Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

Oh take your head out of your arse. The kid deserved it

He needed to be told. Rather by you than a person who would beat him up. I've shouted similar at kids before who are shouting abuse I think it shocks them as they don't think nice grown up ladies will talk back 😂

Yeah, that's pretty bad, but I totally get the frustration at these kids who like yi harass and intimidate people. I wouldn't give it much thought.

Maybe he'll think twice, probably not though, those little shits never do.

Surely you know the answer to this question? For goodness sake of course you’re wrong, in every possible way. Imagine how you would react if some random stranger said that to your child. Give your head a wobble and work on your anger.

Yeah, that's pretty bad, but I totally get the frustration at these kids who like yi harass and intimidate people. I wouldn't give it much thought.

Maybe he'll think twice, probably not though, those little shits never do.

This thread just made me think of this clip

I don’t understand why you didn’t ‘accidentally’ push him off the scooter, to be honest. That’s what I’d have cheerfully done.

I think you could have gotten away with calling him "little shit" but fat c#nt just sounds incongrous and quite unhinged. Write a memo to self : newt time- little shit.

first time I go to use the laughing emoji and it's gone!

I dont know, maybe she'd discipline her child? Maybe her child wouldn't go around behaving like a feral little shit trying to bully adult women in the first place?

She didn't call him that out of the blue, did she?

Theres another thread about how many of us live in shithole towns with shithole behaviour being rife.

Perhaps instead of telling normal people to make themselves smaller, be kind, stay out of the way it would be better if more of us said “ no, I’m not putting up with that shit”.

Absolutely.

That’s child and his parents sounds absolutely vile. Call him whet you want , I hate these kind of entitled little shits who want to give it out but not take it. Dont feel bad, that kid has no respect , no matters. You don’t need to have respect for people like that.

Honestly? If my child was going round insulting and intimidating people I would tell them they deserved everything they got. The op might have overreacted slightly but the kid shouldn't have been doing what he was doing in the first place and people don't always react in a perfect way to a stressful situation.

You were unreasonably bad, but it did make me laugh. I bet that kid was gobsmacked, they don't expect respectable people to act in the same manner as themselves.
You should have modelled good behaviour, I am sure you would have turned his life around, if you had said 'go away you naughty boy'.
As it was, at least you made him think!

This.

You are out if order but i can’t help laugh OP 😆 😆

I maybe would have gone with little shit or something, fat c*nt is more offensive lol but i do get where you are coming from and sometimes something just snaps and it comes out, they are intimidating and some don't actually give a shit.
The problem here was his dad, if he was 'trying' to get his 11 year old home, and if he stood there while his son verbally abused you then that explains to you the kids attitude. Unfortunately some parents don't know how to parent and let their kids do and say whatever they want.

It takes a village to raise a child. This was the village raising the child.

So when your child is behaving badly or having a tantrum you ‘discipline’ them by insulting them and swearing at them? The child undoubtedly behaved appallingly but it’s up to the adult to behave like an adult in this scenario. Her reaction will have given that child the impression that that’s how adults behave so it’s ok for him to continue.

Ah it's just a word, and one he could have avoided being called if he had behaved in a civilised manner.
The reason people, adults or kids, behave this way is because there's no concequences and because others are in a rush to defend them and blame the other person for reacting to a situation pushed on them by someone else, usually with the intent of getting a reaction and then being the poor hapless victim.
I don't rise to this sort of stuff because it pisses them off more, they want their actions to affect other people negatively and cause a reaction and it's far more impactful on them to act a bit bored with it and just carry on, they're not as important as they think they are then.
But I absolutely see why people do snap because there's only so much anyone can take, and I don't blame anyone who does.

No - I think this obnoxious boy was vile.

However, I don't think you can say so. OP - 'unsociable' is a very mild descriptor - this boy was anti-social at the least and his behaviour is really concerning. I agree that you should have said something - but not that! "Please get out of my way. Where is your adult?" would have been more appropriate, but I get that you were really riled with him.

Full marks to the dad for not sticking up for him unconditionally

Well, fat shaming is really non PC nowadays...

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Full marks to the dad for not sticking up for him unconditionally - how refreshing. But - he clearly wasn't doing his parenting right.
I normally think that minimum wage staff cannot be expected to deal with anti-social customers, but I would have thought that M & S managers are paid enough and trained enough to deal with this. What on earth was he doing on his scooter inside the store?

Of course it's not ok to call a kid that! Bloody hell.