the hour.

The way people treat animals is, to my mind, a good way to get an idea of their true character.

I wouldn't bother with the ultimatum, he'll just hide how horrible he is (when you're there) then not when you aren't.if he moves in the resentment if the cat would get worse.

Animal people should be with animal people. Not psychopaths

This won’t change and will only get worse, a little extreme for some but I wouldn’t be able to be with someone like this. Lacking compassion for animals is one thing, but actively disliking them and trying to push their internal belief that cats don’t have feelings onto you is gaslighting and this kind of thing will start to spread into other elements and topics of your life.
after seeing the later post in which he comments jokingly about kicking the cat, what a disgusting person, to insinuate harming a defenceless animal and this may well escalate into domestic abuse. OP, your cat is dependent on you for everything, you owe it to her to remove any likeliness of her being harmed by getting rid of him, she has absolutely no way of defending herself against any potential harm from a human

He has failed to reach the standard required. He never will. Good that he hasn't moved in yet.

He'd be EX bf.

Was he dating a cat? Can't imagine why else the cat would remind him of his ex. All of this is deeply uncomfortable and I cannot fathom why you are still with him.

You are all nuts.

He didn't kick the cat or starve the cat or throw water over the cat.

He wasn't nasty TO THE CAT.

He said some words about the cat that, if the cat were a person, the cat may not have liked.

But the cat doesn't know this BECAUSE IT'S A CAT!!

EDIT: Actually have no changed my mind because the OP has changed her story.

In the first post she said he was "rude to the cat "

Now she says he is threatening to injure the cat.

These are completely different things.

Sometimes he gets overstimulated because he needs to go out and get rid of some energy and you can see it as he starts stalking about the house attacking his toys and random things and waving his tail around. It's worse in spring time when there are more baby animals around. If you don't pay attention he will ambush out of nowhere and rip your ankles to shreds. Also if he's being given attention he also gets overstimulated and can't help biting your hand so you have to give him just the right amount of strokes and send him away before he bites 😆 I've had him for 10 years so I know him, but poor DH had a few injuries before he got the hang of it

No indication of cruelty to the cat.
I like pet animals but ime some pet owners are completely ott

Have you actually read the full thread?

Yes. I have.

Have you read my full post?

Run don’t walk. A man who can speak that way about animals and women is not someone you want to have a relationship with.

Pets always come before idiots.
The DP has to go!

He is telling you very loudly and very clearly who he is. Believe him and get rid asap.

No need for what? I presumed it was shorthand for a specific breed of cat
But now I understand that I must say “ddog” when talking about my beloved pet otherwise people might think I hate animals…

Have my first LTB. Seriously.

Why are you with this man? He's horrible.

What is the point of an ultimatum?

Be nice to my cat or else.

Okay.

Moves in.

Continues to be a cunt.