Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

This is important because he definitely sounds like a c**t.

Not your finest moment, but these kids push people’s buttons.
He’ll get over it.

There’s a perfect way to respond and there’s a perfectly inappropriate way to respond, how about a middle ground where you don’t use insults and swear words? To a child?! Just because a child is behaving appallingly you don’t respond like that for goodness sake.

This is a Ricky Gervais sketch isn’t it? The kid calls him a pedo and he says ‘if I was a pedo, you’d be safe you fat cunt’ or something along those lines.

All those people who are shocked by the OP - what damage do you think has been done to the child by being called a fat cunt by someone he was deliberately harassing and intimidating?

He’ll be surrounded by excellent role models, I guarantee it. There’ll be adults at school modelling good behaviour all the time. He’s clearly not taking the blindest bit of notice - until an adult in the wild finally snaps, and then he runs to daddy.

He’s probably learned a valuable lesson - shit behaviour outside school may result in being called a fat cunt, or even getting a fat lip. Not everyone in life will sit you on a beanbag and offer you juice and biscuits when you’re kicking off.

Absolutely - it both depresses and amazes me that here on MN you can often count to 10 and then someone will appear to defend the totally indefensible! Why? Do they really think anti-social behaviour is OK?

Of course it's going to be the result of parental failure on some level, but in the first instance the child's bad behaviour needs to be called out and stopped. OK, OP was inappropriate, but I empathise with the anger they felt.

This is what I think.

And as for the pps saying bravo for sinking to his level and teaching him a lesson, no it won’t: it’s showing him that hitting back with insults ( and in one of the anecdotes with actual physical violence) then lying or not coming clean about it wins the day.

This thread is like high-fiving the bullies.

It’s no wonder children don’t know how to behave.

Can’t believe people are applauding adults for winning a kid’s game. You pull them up on their behaviour of course, but civilly and openly. It turns out even his dad was there - quite beyond the m and s staff. There was plenty op could have done to deal with it like an adult.

I love that your first concern is the (mis)use of inverted commas. It borders on outrage. 😁

I thought it meant "if you called my child that I'd beat you up so hard that where to go shopping would be the least of your worries"

😂🤣 fair

it sounds like you were provoked . . . It’s not an ideal way of dealing with the situation but I’d forget it, forgive yourself and move on and go to M&S during school hours.

Well he was fat and he was a cunt. I don’t think OP was too wide of the mark. In retrospect, I’m sure OP wishes she’d have gone high, not low, but it’s hard to get a reaction like this spot on.

I don’t really believe in corporal punishment and definitely not from strangers. But if said fat little cunt knew there was a thick ear at there end of this behaviour perhaps he’d just be fat rather than a fat cunt. And if he was as close and aggressive as you say, a slap or a boot off his scooter would be self-defence.

Okay … you shouldn’t have called him that … the ‘C’ word is never acceptable imo.

however… enough of this holier than thou rhetoric … you were being intimidated by a shitty boy on a electric scooter.. any woman would feel the same, no one should be treated like this and yes, the threat of harm is always present, regardless of the kids age.

The fact the father was so unable to control this little delight just shows what the future holds.

Stop beating yourself up … we’ve all got lost it in situations like this, kids need boundaries, and I’m sure to god he’ll get called a lot worse if this behaviour continues without being addressed.

What??!!

It’s not ok to verbally abuse someone/ call them abusive/ degrading names. Anyone. In any context. Let alone an adult to a child.

He could obviously do you serious injury call him whatever you like.

100% deserved it.

It might be more hurtful to him if he was.

Wow. Case in point.

The child might have reasons behind his behaviour. You have no such excuse. You should have owned up to the father about what you said as not doing so made the child look even worse than they are. Really appalling. Where do you think it came from, op?

Love that his Dad didn’t believe him, that would’ve wound him up big time 😆

Love that-it’s more acceptable to call someone a cunt rather than fat😂

I feel like saying worse to the little shits who bully my 11 year old daughter

You called a spade a spade, I wouldn't be worried about going back to M&S

It’s also not ok for a 10 year old boy to verbally belittle a woman. There was going to be no consequence from the father, and I don’t think a restorative, “it’s important to be empathic” reasoning session was going to have any effect in this situation.
OP, I’d have found myself using my elbows and the boy’s momentum to dislodge the little shit.

I don't blame you. You only need to watch the news to see how these horrendous kids end up. Intimidating and attacking people, because they have ineffectuall parents. Shame someone didn't knock the little shit off his scooter.