DP being horrible towards my DCat

[Yasmin98]

DP and I don’t live with each other but he stays over a couple nights a week.

Recently, he has been making increasingly rude comments about my DCat and when I challenge him he just says ‘she’s a cat, she doesn’t have feelings’.

He really isn’t a pet person which is fine but I would expect him to treat mine with respect.

Has anyone had a similar situation and found a solution? I am reluctant to move him in full time unless his attitude changes.

Thanks!

He doesn’t sound like a particularly nice person OP.

It is things like, if DCat gets in my way again I’m going to kick her like a football.

Don't bother with an ultimatum. Just end the relationship. You'd never be able to trust him alone with the cat.

In your shoes, I'd be ending the relationship asap.

Oh my God!
Get rid!
That would actually put me right off of him.
What a weasily little coward.

Why are you with him?

Even saying that is vile and I wouldn't trust him not to hurt the cat when you're not looking
You could never trust him

There is no way I'd be able to stay with someone like that
Disgusting

And you're still planning to stay with this arsehole? Why?

Oh that’s horrible! I didn’t expect he had threatened the cat with violence. Definitely I could not be with someone like that.

I'd be threatening to kick his nuts like a football if he tried it. Wanker.

@Balloonhearts

that’s not true. You can be completely indifferent to pets and still be a great parents. And that is because pets and children are not the same.

I wouldn’t trust this man around my animals or children op. Be careful

I'd kick this cunt like a football.
Get him in the bin, he is not a good man. Imagine the relationship progresses and you do move in together, could you trust him to be alone with your lovely cat?

Oh my god OP that’s much worse than I had expected. Threatening violence towards a cat (vulnerable and powerless) is a significant red flag. How is he in other aspects of the relationship?

Dump him. Saying things like that isn't about hurting the cat's feelings, like I said calling him a fatty , but threats about physically hurting the cat to cause injury. As others have said you won't know what he will do if you aren't around.

Run OP, run for the hills! This man is no good.

Being indifferent to pets isn’t the same as muttering threats of violence towards them though. It’s pretty disrespectful to his partner I’d he knows she loves her cat.

I finished with someone because of this too. My cat was very nervous & jumpy. He would bang his hands together to make her jump then laugh like a goon.

Wtf? Kick him out. Vile man.

OP if a partner had said that about one of my dogs, they would have been straight out of the door. Your partner is vile. A lot of people don't particularly like animals but to express a desire to actively hurt an animal is completely different. Do you really want to be stood there in the shower wondering if your partner is kicking your poor cat as soon as you are out of sight?

I don't even shout it at my partner even though I buy the cat expensive diet food!

‘Kick the cat like a football?’

Why did that even come into his head? Disgusting to even think of it let alone say it. I would not trust him.

It’s good that you’re controlling your violent tendencies 😁

He sounds appalling and as though he has cruel thoughts that he might visit on the cat and potentially you.

This is him on his best behaviour before he moves in. He sounds a shit.

How so?