New neighbour sunbathing in the nude

[ZooHannah]

We moved in to our dream home last month, we have a corner plot with only one direct neighbour who is a (I believe) single man and has always been polite and friendly in our initial conversations.

DH looked out of our bedroom window today to see our neighbour sunbathing completely starkers. He came downstairs to tell me and I couldn’t believe it when I went upstairs and saw for myself.

I want to go round to say something however DH has told me I am being ridiculous and he is on his own property so can go what he wants.

AIBU? I appreciate neighbourly relations but I am absolutely repulsed by this.

I’d say to him ‘did you know that you’re being overlooked and we can see you’re naked in the garden.’ Is ok to be naked in his own garden as long as he’s not at a place where he’s exposing himself to others…

Can’t believe you went upstairs to have a look yourself 🫣

(This isn’t just aimed at you of course, but from my POV I thought it answers a few questions)

I’ll tell you what the problem is with that question… Yes bodies are natural, but so is sex but we’d be handcuffed and chucked in a police cell if we did the deed in front of everyone. So the whole ‘it’s natural’ argument isn’t alway valid and becomes problematic in this situation regarding - for example children….

We teach our children that their bodies are their own and they are private. It’s a way of protecting them in the wider society to not normalise being completely naked in front of strangers. We discourage the from showing anyone things that are private and vice vecer and quite right because we want to protect them.

This message becomes problematic when Dennis next door is wandering about with everything on show and little Evie’s bedroom window over looks his garden. The message that we use to try to protect our children becomes blurred, because he’s got everything out for people to see and that contradicts with the message it should be private and only for your eyes and no one else should see other people private parts etc…

If you lived in the middle of no where then there is no issue, but it becomes an issue when you know your neighbours can potentially see you. Again as explained, there will be some people getting off on the fact other people can potentially see them naked. There is no need whatsoever. Yes it’s natural but so is sex but we don’t think that’s appreciate to share.

Regarding the comment a pp made about potential abusers, she is absolutely spot on. The number of paedophiles walking amongst us is staggering so it’s certainly within the reason of possibility that the neighbour could be one.

It’s not up to anyone else for teach your child about bodies and by walking about with nothing on when you know a child could see you is sick.

I’m astounded at the ‘it’s perfectly fine’ brigade. It’s not normal, it’s weird as anything and the average man wouldn’t do it. The type of people that would will be the type that will also get a cheap thrill knowing people can see them… disgusting

That’s what the pervs will use to get away with it. Vile

Absolute drivel.

And what would the police actually do considering the guy hasn't broken the law?

Unles he’s blind, he’ll be aware that neighbours could see him from a window

The right to nudity, including naturism, is protected by law. For you to suggest these people are pervs is vile.

There is always apologists for inappropriate behaviour I suppose…

No what’s vile is having your cock out when you have children living door with their bedroom overlooking - sick 🤢

And there are always those who seek to criticise and revile those whose activities they disapprove of.

He was there first.

Yawn. Nudity among all ages is common in many European countries. I assume you think they’re all savages and deviants, and only we Brits are the civilised ones?

I’ll disapprove of anything that could be harmful to children!

So that makes it ok? Bizzare

Seeing a naked body isn’t going to harm any child.

Yes it is

How?

Seeing fellow naked human beings is not harmful to children. What an odd, puritanical viewpoint.

And they can tell her that she’s being unreasonable 😂🤣

I think there is no need full stop. If they want to get together in private crack on but not where the public can see them

He’s in his garden.

The thing is, it’s not up to you.

Why are you making unsubstantiated claims and jumping to incorrect assumptions?

There is an inherent imbalance in the law about nudity. If you're a woman, especially one who is young and/or pretty, then you could be out in public totally naked and not be attended by the police. Any argument against your dress code can be refuted as one of body-sgaming or liberation.

Totally naked women can be attended by the police. Who is advocating for women to be totally naked in public under the guise of women's liberation?

If you're a man, being naked even in your own bedroom, with the curtains not completely closed will render you liable to accusations of indecent exposure

A woman, doing the same thing, will render any man that sees her (even from their own garden) as potentially a peeping Tom.

Accusations of indecent exposure can be legally made against women and men.

It contradicts the message we use to try to protect them by saying your body is private and not for anyone else’s eyes and vice vecer. The next door neighbour walking about with everything on show makes a mockery of that message