New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

Were you my neighbour? 😀

I sunbathe topless in my garden, sometimes with friends. If a neighbour goes upstairs and makes an effort to look over, l probably can be seen and l don’t care.

It's not up to the neighbour to teach other people's kids about the human body. Most people wouldn't do this if they knew they were clearly overlooked by other people, especially kids.

I’m surprised the man-hating mumsnet mob haven’t gone nuclear on this, with the usual “all men are perverts” rhetoric.

Yep, nothing like screaming kids to ruin a perfectly nice garden. Lucky for everyone, the great British summer lasts approximately 2 weeks. So the torture for OP and her neighbours will be short lived.

What about it repulses you?

So repulsed that you ran straight upstairs to have a look 😂

This would bother me if it was my neighbour as it's my young daughter's bedroom that overlooks the gardens. There's a fucking wide blue sea between comfort with the body, and a naked male stranger. Additionally you're not actually entitled to sunbathe naked in your garden under any and all circumstances, there are limits. Children can count as one of those limits. And there's absolutely no fucking way he doesn't know he can be seen 🙃

If it was my bedroom overlooking the gardens however it probably wouldn't bother me beyond knowing that he knows he can be seen.

This thread has really made me laugh. The outrage! You can barely move for broken pearls. It’s a body, ffs.

Leave him
stop looking

We have a local ‘character’ who cycles around naked, he also goes to the local pub…naked, fortunately he takes his own towel, as he is not intending to cause any offence he is not committing any crime, this has been clarified many times in the local newspaper and social media.

Regardless of it being his garden or not. It's classed as indecent exposure if displaying your genitals can be seen by others and causes alarm. I wouldn't want my kids seeing some random guys genitals, yes I know it's the human body and we all have one if I don't want to see it, I don't want to see it. How does anyone know he isn't getting off on it. Why should a room in my house be out of bounds because someone's got their dick out nexdoor. We've all got a body doesn't mean everyone wants to look at it. He should have some respect for his neighbours with small kids.

I can not see in my neighbours garden if I go upstairs. I live on an estate. There is no reason for me to look out of my upstairs window not his garden. I only see into it if I take a glance when I open the curtains or clean the windows. It’s very easy to not look so they could be doing all sorts and I wouldn’t know. Just don’t look. Unless he’s walking around a garden with no fence you have nothing to complain about.

Just remember that any complaint you make will have to be declared on your future sale. Make 'em wisely!

Pretty much this. It doesn't matter whether he can be seen by kids or not - it comes down to his intent and for it to be a criminal offence police would need to prove that he intended to be seen and that he intended to cause alarm or distress. Easier to prove if he's in his garden and calling over to the neighbours/kids to pop their heads over the fence and look at him naked, nigh on impossible to prove if he's minding his own business and drawing no attention to himself and OP is taking it upon herself to look at him.

He’s not presuming to teach other people’s kids about the human body. He’s simply existing, as a human body , in his own garden. In no way does it impact or harm anyone’s kids.

Just being naked is a lawful activity it doesn’t matter if they can be seen by anyone including children.

in the city near me there is an active naturist club and you will often see people in the buff getting on with their day to day lives. Especially now the weather is nicer.

library.college.police.uk/docs/college-of-policing/C849IO118-public-nudity-aid-revised.pdf

Agreed. Pop a trellis up perhaps .

You can see him from your bedroom window, but can your children see him from their bedroom window?

If they can, I'd probably say something.

We have a neighbour who does this along with his girlfriend. If he doesn't do it in front of his young teenage daughters, then why is it ok to expose other people's kids to it or adults who may have some trauma? It is inconsiderate imo

So repulsed that you had to go and take a look!

There’s no obligation to look through the bedroom window, is there?

You just had to go and look, eh? 😂

Did you go back and check again?

He is only exposing himself to pervert neighbours who like to spy on him from their bedroom window.

The pompous, stick up arse remarks might have been mildly amusing. The passive aggressive ones aren't. Just admit that wasn't paraphrasing.